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SexyStrawberry:
I understand just where u are coming from, people think differently, so its best u accommodate people's point of view, everything must not come from ur angle, let's put it this way, u take ur business proposal to a company knowing fully well that u don't have all the necessary requirement that the company needs, but u try anyways to see weda ur luck will shine or not, den when the manager sees u, what do u expect him to ask u? how are u Mr. Paul ? how is ur wife and kids? have they eaten this morning ? how are u coping with ur family? hope the traffic wasn't much on ur way down here to d office?
Is that the volumes ur talking about?
Wouldn't u first be examined before any form of cordial relationship begins?
Look, if u see me in person, I am a super social person that people even[b] at my place of work[/b] ask me if I ever get angry coz there is no time u won't ever see a smile on my face, but I hate beating around the bush, am a straight forward person, anyone who can't handle that can move to d next person available.

Me needs a Job o

na true now

Ladies

ItsMrjoking:
Add her pin 5697018A

why should we add her?

bukunmiii:
Am blessing am in Lagos I just need a serious person to be with. U can add me up ...5697018A

what's your definition of a serious guy?

he don break fast already even without eating yet!

glamor:
Hey ladies,i need female friends mostly in abuja 2AF28292.pls add me up

And male friend will add u also

rip in advance to them

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dickrider:
ok. send me ur pin

should I send mine too?

what you have for your colleague is Lust and infatuation, and it will soon be dawn on you!

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igwemoagbo:
Biko..this guy neva still get girlfriend? he has been on this post months nw..and still posting...girls this aint fair now....hook the brother up

Lol.

MarvellousGod:
Now I see the reason why the girl dey 'para'.. Age isn't on her side.. Well, the income is small shaa but it depends on the standard of living they want to command.... Some couples survive on income less than 50k... Some started so small but now making it big.. it depends on both of you. . The gal is willing to start small too so.....

But then, it will be so hard shaaa surviving on about 50k..

So when does the guy think he will have enough money to settle down?

he is working as a contract staff, more or less like an apprentice with a promise of been staffed sometimes next year, probably before or after August, then his income will increase.
he is actually hoping to get another job before then, because the promise of been made a staff is not so reliable.

Yadoctora:
They can get married and delay child bearing

thanks, I actually suggested this to the guy but the lady doesn't want this, she was actually scared that what if it really turned out to be delayed when they are now ready??

MarvellousGod:
ohh, better. . Thought he gave her a ring 6 years ago..

Well, they both have a point. . The girl is scared of losing him after 6years, then the guy isn't financially buoyant which is understandable because he may not be able to deal with the financial burden that comes with marriage. .

But then I have a few questions to ask:
How old is the girl?
Does she work?
Does the guy have a house?

They are both in their late 20s, and resides in different states, the girl works and receive almost the same salary as the guy.
a house? he lives in just a single self contain.

MarvellousGod:
She has been your fiancee for 6years ??

Smiles, yes 6 years, the relationship started when they were in 100L.

GoldenDr:
Most a times I tell guys if you know your income would not be enough to carry yourself and another person... Forget about girls(I maybe wrong but am very pragmatic person).
Oga I know wet in I go advise maybe Aunties and experienced uncles would do justice. Economy is not smiling so also are girls not smiling.

Yes, but one has to take a decision, however, at this time, the person involve is at a crossroad, he wants to wait for a better job, but the lady involve doesn't see the reason to,she believes they can start with whatever they have!

GoldenDr:
Please always educate them at the slightest opportunity you have. It is very crazy out there. The rate of desperation is my gosh!!!as a result of pressure from family, society, workplace and even church... Yes, church(yourl read that right. Let me drop this.

I have a friend although am older than him and he asked me about him going into marriage. And I ask him a few questions. Do you have a house? Can you feed yourself comfortable to surplus? Do you have a steady source of income? He only answered in the affirmative to the first one but was quick to tell me he would not marry in a one room accommodation because he needs privacy.

Fast forward to today... He got his girlfriend pregnant(maybe because his friends were getting married- through baby mama or pressure from the girl) she delivered through cs which cost 180k and as we speak no steady source of income, his rent is due and likely to be ejected.
My point, nobody, I repeat nobody should pressure you into getting married either out of frustration, pity or otherwise. I know God will attend to his situation.... Amen.
Marriage is not courtship or dating.. It is a serious institution and MUST be prepared emotionally, financially and psychologically before getting married and please ensure the man do the necessary thing, paying your dowry or bride price.

What advice will you give to a guy who is at almost the same position with this your friend and whom his fiance of six years courtship is putting pressure on him for them to get married NOW.
This guy's income is just a little above 28k?

Okay

Jennynkk:
MTN, ETISALAT, AND AIRTEL are all doing well except GLO is which has died a natural death. whenever I pick up my phone I heard see GLO number on it. Besides of all the networks GLO has the poorest and worst service. I cannot wish my enemy GLO.

You are wrong, to me glo is still the best! Comparing airtel to glo is like comparing gej to gmb!

cococandy:
Of course if you're not ready you can.

Let your wife visit a family planning centre and get the type of contraceptives compatible with her lifestyle and the waiting period you guys want.

Thanks!

Please I have a question! Is it advisable for newly wedded couples to delay having issues? i mean childbearing? for like 6 months or a year?
And please how can one go about that?