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| The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by Chidosman99(op): 4:17pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
Often described as the world of men, the world today has become hostile and barely accommodating for the girl child. It has gradually yet consistently trodden on the hopes and survival of the girl child. They have been named the weaker vessels and less valuable than men. This has resulted in most girl child being hugely disadvantaged from the onset. It’s alright to say that they deserve no advantage in life because of their gender. However, it’s important to say that they at least deserve a level playing ground with their male counterpart. The intimidation and disdain of the girl child certainly did not start today. It has been a matter from the ages past; one which has been passed on from one generation to another through trends and observations. The restriction and background position given to them has become so trendy that anything on the contrary (like valuing a girl above a male) almost appears to be totally out of place. Society has now grown to become so subconsciously aware of the place she belongs to; a place where her potential is never unleashed, her values never seen and appreciated, and her worth is lost and forgotten. Although this has been comfortable and profitable for some, the trend needs to be cut short. In the past few years, voices have risen from all corners of the world in a bid to liberate the girl child from the entanglement of modern slavery she finds herself in. These voices have consistently grown strong as the years passed, assuring hope to the girl child on every given occasion. These voices are championed not just by the female gender but all who believe that the girl child deserves better. •RESULTS ACHIEVED Results have so far been achieved in this regard. Educating a girl child isn’t a big deal now than it used to be before. Being treated equally on gender basis with males has also improved. The child girl can comfortably be handed certain responsibilities that were the exclusive reservation for the male folks initially. The fight may not have been won yet, but surely significant progress has been made. In the midst of these overwhelming results, however, some areas are still a work-in-progress. A sincere reflection from the African point of view shows the fight for the liberation of the girl child is far from over. There are still issues to resolve, barriers to break, obstacles to overcome and hurdles to clear. Before we get to the ultimate goal where every girl child is given adequate respect and not looked down simply because of gender. Till that is achieved, there is no giving up in the fight. https://uptownerd./2020/07/24/the-fight-for-the-girl-child-a-worthy-cause/ 1 Like 1 Share
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| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by Goldp5988(f): 4:21pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
No giving up in the fight. 1 Like |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by Nobody: 4:31pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
Man and woman are equal in the sight of GOD but in the eyes of men we aren't.  A girl child in Africa today is not an issue but knowing your heritage should you always account for. If they have not abolish ur traditional rites then as a girl child u must abide to the heritage if found urself in another man home other than ur father. Women have their position in every areas of life as they complete most desirable task for men. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by budaatum: 4:38pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 6:32pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
The OP mentions in Africa. Let us take Nigeria as a case study. Why right is the girl child denied today? Let's start with that. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by budaatum: 6:44pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
bukatyne:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_in_Nigeria?wprov=sfla1
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| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by Chidosman99(op): 6:45pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
I think generally in Nigeria today, there is no one obvious right denied the girl child today, but the society generally still have this glass ceiling that the girl child is yet to break through, especially in the corporate world. bukatyne: 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 7:32pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
Chidosman99:The society has a glass ceiling girl children are yet to break through in the corporate world  In this Nigeria? Is there any one stopping any girl/woman from what she wants to be in the society today? 1 Like |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by xynerise: 7:40pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
@Op. You should make Nigeria a case study because when you travel outside Nigeria, women are respected (even more in some countries). This fight for the girl child is needed only in some cultures where women don't share equal rights with men. For example, in Igbo traditional, women don't share inheritance and some other rights. But talking about becoming what you want to be, no one is stopping you. Infact, some girls are the ones limiting themselves from achieving greatness. When they stop seeing themselves as weaker vessel, then no one will see them as one |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 7:52pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
budaatum:I actually went to Wikipedia and brought out the points: Child marriage: it says 43% of girls in Nigeria are married before their 18th birthday. I honestly have no comment to this. I don't know the Nigeria talked about. Female genital mutilation: This is been tackled and it is a cultural practice. FGM is fast fazing out. Girl child labour: This we know is a poverty issue and not 'rights' issue. The boy children of the female househelp is probably helping one uncle in his shop or hawking on the street. No averagely ok parent would send their child to be a help because she is female. Domestic violence: Wife beating is often looked the other way; true. So is husband abusing which is also a type of abuse. Article also says 'Traditionally, domestic violence is committed against women.' Except if they are talking of 'Physical' abuse. Abortion: I am at a loss here. Is the article lamenting lack of 'abortion rights?' Polygamy: I think it is joblessness that would make people fight against polygamy. Except we are talking child marriages. A grown woman e.g. Regina sees a married man e.g. Ned and decides to be wife number 5 and we are crying our heads off? There is only one victim in polygamy (if not initially stated or implied): the first wife. And she has the option of going to the court for a divorce if she cannot stay married to him. Prostitution: Do they want organized prostitution legalized? Education: Again, a poverty thing. I have not seen any family who can afford it stop the girl child from going to school. The only issue with education is the Federal quota system in the North designed to keep their girls from entering secondary schools. For example, a feminist meeting in Ibadan came out against polygamy and then was soundly criticized by market women, who said they supported the practice because it allowed them to pursue their trading activities and have the household looked after at the same time. The above is what happens when people don't understand the current system and carry out continuous improvement. They jump and shout change like APC. Instead of regurgitating emotional articles like the OP talking us nowhere, let us understand the current system before seeking to improve or abolish some things. Also, I like to discuss the North separately. Their issues stem from poverty, selfishness of their leaders and misunderstanding their religion. Looking at the elite Northern women, we see different trends. While Northern girls are battling child marriage and attendant ills such as lack of education, poverty, abuse, VVF etc., their brothers battle the Almanjiri system where they are treated as sub-humans hence a breeding ground for boko haram recruits amongst others. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 8:00pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
xynerise:@Bold: Hmmmmm. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by xynerise: 8:10pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
bukatyne:Yes, UK and Senegal. At least from experience |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by Chidosman99(op): 8:22pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
xynerise:Generally the African continent is an example in this regard, not just Nigeria. However, I believe that the fight has been gaining grounds over the years, and I'm certain more feats will be accomplished in the nearest future. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 9:13pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
xynerise:OK. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by budaatum: 9:15pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
bukatyne:Good you brought them out. If we improve on them all girls would be better off. Oh, and sorry, but I refuse to separate the North until the North stops being part of Nigeria. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 9:18pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
budaatum:You did not understand my post then. Most of the issues are poverty based. If you really want to solve the problems of the North, then they need to be treated separately. For optics and whinning/emotional post like the OP's, we can lump them up. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by budaatum: 9:30pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
bukatyne:I'm from Osun State. All those things you listed happen there so I do not see why I should solve the North's problem when I have the same problems down in my South. Besides, if those problems are due to poverty, and I agree it has a lot to do with though the underlying cause of financial poverty is intellectual poverty, I'd be naive to think the problems wouldn't migrate South looking for solutions like our current Fulani in the South problem. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by budaatum: 9:50pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
bukatyne:Yes. Little for her age 12 year old Kubura used to sit under a tree from 7am to 6pm making gari. Kubura has two brothers, one 14 and the other 7, who after school and ile kewu play all day. Kubura calls me every term to thank me because she can go to school for the term after I banned her custodians - her aunt and uncle, since their mother is too poor to care for her own - from making her work during school hours. They agreed so long as they are not obliged to pay her paltry ₦5000 a term fees. I hope I do not need to describe how she is being disadvantaged. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 9:54pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
budaatum: bukatyne:Do you think Kubura's guardians would send her to school if she was a boy? Is her sex the problem or the condition of her parents? When all we is a hammer, every problem begins to look like a nail. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 9:58pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
budaatum:1. I never said you should solve the problems of the North, I said you should separate it. Their issues are more complex starting from mind shift. In the South, give the parents (not guardians because that is another evil) a stable source of income and most of the problems are resolved. In the North, you have to first educate them why they should pick the job, why schooling is good etc. 2. The particular problems under discuss cannot migrate to the South; it is more than 100 years late. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by budaatum: 10:02pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
bukatyne:Yes I do. They send her brothers to school. bukatyne:Sex, I think. It makes it easier for them to justify her not going to school. bukatyne:Maybe we should look more carefully so we do not end up hammering our own thumbs. 1 Like |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by budaatum: 10:04pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
bukatyne:I would love to believe you but the number of Hausa girls who have already migrated to my own hometown just so they can go to school makes me believe otherwise. 1 Like |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by Hathor5(f): 10:05pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
As long as people are guided by the belief that women are 'the weaker vessel', must submit to a higher authority, are less logical and more emotional, should not decide about their own bodies, have an expiry date, are of less worth/importance than a male child and that their primary purpose in life must be to become a mother and wife, there is still a whole lot of work to be done because such beliefs will infect every sphere of life and limit women or at least make it harder for them to achieve more and have a better standing in the society. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 10:07pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
budaatum:Hausa girls are coming to Osun to school? Awesome. The South is providing the solution and not inheriting the problem. Your Govt would have to do capacity management, ensuring the current facilities can cater to the influx in addition to the existing kids. (now, I wish  )I am curious, who sponsors them though? Where do they stay? Who caters for them? Do their parents/guardians/husbands know where they are? |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 10:09pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
budaatum:The guardians send her brothers to school? This is a unique case. Is there a catch for them? And kudos on the good work. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by bukatyne(f): 10:21pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
xynerise:I came back to this. In Igbo cultures where don't inherit, the men forfeit the paternity rights on their kids if they did not wed their mother. Does not matter if the father is ready to co-parent or not. In Yoruba land, the father is automatically recognized as the father once he acknowledges the child. The woman (if they are still together) is accorded the rights and responsibilities of the wives in that family. Do we have obnoxious customs; yes. However, we need to look at reforming and annihilating them holistically and not in silos. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by budaatum: 10:41pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
bukatyne:We've had Hausa's in my home town from when they used to buy kolanut and stayed. Now we've become a major depot for beans, maize and millet from the North. They bring it to us, repackage and sell all over the South. State schools are free, but some do go private. And yes, their families know where they are as is found out soon as they are messed with. |
| Re: The Fight For The Girl Child; A Worthy Cause by Zabiboy: 10:50pm On Jul 24, 2020 |
OP, I would have replied you but it seems you just did copy and paste so let me not bother asking you questions bcz you dont know the SHIT you wrote up there |
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