₦airaland Forum

duro4chang:
I will not support a situation where a lady or man refuses to be educated. If you don't go to school learn a trade. Even if you go to school,if there's a chance of learning a trade please do.
But then, what about olodo uprising?

At this stage of my life , I am very open to learning no matter the age of that individual.

That is the privilege I keep appreciating the education line I found myself. If you want to go far, you must be open minded

duro4chang:
You may be right but at the same time I can tell you that some women did not choose or even deserve to be single mothers but some wicked men made them to be. Being uneducated also may not be her making but I can only blame her for refusing to go back to school even when the man told her to.

You see your last statement. It is the reason why I don't advice girls/women. They never learn and never want to learn.

I also tell my wife this statement I mentioned.

In education if you are a teacher, there is something we call : learn/unlearn/ and relearn. Meaning you must embrace the changing world

duro4chang:
Just as you are married,I am married too. In all honesty, can you tell me that men too so not hide their self just as women do? Your wife get her, don't you get your own too? Be honest with yourself.
When I listen to both the husband and wife, I can then give my judgment.
There's a saying among my people that 'He who only listen to one side of the story in a dispute is a great evil'. I am very sure if the wife of the Op comes here to tell her own side of the story, you will be perplexed.

You know that woman was a single mother before OP engaged her. That history alone give a glimpse of that woman. OP can't just say the woman is uneducated, lack skills if it isn't true. If that woman is productive and resourceful,her ex would find it difficult to leave her. These are my submission

duro4chang:
Have you sat her down to hear own own defence? You are not just a I swear

I am married for your information. Women will always hide their true self until after marriage and when children start coming. Is just that some are extremely terrible than others. My wife get her own. So this your insinuation doesn't hold anything

AfDapone:
If you try this advice just go buy your grave.



If you observe Lalami self is now weak and tired from the single mother evangelism else he would have evangelized as usual.

Waaaooow. He must not be weak ooooo. He has really save and made life better for some people ooo

Tvegas:
There is no point crying over spilt milk so you have to move on. She might have used Jazz on you specifically to lock you down this is talking from personal experience. Probably the effect of the rituals have faded thats why you can see all the red flags now.There is no extent to which some desperate single mothers cant go to tie good men down. She love bombed you till you ignored all red flags. Men should be careful out there.

Let your spouse and everyone know your decision now. Reach amicable arrangement to take care of your baby. Go ahead and become successful because success might be the best form of revenge for all youve been through.

Forget. Nothing like jazz here. Na kpekus wey she dey give OP steady finish am . OP has low self esteem. Too many red flag about the woman.

nonny1212:
Broooooo.. the Red Flags were Redding, what happened to your COMMON SENSE..

Men LEARN. This is not Rocket Science, Once she is a Single Mother, RUN!!. LISTEN, It Never end Well. Single Mothers put up the best Pretence. Like their MANIPULATION Game is Top Notch. They will do anything to WIN and tie you down. They will give you Kpekus until you start KPEKUING.

The next RED FLAG is to marry a POOR SINGLE MOTHER or A POOR GIRL. This is 2026. You dont want to be that SUPER HERO. E come be ILLITERATE wey no get ambition. Who does that in 2026 na? Kai.. you go SUFFER. You Go shoulder RESPONSIBILITY till you beg GOD to have REDEMPTION on you.

Another RED FLAG, She no sabi COOK, LIKE broooo.. that's the barest minimum requirement from any Lady na. If you cannot COOK, You can never KEEP any serious Man.

I just tire for the OP. Everything about that woman was ZERO. I mean complete ZERO.

OP , I'm happy the way that woman dealt with you. If you are regular on nairaland, these signs you mentioned are always being preach here. Lalami is one person that always remind us here. So OP carry your baggages. I hate people that don't listen

geechy:
But in my observation, once you have a deformity or illness, calmness and good behaviour becomes an ally something wey genz baddies and slay queens don't relate with

Exactly . Immorality is so rampant now.

Prettychild:
She is right. Men generally don’t care, they can become brutal to a lady who gave her all to them that’s why as a lady put yourself first. If he can’t marry, then he shouldn’t have you in his bed

What you said is true but with the situation of the country right now pussycat is so cheap. That is the reality now

ExudeLoveToAll:


Instead of improving yourself and becoming a useful member of society, you continue to live in a delusional paradise, blaming others for your backwardness.

The person you are communicating with doesn't believe in that trash. He is someone who has achieved excellence in his field of endeavour. If you choose not to improve yourself, you will continue to think people are responsible for your failure.

So what makes you an authority for others to adopt your believe

GanagiBitrus:
Medically, it is unsafe to expose babies to random touches because of germs infecting their low immune system.

Spiritually, it is unsafe to expose babies to random touches because of witchcraft impartation.

This is a sensible men

ExudeLoveToAll:
Third world brain.. . Pathetic submission

Not always happy when their motives are known

ExudeLoveToAll:
Third world brain.. .

Pained by the woman's action. A member

ExudeLoveToAll:
third world brain.

A member

Caaz:
Go and ask her oga.
Your gender are her active customers.
A good percentage of your gender are LO.O.S.E

Both genders are culpable. Not every girl will do what is doing. Reason why both genders are inclusively involved in the L.O.O.S.E game

Caaz:
Fockelly...





Funny girl



She's pretty sha.

Learnt her ex husband is a pastor.

Is that so. Are you sure it is not this fuckery that separated them? But are condition is not a game. Her game is win-win for her.

Qualityoffer:
The lady you've been quoting has slept with more than 10 catholic priests. So, it's better you believe her open confession here.

My man you get am. That bold statement says it all

Danzuba:
THIS BABA BE LIKE SAY HE DANCE IN THE OLD GOOD DAYS OF "COOL AND DE GANG OR SHALAMAR"

No be lie. He rock well well when he Young

Mariangeles:
At least, he's still flexible.

One thing's for sure; he'll cross over to the side a happy man, when it is time.

Oboy. That man go still dey agile for bed oooo.

Dogalmighty17:
My issue is the persistent disregard of the provision in the child's rights act that prohibits flogging children by missionary schools in Nigeria particularly ECWA.
A lawsuit needs to be brought against such schools. No teacher has the right to flog anybody's child and any teacher that does that should be sentenced to prison and that school should be shut down.

Very soon you go train your child yourself.

I am a tutor. I know what that singular act by the government as course In schools.

I will send you a link now and tell how you will teach children who are this wayward

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DcbGQG6tPGu/?igsi=Y3p6Z3RvNWY5MTh6

Mopolchi:
Some schools instead of increasing school fees outrightly, they have smartly pushed it into book selling.

Exactly .. it is so alarming now

ColdHunter:
I fancied the Eritrean lady.

She is damn beautiful.

How did the South African lady even get into the conversation with her cheap wig and funny mouth

The Eritrean was my pick

HacheNoire:
Mrs Eritrea is beautiful!

😍

Anyways, congratulations to the winner!

Yeah. I saw her . So beautiful.

franchasng:
All sexually active humans love sex, it is mostly financial lack, psychological trauma, illness, poverty, fear of the future and survival pressure that make most people shutdown their sexual life and pretend it doesn't beckon.


That's why you see successful people engage in all manner of sexual acts, simply because their basic human needs bothering around money have been met, so next is to fulfill their emotional needs and cravens, and only a truly financially successful man can comprehend my jargons

Copy that. I get it .

Seun original no go wound you

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Why do women in high positions like doing this ? The next thing they think about is to f...

I thought these things only happens in a movie

Women are hor.ny . Higher placed women express their sexual feelings more compare when they are subordinate. Culture prevent most African women from doing this. Notwithstanding some still do it

Inside job. Wicked people everywhere.

BondRiv:
North American terrorists. An economy sustained by war.

The head of the snake must be cut off

Quelme:
Fake news just to massage the US over bloated ego.

So the news no the massage Iran propaganda IRGC blocus

henrybomb:
In this part of the world people worship their religious leaders too much it irritates me to the moon and back.

You see someone taking their child to stay with pastors or imam
Please what happened to your own house…just nonsense and lack of sense.

Imagine. That child own being kept in those religious leaders care is terrible. The maltreatment and sexual exploitation involve is unimaginable

Wahala just full this country

SmartyPants:
It's obvious that the lady was likely underaged and desired to go back home which Gumi, despite his evil tendencies, probably facilitated.

Hmmmmmm.. Gumi no want make the man destroy the innocent girl pussycat