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I have a GF very loving and caring , but she is way too stubborn, the stubbornness even leads her to making mistakes, anytime we argue she always feels that I only want her to understand my point when I am obviously just addressing the issue at hand, she doesn’t like to be scolded constructively when she goes wrong, she feels your are over dwelling on her wrong doing when you are merely just trying to drive home the point. Anytime we argue she always focuses on the things that I haven’t done for her in the past and not even making any reference to the things I have done for her. Don’t get me wrong she is a girl that has an independent mentality but I guess her expectation of me presently is beyond what she is eventually seeing in me and I am a man on a mission, I have spoken to her several times to be patient, but any time we have an argument she still falls back to this and say some hurtful piercing words. We have been together for 3 years and I am considering proposing to her mid next year, but I don’t think I can cope with stubbornness and this has been giving me concerns. What do you guys think ?

just do all her biddings and respect her

Don’t get me wrong she is a girl that has an independent mentality but I guess her expectation of me presently is beyond what she is eventually seeing in me and I am a man on a mission

Independent mentality with all these you narrated? We gat you wrong bro.

If na wetin you dey experience Now be this then dey expect worst if una marry

sureguyOG:
I have a GF very loving and caring , but she is way too stubborn, the stubbornness even leads her to making mistakes, anytime we argue she always feels that I only want her to understand my point when I am obviously just addressing the issue at hand, she doesn’t like to be scolded constructively when she goes wrong, she feels your are over dwelling on her wrong doing when you are merely just trying to drive home the point. Anytime we argue she always focuses on the things that I haven’t done for her in the past and not even making any reference to the things I have done for her. Don’t get me wrong she is a girl that has an independent mentality but I guess her expectation of me presently is beyond what she is eventually seeing in me and I am a man on a mission, I have spoken to her several times to be patient, but any time we have an argument she still falls back to this and say some hurtful piercing words. We have been together for 3 years and I am considering proposing to her mid next year, but I don’t think I can cope with stubbornness and this has been giving me concerns. What do you guys think ?

I Love D 1st Sentence Of Ur Story: I Av A Gf, Very LOVING & CARING. If Truly She Is Very LOVING & CARING, Den She Is D BEST 4 U. It Could Be Dat U Are Too Harsh On Her Or Ur Manner Of Correction Is Too Harsh On Her. I Perceive U Are An Hot-tempered Person. U Need 2 Take Things Easy. Like I Said B4, She Is D BEST 4 U.

chatinent:
Independent mentality with all these you narrated? We gat you wrong bro.

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When I mean independent mentality, she is the kind of girl that doesn’t want to depend on a man, she hustles for her money and she is industrious, but there are some expectations she is having at the moment which is not conducive for it to be met, like she wants us to go for vacations, to spoil her from time to time, surprise her with gifts, she is of the opinion that’s how girls are wired. In all these aforementioned she is ready to foot her own part of the bill she will be like let’s save up and go for vacation or she wants you to reciprocate good gestures promptly. I have explained to her we can’t be seeking immediate gratifications or comfort when we haven’t consolidated our future, that you need to deprive yourself now and invest aggressively so that you can enjoy the future in entirety but she seems not to be heeding to this school of thought. The few investments she have I was the one that pushed her to do them, she is also very thankful that if not for me her business acumen would have been zero. Presently she wants to buy a car and I have explained to her that you can’t buy a car when your investment portfolio is not very robust but she is not listening to me and if I try to enlighten her further before you know it she will go and get the item without informing you. Last month her iPhone of 140k was snatched from her, the next thing she started saving to buy iPhone of 200+k and I told her this is not the wise thing to do, before you know it she bought it without informing me, in fact I don’t like going against her opinions because she is too spontaneous. And I am someone that is very goal oriented, I am getting closer to my goal every freaking day and I am the kind of person that doesn’t relent when it comes to achieving my goals, I have told her to give me till the end of this year that come next year those expectations she have of me will be met gradually, but sometimes when the nut goes of her head she starts making reference to all these things that I have highlighted in a very hurtful way. But In totality she is a nice girl , two weeks ago she even bought a phone for my mum, the washing machine in my house she bought it, she is the kind of girl that will call you randomly and say let’s hang out and she will foot the bill, she is that nice, I just have issues with the stubbornness.

sureguyOG:
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When I mean independent mentality, she is the kind of girl that doesn’t want to depend on a man, she hustles for her money and she is industrious, but there are some expectations she is having at the moment which is not conducive for it to be met, like she wants us to go for vacations, to spoil her from time to time, surprise her with gifts, she is of the opinion that’s how girls are wired. In all these aforementioned she is ready to foot her own part of the bill she will be like let’s save up and go for vacation or she wants you to reciprocate good gestures promptly. I have explained to her we can’t be seeking immediate gratifications or comfort when we haven’t consolidated our future, that you need to deprive yourself now and invest aggressively so that you can enjoy the future in entirety but she seems not to be heeding to this school of thought. The few investments she have I was the one that pushed her to do them, she is also very thankful that if not for me her business acumen would have been zero. Presently she wants to buy a car and I have explained to her that you can’t buy a car when your investment portfolio is not very robust but she is not listening to me and if I try to enlighten her further before you know it she will go and get the item without informing you. Last month her iPhone of 140k was snatched from her, the next thing she started saving to buy iPhone of 200+k and I told her this is not the wise thing to do, before you know it she bought it without informing me, in fact I don’t like going against her opinions because she is too spontaneous. And I am someone that is very goal oriented, I am getting closer to my goal every freaking day and I am the kind of person that doesn’t relent when it comes to achieving my goals, I have told her to give me till the end of this year that come next year those expectations she have of me will be met gradually, but sometimes when the nut goes of her head she starts making reference to all these things that I have highlighted in a very hurtful way. But In totality she is a nice girl , two weeks ago she even bought a phone for my mum, the washing machine in my house she bought it, she is the kind of girl that will call you randomly and say let’s hang out and she will foot the bill, she is that nice, I just have issues with the stubbornness.

Bro, I'll simply advise you to be with sb who has a right view of handling finances, who is not stubborn and who doesn't yearn to follow the crowd.

Like someone rightly said, if she be like this when you never marry her, expect the worst when you're finally married. Use your teeth right now to count your tongue, don't be blinded by foolish love

chatinent:
Bro, I'll simply advise you to be with sb who has a right view of handling finances, who is not stubborn and who doesn't yearn to follow the crowd.

I appreciate bro, because it becoming something of so much worry to me, I am older and have more experience than her when it comes to finances and investment but when I advise her on things to do she will tell you that she is an adult, that was how she made a very wrong Forex investment with a clown during the lock down and lost 500k and she didn’t even tell me when she was making the investment, I scolded her serious that she cried and wanted to break up, I had to plead with her, but I have always tried to let her know that having someone that is vast and experienced should be seen as a plus and not a minus, I have paid my dues when it comes to entrepreneurship, I have made mistakes and learnt from my mistakes and have become tougher and experienced when it comes to business,I have always told her to learn from my mistakes that it will be foolhardiness to stumble on the same stone twice but she doesn’t listen.

Good enough you have a sense of reasoning than she does. Just be careful not to spoil or pamper her; use perception.

sureguyOG:
I appreciate bro, because it becoming something of so much worry to me, I am older and have more experience than her when it comes to finances and investment but when I advise her on things to do she will tell you that she is an adult, that was how she made a very wrong Forex investment with a clown during the lock down and lost 500k and she didn’t even tell me when she was making the investment, I scolded her serious that she cried and wanted to break up, I had to plead with her, but I have always tried to let her know that having someone that is vast and experienced should be seen as a plus and not a minus, I have paid my dues when it comes to entrepreneurship, I have made mistakes and learnt from my mistakes and have become tougher and experienced when it comes to business,I have always told her to learn from my mistakes that it will be foolhardiness to stumble on the same stone twice but she doesn’t listen.

The Lioness you cant tame when she is a Cub

Can you do that when she is fully Grown?

I read where you said she wanted to Breakup
You had to Plead with Her
You are a KinG bro
Kings don't beg
They Command Authority/Respect

Bros if your Girlfriend cant Respect now
When will she