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Good afternoon House, l did want to bring this issue and seek opinions on what to do, l have date d my present babe for close to 10 years though we have been off and on for 5 different times, the longest time was 3 years, a long the line, l had another babe and sort of continued my life, am 29 while she is 27 and a career oriented person. As l work as an operations person. This year l asked her playfully over the phone what she did like for a birthday, she mentioned a new phone and l said ok. That's weeks before her birthday. Forward to her birthday date, had financial issues due to family commitments, so l don't even have spare fund for phone, l thought of sending money to support her to purchase phone but felt otherwise. So l spent the money in buying a very good stiletto shoe, a cake and a beautiful flower that was delivered to her home. She was so happy as she danced with her friends and all that. 2 days later she called and asked me why l asked what she wanted when l wanted to do a different surprise, got angry and ended the call. Before now, my boss promised that if we hit a Target at work, we gonna travel for vacay in Dubai and you can bring in just a person, l told her and she asked whom l wanted to go with, l said momma, and she got angry and several other money trials l put to her and she failed she could be nice but rigid, always right and you can't have a meaningful discussion without it ending in quarrel, recently, my sister had to stay with her to complete some documentation in her new work station and told me what she had as prayers, wants to settle down before my next birthday in a man's house as wife. Ain't ready now as am preparing for my masters, how do l go about This, you can bash me, meaningful advice please.

Young man don't build your destiny around woman.

It will end in tears.

Don't start what you are not ready for, women generally think for the moment. Plan your life n get settled when you deem fit.

Beware of ladies of choose between me and your mother, d nagging no be here

U might not live to tell the lesson. I come in peace !!!

Help her as a person, by inviting her for a one-on-one conversation. Point out what you have observed about her. How you feel she can be better and complementary to any man.

After this, observer her behavior and if it's unsatisfactory dump her and move on with your life.

On-again off-again relationships hardly ever work.
There's no mutual understanding in the relationship between you two.
You two are not meant for each other, regardless of the attraction you both feel
It is as simple as that!

You still have a lot to achieve at 29 and certainly, a woman should be your least worry.

Ladies like what you listed above are out to suppress one's hustle energy rather than boost it, they express contagious negativity when things ain't in their favour and I believe you are already experiencing this..... and the person whom you deemed fit is qualified for the Dubai trip is solely your business with reasons best known to you.

I mean she's not married to you yet and already in a competition with your mother... Common serve her where she belongs and face your goals

Happy Sunday

decatalyst:
Help her as a person, by inviting her for a one-on-one conversation. Point out what you have observed about her. How you feel she can be better and complementary to any man.

After this, observer her behavior and if it's unsatisfactory dump her and move on with your life.

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I have had several conversations with her,The first two days of the week are mostly meetings upon meeting for me till maybe later in the evening, even at that, l find time to call or text her, just one of those days l failed to call, hell was let loose, why l didn't call and all that, and boom, quarrel, she is in the same city as me, She hardly takes corrections, she feels her approach to things are the best .she had issues with her cousin whom she stayed with on this and has had to move out. I did think she will change but now, I don't think so, have so much entitlement mindset, she thinks dating her should is like carrying her major issues,

mariophils:
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I have had several conversations with her,The first two days of the week are mostly meetings upon meeting for me till maybe later in the evening, even at that, l find time to call or text her, just one of those days l failed to call, hell was let loose, why l didn't call and all that, and boom, quarrel, she is in the same city as me, She hardly takes corrections, she feels her approach to things are the best .she had issues with her cousin whom she stayed with on this and has had to move out. I did think she will change but now, I don't think so, have so much entitlement mindset, she thinks dating her should is like carrying her major issues,

Then, let her slide!

10 years!!!!! sir on and off

Lord of the rings fear you

you guys would definitely pull through this one


I personally cannot maintain something this toxic

[quote author=Gabe427 post=94371652]10 years!!!!! sir on and off

Lord of the rings fear you

you guys would definitely pull through this one


I personally cannot maintain something this toxic[/quote

Am thinking of ending this relationship as funny new things keep popping up,

[quote author=mariophils post=94371789][/quote]sir the best thing you've have is your not yet married a broken heart and relationship is better than a broken marriage.

it better you all iron it out now than for you to believe it would sort itself out later

stop looking for what u know isn't there simply because u wish it was there...

10 decades!!!!! sir on and off Lord of the earrings fear you you fellas would definitely pull through this two I personally cannot maintain anything this toxins

Congratulations

ezeudo97817:
10 decades!!!!! sir on and off Lord of the earrings fear you you fellas would definitely pull through this two I personally cannot maintain anything this toxins

10 decades!!! u mean 100 years

Relationship management everywhere! If it's not working,then I'm off!! You guys will see all the red flags,and still feign ignorance. Do what you will do! You go bear the repercussions.

Relationship management everywhere! If it's not working,then I'm off!! You guys will see all the red flags,and still feign ignorance. Do what you will do! You go bear the repercussions.