₦airaland Forum

CYBERWEAVER:
I am currently planning to get married. I’ve been with my babe for about a year now.

After several consultations, we agreed on a wedding budget of about 3 million Naira.

But I keep asking myself one very honest question: how do I commit that kind of money to someone who hasn’t really shown the same level of effort back, even in something as small as 5k, despite earning a little?


Asin, I never smell her 5k since we started dating.


At this point, it’s not even about the money anymore. It’s about intention, balance, and simple acts of kindness.

Even on my birthday, I didn’t receive a gift from her, and that stayed with me more than I expected.

I’ve never had to deliberately test her money, because genuine care and small acts of giving usually show themselves naturally over time.

To be clear, I’ve been carrying most of the financial weight in this relationship, and there’s hardly anything tangible she has ever done for herself without at least my 50% contribution since we met.

I don’t complain, but I also don’t want to ignore what I’m seeing.

As a responsible man, I’m trying to be honest with myself before I take a step I can’t easily undo.

So I want to ask people who are married or have real experience: if I go ahead and marry in a relationship where this is the current dynamic, what should I realistically expect in marriage?

I’m not trying to assume the worst, but I also believe experience speaks louder than hope.

Mr man better don't marry her.....just bang her and throw her back to where she belong

Nigerian ladies are not wife materials they are selfish and don't care about you ...they only love themselves

Iredeemable...this one is gone damaged totally

You see this country we are very evil to our selves why would a reasonable person Impersonate another person just to fraud poor people ..

World power how ....day dreamer

airsaylongcome:
I don’t get. Are you saying Nigerians scamming Nigerians is bad? How about Nigerians scamming Americans? Or Brits? Or Germans?

Sense de ur brain so....see the type question u de ask me.....the fact is say Nigerian scamming Nigerians is bad do I mean scamming other national is good

We are very wicked in this country imagine scamming ur fellow por Nigerians online ...shame to this country ...

And some yeye people de support APC and tinubu just because they are benefiting yeye people ..look let me tell u guys Nigeria is a disgrace of a country take it the whole world is laughing at us

Edo state another yeye place ...very useless state

I have their shares and their dividends yearly is very cool am waiting for this year own to hit my bank acc

Na here all those kidnappers go take finish nigerians they will take this route as their base

God bless america....and some editor here will say America is falling

The cost of those satellite will buy up the whole Africa lol

Wotowotoman:
Make oga Poweredcom no catch this one for Empire o

She is still a hoe....I don't trust all dese type of gals pretending to be bporn again

Finally they find a way to give it to moreocco just imagine

I don't even know what people see in that okpa ..so tasteless

Someone don punch oga nose for cell