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RedGal

Please forget what everyone is saying.

Two things are involved : he is either a scam or he is really genuine.

The country is bad enough and everyone wants to escape but that does not make him a bad person.

You can also visit Nigeria, stop at Lagos or Abuja or even go to Ghana to neutrality.

The media media has not been fair to is.

I want you to become decisive, you need to know his person, tell him to scan his credentials to you: ID, University degrees and supporting documents even passport page.

You need to know he is genuine. Go to his cousins girlfriend and ask questions.

Let me tell you a truth, most African men in his shoes too, no matter how much they love you, using you as an opportunity to get to America will be a priority.

Heay truly love but put him through hoops.

Am eager to help too.
You can send a A PM.

Note: Am also from Benin city

Is email request what you mean by PM? I will send you an email request. Thanks

dingbang:
Deetus here is your answer..

He always puts up claims.. Nothing he has ever done. From one obvious scam claim to another..


Abeg I am tired.


Redgal please in your own best interest, I advise you abrupt every communication you have with him and move on.

Thanks for your input.

Nina4u:
u know u can get married in naija.. Just make sure he ain't got a traditional wife lol so why don't you pay for your visa and your ticket and go.. Can u stay in his place or does he have exuses that light don't work and its hot? Better security in a hotel? Well thats also bad exuses.. Cause they got generator and its cheeper for u to buy gas than to stay in a hotel... #JussSayin

So you're advising me to go by myself to visit him in Nigeria He did say he could advise me about what hotel to use that's not so costly. I'm a bit skeptical honestly.

Nina4u:
http://www.ustraveldocs.com/ng/ng-niv-visaapply.asp

I was questioning the $200 dollars but he said that's what it cost. The price went up. Something about the paper they process passport with. I was skeptical too.

AHCB:
Seen and noted.

If you really feel for the guy and you know you can afford the money, help him with half of it. That is, after he's sent you his voters ID/National ID card (these can't be forged, unlike drivers licence) his Facebook ID. Photocopies of his NYSC discharge certificate, university certificate, his house address and a picture of him and his family.

If he gives you an excuse for any of the mentioned, then he isn't legit.

Ok I'll consider this. It's not easy parting with $1000 US though Lol

KosiGee:
You don't need such an amount of money to process US visa. Go to the US consul website and inquire. An agent wouldn't do much for him. They are scammers. The said agent would probably enclose same documents he got from him, send it to the US embassy. If it works out, he would demand more money from him.

He can do all that himself. He doesn't need a third party to do it for him. Check US embassy website for their requirements, he should do the same. The only problem would be proof that you've met him.

@KosiGee
That's why he wants me to visit him in Nigeria. So I can meet him and we take pictures together so he could have it to present to the embassy when he applies. He said it would be easier that way. He also said by then we probably won't need an agent after I visit Nigeria.

dingbang:
she didn't state it in her statement if he applied for visa and got denied. Let us ask redgal if he ever made any move singlehandedly.


Redgal. Did he at any time apply for visa on the grounds to come and see you and was denied ?

No he hasn't. He claims his cousin tried but was denied so that's his excuse.

KosiGee:
She should never give him money at any stage. Wtf. Is she his meal ticket?
A serious man should hustle legit and foot his bills.
If he is frustrated with Nigeria, he has an opportunity to flee but he is ruining it with his suspicious demands.

His cousin is in the US, why couldn't she help him?

I'll be honest I gave him $200 U.S. dollars so far to renew his passport and when he got it renewed he showed me it on video camera. But at this stage I feel wary about sending more money. I really don't want to.

KosiGee:
I don't believe that he is. He shouldn't be demanding money from a foreigner he hasn't met in real life.
Can't his cousin in the US help him with the money?
Why does he need an 'agent'? He doesn't need an agent if he has genuine reason to travel.

If the woman is worried about her safety, I wouldn't advice her to make the trip.

His cousin isn't in America yet. The cousin's fiancee is in America and she is processing the U.S. visa for him( the cousin) to come here. They got engaged when she visited Nigeria earlier this year. From my understanding too she is the one paying the $2000 dollars for the cousin to come here. My friend says she is paying $500 dollars every month till she pays it off. That is the only thing holding up his cousin from being here now. But once she pays it off he should be here in the next few months he says.

AHCB:
Can I see the link to the post? Should be a thread, by the looks of it.

Here it is. I recently posted there too seeking advice : https://www.nairaland.com/13194/american-women-marry-nigerian-men/1

ChibuzoIkenna:
This is deep. It could be on either sides both more on the parts of insincerity.
I live in the DMV. Am Nigerian i know about the struggle of Africans but ill rather thread cautions in offering my advice.
If it would be of any help, PM me lets talk .

@Chibuzolkenna I sent an email request to you.

AHCB:
Redgal! You registered today, just a couple of hours ago. Might I ask how you came about this site, that is if you're not an alternate trying to dish out stories for Front Page.

I can help if your answers are satisfactory...

I told a friend of mine about my dilemma and he sent me a link to a posting on this site about American women married to Nigerian men. He thinks I might be in a romance scam.

gayman99:
But that does not mean there are no good Nigerians. A good Nigerian will hardly discuss anything love. He will most often times be highly appreciative of your friendship with him and will want to preserve it.

So when you see some usual demands, please run ASAP.

I hear you. Thanks for your input.

IamKashyBaby:
Well, may i ask you...where in Nigeria he reside?
I dont know about their loan scheme down there but i guess, he just want you to spend every single dime which is very unfair.

Have u met his cousin's gf or have u talk to her? If not, Why not ask him her number so u can discuss with her about travelling..

Always, play on the safe side..

@IamKashyBaby
He is from Benin City part of Nigeria. I have spoken to his Cousin's girlfriend a few times by phone. She said she enjoyed it when she travelled to Nigeria and its not like how the media makes it out to be. She put her faith in her boyfriend. They carried her around there and so on. Although it worked out for her I'm still cautious about travelling over there by myself. I would be putting my safety in his hands. Initially when she travelled there earlier this year she was hoping I would travel with her but I wasn't able to at that time. Sometimes I feel he is genuine but I don't like the part of having to come up with that amount of money to give him. As it is I have bills and other responsibilities here.

Nina4u:
wait wait wait.. You should cut him off on WhatsApp already... Its first of all a love scam and he ain't gonna use that money to aply for visa... Hes gonna use it on his gf and side chick to pretend he b biggi man.. Visa cost 160-260 dollar depending on what kind of visa as u can see on the screen shot.. so hes lying. I got Nigerian friends I had for many years and I can tell u a hole bunch of stuff.. I know almost anything about these men.. Culture politics food.. Traditions.. Many Nigerian men marry foren ladies to get a visa and then go back and marry a traditional wife. Since that is recognised by the Nigerian goverment and the wife abroad has no idea. Anyways he what I understand ask u of 2000 dollar.. That to me shows he has no intention of wanting to be with you he is a yahoo love scammer.. And ur the maga the payout ..ask me anything.. I'm from Sweden but live in Las Vegas NV. When it comes to traveling to naija.. U got to have plan A plan B.. Plan C... Lots of crimes and kidnappings and cult killings for black magic and rituals.. 15 american was kidnapped last year alone.. No lives were taken but big money payout.. The police is almost non existent and u seldome get help if a crime is commited aka rape or armed robbery.. Ask me anything.. I will answer

@Nina4U
Thank you. I would be cautious to travel within the U.S. much less a country I have never been to. I also showed him that site you sent in the screenshot but he said you can't believe everything on the internet. He said its not easy to get a Visa to the U.S. through that way. He says you have to pay money to an agent to get it expedited. He says Nigeria is corrupt. What does your Nigerian friends say. Is it really that hard to get a Visa to the U.S. or even a visiting visa to the U.K.?

Victornezzar:
Lolzz
Hope u know dat guy is a scammer
dis are mostly deir words.....hope u take d advice dey are giving u here cos most people would just open threads seeking for advice but would later go deir own way

Thanks for your advice. I appreciate it.

IamKashyBaby:
Juz be careful of scammers & fraudsters...they are everywhere waiting for their prey..

If i were u, let him process his VISA if he really wanted to go to America and maybe u can shoulder his plane tickets.. i think that wud be fair..

@IamKashyBaby
Thanks for your advice. I appreciate it. I'm cautious about the whole matter. He has an excuse for anything. He said he can't ask family members to lend him the money because they don't have it like that. When I asked him about borrowing a loan he said they don't really give loans like that there unless you are using it for house payment. He also knows a lady here in the U S who is currently engaged to his cousin and she travelled to Nigeria by herself so he is saying why can't I do the same. I have spoken to her a few times and she said at first some of her family members were against her travelling to meet his cousin but now they all get along with his cousin and want to visit Nigeria. She's in the process of helping his cousin get the U.S. Visa. My feeling is he wants to get to the U.S. but I'm not 100 % sure about how sincere he is in his feelings for me.

Hi I'm a black woman living in America. I met a Nigerian man online on a dating site. I don't usually do long distance relationship not even in the U.S. but I decided to exchange numbers with this man and we communicate mainly through What's App. I have been communicating with him for about 9 months now. He professed his love for me early. Which I was suspicious about but after talking to him for a while I believe he is probably genuine. He wants me to come over to Nigeria to visit him. He said it would be easy that way for me to come over to meet him and his family. Then when I go back it would be easy for him to get to the U.S. so he can be with me. He said he's not using me to get papers he genuinely loves me he says. I don't feel comfortable travelling to Nigeria by myself and having to rely on him for safety. I have asked him instead of me meeting him there maybe we could meet in a neutral country in Europe and a family member would go with me. He said its not easy to get a visiting visa to Europe. Is this true? He also says Nigeria is very corrupt and you have to pay a good amount of money to get Visa processed. Also he asked me to help him to get $2000 U.S. to pay the agent who will be working on him getting visa to U.S. I told him I might consider paying a part of that but he would have to come up with the rest. I wanted to test his sincerity. I'm asking anyone with good insight for their advice on this situation. Would you advise me to travel to Nigeria as a woman who doesn't know anyone except this man in that country? I'm a little apprehensive but at the same time I would like to meet him. Also do you think its wise for me to help him with the money for the visa? He said any money I lend him he will work hard to pay me back once he gets to the U.S.A. He said he recently lost his job and has little money.

profland:
Na their way na

@profland why do you say no? I'm just curious why?

@Profland Why do you say no. Just curious?

Hi I'm an woman living in America. I met a Nigerian man online on a dating site. I don't usually do long distance relationship not even in the U.S. but I decided to exchange numbers with this man and we communicate mainly through What's App. I have been communicating with him for about 9 months now. He professed his love for me early. Which I was suspicious about but after talking to him for a while I believe he is probably genuine. He wants me to come over to Nigeria to visit him. He said it would be easy that way for me to come over to meet him and his family. Then when I go back it would be easy for him to get to the U.S. so he can be with me. He said he's not using me to get papers he genuinely loves me he says. I don't feel comfortable travelling to Nigeria by myself and having to rely on him for safety. I have asked him instead of me meeting him there maybe we could meet in a neutral country in Europe and a family member would go with me. He said its not easy to get a visiting visa to Europe. Is this true? He also says Nigeria is very corrupt and you have to pay a good amount of money to get Visa processed. Also he asked me to help him to get $2000 U.S. to pay the agent who will be working on him getting visa to U.S. I told him I might consider paying a part of that but he would have to come up with the rest. I wanted to test his sincerity. I'm asking anyone with good insight for their advice on this situation. Would you advise me to travel to Nigeria as a woman who doesn't know anyone except this man in that country? I'm a little apprehensive but at the same time I would like to meet him. Also do you think its wise for me to help him with the money for the visa? He said any money I lend him he will work hard to pay me back once he gets to the U.S.A. He said he recently lost his job and has little money.