mezarddinny:
what she means is when a man loses his job, he should help out in the house, he shouldn't just sleep and wake up in the name of he is a man.


if as a man, you make money and still cook and clean the house with your wife doing nothing, won't you complain or send her packing? that is the same with women. Nobody will be funding the home and be doing household chores at the same time and not get angry

xendra:
what bitter truth you just need to wake up

festacman:
The greatest mistake any man would make in marriage is to enter a DEPENDENCY TRAP whereby his wife becomes his PROVIDER. She will ride him like a 'janglover' and turn him into a slowpoke.

xendra:
the real truth is

when the man is providing the money, the woman is taking care of other things,
the house
the kids
organising the meals,
a whole other stuff required to run the family.

But when the woman is providing
the man does nothing.
he still expects her to do everything.

let's be honest
if a man is providing and the woman doesn't do shit in the house but wakes up and plays game till evening, will you be happy? will the whole world not hear??
the real problem is most men aren't honest and most women don't even know themselves so they agree with everything these men say

even your fellow guy go vex for you if as bachelors leaving together he has a job before you so he brings the money for food and pays the rent, yet he comes home and meets you sleeping/playing game while the house is a mess and food uncooked.

Men be truthful in your life and leave women we are not the problem.

Follow Derick Jackson and learn how to do right by your woman if you want to have a happy relationship

dake40:


I get you bro, but a responsible man would help with the cores you mentioned (I already quoted that)..... Trust me, That doesn't stop some wives from looking down on their husbands lowering them to the level of slaves.... That's what I'm trying to express. Feeding him for just 5 days shoudnt warrant that..... I have seen many cases, reason I replied her that way.....

Paul is very correct.... Just pray you don't go broke.

IamgratefulLord:

Not all women. I'm a living witness.

IamgratefulLord:

My dear, sometimes I feel so sorry for my husband. Doing so much for my family is even a privilege from God. I sometimes feel,if I wasn't married to my husband he wouldn't have been married by now and also have anything.

festacman:


From my observations, if a man who is an introvert and is wired to work in office lacked the qualifications or opportunities to fulfil this calling, he will struggle to hustle in the street to earn a living or grow a personal business. Your lucky husband may belong to this category. Anyway, keep to the vow and love him but help him by motivating him to be productive.

IamgratefulLord:

He is a qualified lawyer. He's worked all his life in two law firms. They used him like tissue paper and gave him peanuts.
By His grace, He just started his own law firm late last year with a close friend in Abuja. It's a joint partner ship.
I pray God favour his new project.

festacman:


First, I hope you read the partnership agreement to make sure he is not going to be used and dumped. Second, encourage him not to be a SLEEPING PARTNER so that his partner won't ride on their joint resources to built his personal clientele.

Private law practice is not a walk in the park for person who doesn't have connections and contacts to secure retainerships that guarantee cash flow while he develop reputation for services and market segment he chose to specialize in.

I wish him good luck and please keep supporting and motivating him.

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!

whether she feeds her man or not, a disrespectful woman will ALWAYS be disrespectful, even if you feed her everyday! so the problem is not her talking about it, it is YOU wasting time and fooling yourself that you are with a good woman (because you feed her into being quiet)

traihit:
This has every iota of truth in it but the narrative is gradually changing...some husbands have now become gigolo with their wives' approval. But I think it has to do with how they started the relationship. If the woman has always been dependent, the day she gains financial independence is the day she starts bragging. But if they've always complemented each other financially, the husband may experience less stress when the wife has to feed him for five days.

PS: the calculations of a bachelor. I wanna read what married people have to say on this.