Dear Nairaland people.

I created this new account to vent my frustration and seek a shoulder to lean on

I am an engineering graduate in my almost mid 30s with no expereince in my field. I have applied for jobs and written several tests; from Lagos to Abuja, PH but no positive feedbacks till age was no longer on my side and test invites no longer came.

Settled for teaching job which was never my dream. Then I Came to lagos last year with my wife and 2 kids for a better prospect but things are still hard. Tried uber but still things aren't easy yet as I was only able to make lil change for myself after remitting to the owner and now corona had made the work practically impossible. Corona even made things worse for us as family; wife ought to have started in a new school she got job by now if there was no Corona but here we are.

Everyday, I cry seeing how financially handicapped I am and can't do everything I had wished I could do by now for my family.

For years now, I have never been happy because things aren't the way I planned or thought.

I have paid people to get jobs before even while I was still struggling, nothing came out of them.

I have lost money to various investments, infact there was a year we established one company HAULFAST LOGISTICS with some nairaland guys, it didnt go well till we had to sell the truck and share whatever lil money we could get back from out investment and count out losses.

I lost huge money to MMM.

I have not made an headway in my binary trading which I resorted to at least to do something for myaelf since good jobs arent forth coming.

I can't account how much I've lost in past years trying to make things work for myself to be a fulfilled man.

People have promised and failed several times.

Now, I am more depressed than ever. I am getting poorer everyday here in lagos. I am crying seeing my kids and family that I can't provide adequately for them.

Suicide is NEVER an option for me, my wife, kids, my mum and family are more than enough reasons for me to stay alive, besides I still believe I will make it one day, but I am depressed and weary at this stage of my life as I am getting older and my 2 kids are getting older also.

I am thinking of going back to my home state in osun, my mum and siblings all live there and each day, the depression makes me miss home.

Our house rent will soon expire here and no hope how to pay for another year.

Life is hard. I have always been a very strong man but my inner strength at this point can't sustain me any further.

I have prayed and fasted, I am even beginning to lose faith in divinity and God despite my strong spiritual backgrounds of my parents.

I have never done this before. I am crying typing this. I just needed to pour out my frustration with this new account and thread.

Please encourage me, wish me good luck. Tell me I will smile one day and this will be a story



I just need someone to lift me up right now.


Let Heaven smile on me and change my story.



PLEASE DON'T ABUSE ME OR CALL ME NAMES. I JUST NEEDED TO LIGHTEN MY LOAD BY CREATING THIS THREAD.

Thanks and God bless you all.

Lalasticlala, please wish me well.

Count your blessings Sir. Some wish for a quarter of all of your accomplishment. A grateful spirit, comes more blessing.

othermen:
Count your blessings Sir. Some wish for a quarter of all of your accomplishment. A grateful spirit, comes more blessing.

Thanks bro. I will be more grateful.

I thank God. Seeing my kids and family everyday is always a happiness to me though. I thank God.

UnFortunately and Fortunately you are Married.

Unfortunately because you can't just do any job for free now to gain experience.

If to day you were younger and unmarried, I wouod have advised you to find an engineering company you can work for free for, at least to gain some experience and then , jumpstart from there.

Also, at times we ourselves are the ones who have lost past opputunities we should have either used to gain experience or begin small.

Just know you might have done some things wrong at the past but have no regrets. Just make sure you do things right from now while asking God for wisdom and being more Faithful. A lot of people have similar experiences and it ended in huge testimonies.

But it starts by taking the right steps from now.

I said fortunately because you are a graduate and you are married. If your wife is industrious and you two are on good terms, why not begin something like a shop or business for her, or doesnt she have any skill?

You are in Lagos my Brother, there is surely a way to make money. Try reorganising your family andbuse everyone including your kids as a leverage.

You did not mention that you have a particular passion, skill or business in mind which is worthwhile, try to find something in which you can bloom as God leads you.

Stop bad habits too that make you spend without investing,
Get good Friends.
Live in more afordable appartments, but somewhere close to areas where there are opportunities.

Find a day Job which can alsobgive you time for other side gigs... At least you find constant income in that.

Dont live in Lagos as if you'll be here in the next ten years, invest outside of Lagos, find a small land in ogun or ondo even if quarter plot.

Have trustworthy people in ondo who can help you find small investments and manage. Like business, land, and other things that make your future a bit secure.

Lagos is a place for hustle and spending but the wise are disciplined in spending.

A lot of people are living in worse situations than you here in Lagos, I must tell you, but life still goes on for them.

Hope is not lost my Brother. Me sef I am gradually planning leaving this state.

Things will change for the better.

My greeting to your Family. It is well

If you are religious,look for Quran or Bible verses that will you cheer you up.If you are not,there are thousands of motivational and inspirational books online.Hopefully you will find your feet soon.Stay strong and keep loving your family.

incogni2o:
UnFortunately and Fortunately you are Married.

Unfortunately because you can't just do any job for free now to gain experience.

If to day you were younger and unmarried, I wouod have advised you to find an engineering company you can work for free for, at least to gain some experience and then , jumpstart from there.

Also, at times we ourselves are the ones who have lost past opputunities we should have either used to gain experience or begin small.

Just know you might have done some things wrong at the past but have no regrets. Just make sure you do things right from now while asking God for wisdom and being more Faithful. A lot of people have similar experiences and it ended in huge testimonies.

But it starts by taking the right steps from now.

I said fortunately because you are a graduate and you are married. If your wife is industrious and you two are on good terms, why not begin something like a shop or business for her, or doesnt she have any skill?

You are in Lagos my Brother, there is surely a way to make money. Try reorganising your family andbuse everyone including your kids as a leverage.

You did not mention that you have a particular passion, skill or business in mind which is worthwhile, try to find something in which you can bloom as God leads you.

Stop bad habits too that make you spend without investing,
Get good Friends.
Live in more afordable appartments, but somewhere close to areas where there are opportunities.

Find a day Job which can alsobgive you time for other side gigs... At least you find constant income in that.

Dont live in Lagos as if you'll be here in the next ten years, invest outside of Lagos, find a small land in ogun or ondo even if quarter plot.

Have trustworthy people in ondo who can help you find small investments and manage. Like business, land, and other things that make your future a bit secure.

Lagos is a place for hustle and spending but the wise are disciplined in spending.

A lot of people are living in worse situations than you here in Lagos, I must tell you, but life still goes on for them.

Hope is not lost my Brother. Me sef I am gradually planning leaving this state.

Things will change for the better.

My greeting to your Family. It is well

Thanks for the wonderful contributions.

I have thought of learning auto works but I'm limited as there are responsibilities on ground already.
My wife is a teacher but coro a hasn't made her started working.

As for staying in lagos for life, our plan is to work here and raise money and move to less expensive and stressful state and establish.

Thanks for the advice.

StubbornGENIUS:
If you are religious,look for Quran or Bible verses that will you cheer you up.If you are not,there are thousands of motivational and inspirational books online.Hopefully you will find your feet soon.Stay strong and keep loving your family.

Thanks. I'm a Christian. I will be closer to my bible than ever before. I just need something and someone to lift my spirit.

Onlyonebuhari, please I read your post on a Canada thread on FP. How can I learn that your business from you, if you don't mind? How much do I need to raise to start earning a lil please?


God bless

At this point going back home is ur best bet. Life in the city can become extremely hard for the struggling post covid-19. It will not be easy but u need that comfort zone at this moment. With rent and some other expenses aside, u have ur load lighter. Be strong. If u had come this far,u surely are strong. This is not time to quit,cos u are closer to ur breakthrough than u think. May God see u through.

Kenoxman:
At this point going back home is ur best bet. Life in the city can become extremely hard for the struggling post covid-19. It will not be easy but u need that comfort zone at this moment. With rent and some other expenses aside, u have ur load lighter. Be strong. If u had come this far,u surely are strong. This is not time to quit,cos u are closer to ur breakthrough than u think. May God see u through.

This is relieving for me.

Thanks so much. God bless you

LetHraven:


This is relieving for me.

Thanks so much. God bless you

God bless you too