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Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by UjuJoan2: 11:09am On Sep 13, 2020
HubertHarold:
This is going to be a long piece. I have this thing running in my mind and I need you to help me with mature advice. I have been a dumb ass broke niggar since I left UNIBEN 7 years ago. All attempt to get a good and loyal girlfriend had been abortive owing to my joblessness. Even the few ladies I dated or the few that agreed to date me, na so so bad luck I dey jam everywhere. Disappointments here and there. At times I would cry and curse the day I was born. Three years ago, I was depressed and suicidal, thank God for my mum who caught me in the kitchen when I was about leaving the world by the way of Snipper.

Everything was the same for me until August last year when I met this lady that changed my whole story. I met her on one of the escort/hookup sites that I saw here on Nairaland. She caught my attention and I decided to hook up with her with the little money I managed to save as Konji no gree make I sleep. So, I decided to offload somehow since I am not a fan of masturbation.

I don’t believe in superstition or spiritual influence but my experience with this lady changed my belief. Now, I don’t even know what to believe anymore. The first day that I bleeped with this lady, one of my uncles in Australia who I have been begging for money to start a business for several years called me and told me he has decided to make me manage one of his businesses here in Nigeria. I was very surprised. Since that day, my life has not remained the same again. Now, I have 2 classy cars, I have made a great progress in my building project here in Lagos; by the grace of God, I will be moving into my new home before the end of December this year. I have been managing my uncle’s business so well and it is growing bigger by the day, he is well impressed. Glory be to God and thanks to my girl who had been by my side all this while, giving me advice. Mind you, she is also a UNILAG Economics graduate.

Now here is my main concern. I proposed to the same girl last week and she gladly accepted my proposal. So, we intend to get married in December before moving into our new home. Unfortunately for me, my uncle saw my recent posts on Instagram and Facebook and called me to stop any arrangement to marry the lady. He said she is a cheap prostitute and that is all he would tell me about her and he is serious with it. I knew her background but I don’t know how to convince my uncle that she is now a changed girl. So, I had to confront my girl and ask her if she has ever had anything to do with him. I showed her his picture. At first, she denied ever meeting him but after much persuasion she opened up.

She told me she met him as a client who called from the same escort site. She said he flew in from Australia last year, a week before Easter celebration and he hooked up with her for a day. After a day service, he requested that she should stay for the weekend and increase the pay. So, she complied. After the weekend, he gave her the offer of being his second wife. He promised to come and see her parents before going back to Australia blab bla bla…she later told him that she does not like the idea of being a second wife because she was raised from a polygamous family. So, he felt really bad. She said she stopped picking his calls and later blocked all means he could use to contact her. After telling me all these, she said she doesn’t want any problem with my family so she would consider it as her fate. She dropped the ring I gave her and asked me to move on because she would. I have been trying to reach her since Thursday but she kept rejecting my calls and not replying my messages. As at yesterday I tried checking the site I met her and saw that she has updated her profile there. Mind you, she had deleted her account when we started getting serious. This makes me feel so bad. I am confused. I can’t even think through anymore.

Now that I know the reason why my uncle doesn’t want me to marry this lady and my uncle is coming to Nigeria in December to visit his family and entrust another business in my hand, but he is still insisting that I should never think of marrying my girl, what would you advise me to do? Please, I need your mature advice. It is not necessary that you respond if you don’t have anything reasonable to say. Thanks for your time.

A lot of girls are not "Prostitutes", but do even worse things behind closed doors. . .

Tell your uncle you know who and what she is, and it's okay with you. If he still objects, then ignore him. Who is he to point fingers anyway?
Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by GboyegaD(m): 12:47pm On Sep 13, 2020
This is a case of shago nbu go i.e. person wey dey drink beer wey dey abuse beer. So many things to consider though like her resuming back on the site is one to consider and your uncle's attitude to your decision on marrying her.
Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by jesmond3945: 1:37pm On Sep 13, 2020
HubertHarold:
This is going to be a long piece. I have this thing running in my mind and I need you to help me with mature advice. I have been a dumb ass broke niggar since I left UNIBEN 7 years ago. All attempt to get a good and loyal girlfriend had been abortive owing to my joblessness. Even the few ladies I dated or the few that agreed to date me, na so so bad luck I dey jam everywhere. Disappointments here and there. At times I would cry and curse the day I was born. Three years ago, I was depressed and suicidal, thank God for my mum who caught me in the kitchen when I was about leaving the world by the way of Snipper.

Everything was the same for me until August last year when I met this lady that changed my whole story. I met her on one of the escort/hookup sites that I saw here on Nairaland. She caught my attention and I decided to hook up with her with the little money I managed to save as Konji no gree make I sleep. So, I decided to offload somehow since I am not a fan of masturbation.

I don’t believe in superstition or spiritual influence but my experience with this lady changed my belief. Now, I don’t even know what to believe anymore. The first day that I bleeped with this lady, one of my uncles in Australia who I have been begging for money to start a business for several years called me and told me he has decided to make me manage one of his businesses here in Nigeria. I was very surprised. Since that day, my life has not remained the same again. Now, I have 2 classy cars, I have made a great progress in my building project here in Lagos; by the grace of God, I will be moving into my new home before the end of December this year. I have been managing my uncle’s business so well and it is growing bigger by the day, he is well impressed. Glory be to God and thanks to my girl who had been by my side all this while, giving me advice. Mind you, she is also a UNILAG Economics graduate.

Now here is my main concern. I proposed to the same girl last week and she gladly accepted my proposal. So, we intend to get married in December before moving into our new home. Unfortunately for me, my uncle saw my recent posts on Instagram and Facebook and called me to stop any arrangement to marry the lady. He said she is a cheap prostitute and that is all he would tell me about her and he is serious with it. I knew her background but I don’t know how to convince my uncle that she is now a changed girl. So, I had to confront my girl and ask her if she has ever had anything to do with him. I showed her his picture. At first, she denied ever meeting him but after much persuasion she opened up.

She told me she met him as a client who called from the same escort site. She said he flew in from Australia last year, a week before Easter celebration and he hooked up with her for a day. After a day service, he requested that she should stay for the weekend and increase the pay. So, she complied. After the weekend, he gave her the offer of being his second wife. He promised to come and see her parents before going back to Australia blab bla bla…she later told him that she does not like the idea of being a second wife because she was raised from a polygamous family. So, he felt really bad. She said she stopped picking his calls and later blocked all means he could use to contact her. After telling me all these, she said she doesn’t want any problem with my family so she would consider it as her fate. She dropped the ring I gave her and asked me to move on because she would. I have been trying to reach her since Thursday but she kept rejecting my calls and not replying my messages. As at yesterday I tried checking the site I met her and saw that she has updated her profile there. Mind you, she had deleted her account when we started getting serious. This makes me feel so bad. I am confused. I can’t even think through anymore.

Now that I know the reason why my uncle doesn’t want me to marry this lady and my uncle is coming to Nigeria in December to visit his family and entrust another business in my hand, but he is still insisting that I should never think of marrying my girl, what would you advise me to do? Please, I need your mature advice. It is not necessary that you respond if you don’t have anything reasonable to say. Thanks for your time.
you would bless the day you met your uncle for saving you from misery. He is a good man, if he was bad he would have not warned you.
Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by ThaThinka: 2:28pm On Sep 13, 2020
Friso:
Am a graduate too, I need job badly, Can you connect me?

You say wetin? grin
Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by baby124: 2:30pm On Sep 13, 2020
You better don’t marry her. She be ashawo wey go vacation. She don return to work dey pull night shift.
Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by ImaIma1(f): 3:51pm On Sep 13, 2020
When your uncle was going to go ahead and marry her, she wasn't a cheap prostitute right? But when it comes to you, she's cheap.

Please your uncle doesn't own your life. You should make him understand that you will go ahead with it. Let him tell the family why he is against it.

You don't need to be scared that he will strip you of the business management since you say he is impressed by the job you are doing. It is not always easy to find someone who will handle one's business well while they are away.

Do what works for you and don't let your Uncle dictate your life. As for your girlfriend, be sure that life is behind her before you go ahead. Some of these girls never really cut off from those ways.

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Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by Ishilove: 4:10pm On Sep 13, 2020
She is a premium escort and yet you were able to afford her price when you were a broke ass?

Another episode of "Things That Never Happened"

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Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by LilMissFavvy(f): 5:56pm On Sep 13, 2020
Why did she update her profile? Does it mean she is not ready to live a decent life? You claim to have a better life currently, does it mean you have not improved the life of the lady too? Isn't she employed? I would have said you should stand by her and ignore your uncle, but for her to update her profile shows she's not ready to ever live a decent life, quit the relationship, it's like pros*titution runs in her blood.
Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by DanielJones: 7:16pm On Sep 13, 2020
Ishilove:
She is a premium escort and yet you were able to afford her price when you were a broke ass?

Another episode of "Things That Never Happened"

Use your brain, him talk say him dey save...you know how much him save? Besides, you know how much the premium escorts dey charge? Na so una go dey reason like mumu. Everything na Nollywood script for una side.
Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by Ishilove: 7:18pm On Sep 13, 2020
DanielJones:


Use your brain, him talk say him dey save...you know how much him save? Besides, you know how much the premium escorts dey charge? Na so una go dey reason like mumu. Everything na Nollywood script for una side.
You dey craze. Voltron, defender of olosho fvckers, use the same energy you're displaying here to make something meaningful out of your life.
Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by Jqtyfx(m): 9:55pm On Sep 13, 2020
He may be weirded out 'cos you've both slept with her. Her dropping the ring, telling you to move on, then updating her profile on the escort site means she may not be that into you and has been looking for a way out herself, and isn't ready to give up the lifestyle either. Marry her if you want but know what you're getting yourself into.
Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by DanielJones: 11:24pm On Sep 13, 2020
Ishilove:

You dey craze. Voltron, defender of olosho fvckers, use the same energy you're displaying here to make something meaningful out of your life.

God punish you there! You are not even worthy to be my gate man. This is a faceless forum. I am sure you don't know who you are talking to. send me your account details you fool.

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Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by Ishilove: 1:05am On Sep 14, 2020
DanielJones:


[s]God punish you there! You are not even worthy to be my gate man. This is a faceless forum. I am sure you don't know who you are talking to. send me your account details you fool[/s].
Trash. It is only on Nairaland everybody is a billionaire. You are a barking dog pretending to be a lion.

See your mate here-
https://www.nairaland.com/6113074/police-search-man-painted-dog

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Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by cococandy(f): 1:40am On Sep 14, 2020
Your married uncle patronizing random internet websites for prostitutes has the nerve to call someone cheap. undecided

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Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by Liposure: 2:05am On Sep 14, 2020
I believe your uncle is only watching your back which is normal, anybody would have done the same in that situation. Anyhow sha, its up to you
Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by anonimi: 4:45am On Sep 14, 2020
Ishilove:
Trash. It is only on Nairaland everybody is a billionaire. You are a barking dog pretending to be a lion.

See your mate here-
https://www.nairaland.com/6113074/police-search-man-painted-dog


wink shocked


www.nairaland.com/attachments/11134525_screenshot20200229074744_jpegd15befcfac95626caf13dd6a66a82b40

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Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by Ishilove: 7:59am On Sep 14, 2020
anonimi:



wink shocked


www.nairaland.com/attachments/11134525_screenshot20200229074744_jpegd15befcfac95626caf13dd6a66a82b40
Don't mind the idiot. Shake body small he is already claiming to be Dangote. Armchair billionaire.

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Re: My Uncle Insists That I Shouldn’t Marry Her by DanielJones: 10:50am On Jul 16, 2021
Ishilove:

Don't mind the idiot. Shake body small he is already claiming to be Dangote. Armchair billionaire.


How dare you call someone an idiot?

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