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Men of the vigilante (Civilian Joint Task Force, JTF) have arrested a Boko Haram kingpin, Jarasu Shira in Damboa, Borno state. Shira, who was reportedly on his way to Lagos was arrested this morning at about 8.30am at a motor park, Daily Trust reports.

He was arrested along with 10 other suspected members of the sect who escorted him to Damboa to connect a vehicle to Biu enroute to Lagos. According to a source who spoke on condition of anonymity, Shira who goes by the alias Jarido is number one on the new list of wanted men by the Nigeria military and was disguised in a cowboy outfit when he was caught.

Shira is believed to be the leader of the Boko Haram militants in Damboa, Chibok and Askira Uba local government areas of Borno state. Report has it that the suspects have been handed over to military authorities in Biu, Borno state. The vigilante group is supporting the Nigerian military in the fight against Boko Haram insurgency. In a related development, a road side bomb reportedly went off today.

According to report, the bomb suspected to have been planted by members of the Boko Haram sect went off when a passing military vehicle stepped on it.

Recall that the police arrested no fewer than 150 suspected members of the Boko Haram sect on Thursday, January 14, in Ondo West local government area of Ondo state. The suspects were reportedly coming from Kebbi state and heading towards Ore town in Odigbo local government area of the state before they were arrested.

On Friday, December 4, one of the 100 suspected Boko Haram terrorists declared wanted by the Nigerian Army was been apprehended along the Borno-Adamawa border.

Source: https://www.naij.com/702768-happened-boko-haram-kingpin-way-lagos-morning.html

The Federal High Court in Abuja has ordered that Nnamdi Kanu, the leader of the Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB) be remanded in prison.

The Federal High Court also struck out six charges of treasonable felony brought against Kanu by the Department of State Services (DSS). Kanu was arraigned in court today, January 20, 2016 on treason charges and other offences bordering on his agitation for the secession of the Republic of Biafra from Nigeria.

Chuks Muoma (SAN), counsel to Kanu, in his argument said that his client should be detained in prison custody rather than the SSS. He argued that since his incarceration, his client has been kept incommunicado for three months within the confines of the SSS facility. He further prayed the court to send the accused person to prison so that his family could have access to him.

But, Mohammed Diri, counsel to the Department of State Services (DSS) in his objection said the accused person should remain under the SSS custody for security reasons. Diri also prayed the court strike out the charges against Kanu on Friday, December 18.

“We filed the first set of charges on December 18, and the second set of charges on December 23. The prosecution intend to withdraw the charges filed on December 18 and proceed with the charges filed on December 23,” Diri said.

After listening to the both of them Tsoho gave the order that Kanu be remanded in the custody of the Nigeria Prison Service, Kuje, pending his trial for treason.

Having considered all submissions and application before the court and relying on the constitution, an accused person should be remanded in prison custody, he said.
Tsoho said that all arrangement transfer of accused person and all security protocols needed should be made available by the federal government Kanu’s case was adjourned to Monday, January 25. [/b][b]
Kanu was arrested in Lagos upon his arrival from the United Kingdom. He has been granted bail by three different courts, but the DSS has continued to flout the court orders.

Source: https://www.naij.com/702452-breaking-court-overrules-fg-sends-kanu-kuje-prison.html

It all started innocently enough. He was just the nice guy who gave me a lift to work everyday.

A couple of months into my new job at Victoria Island, I realized we both lived and had jobs in the same area. I was taking my usual early morning stroll in my estate, heading to the bus stop somewhere in Oshodi, when his car stopped beside me and he offered me a lift. I recognised him immediately but he did not know who I was until a few minutes into our car journey to the Island that day.

This began the routine of him picking me up at the estate every morning and taking me to work. He sometimes picks me up from work too, if time permitted.

Soon these car rides were an opportunity to get to know each other. He told me all about his life, his job and his marriage. He explained some of the marital issues he was facing and I listened. I began having feelings for him. I fantasized about going to bed with him but I believed that this was something that was never going to happen, until one day..

He dropped me off at the office as usual, but as I was stepping out of the car, he held my hand and told me he was falling in love with me. I was surprised and just hurried out of the car in shock. I spent the whole day going back and forth on how wrong this was. I am not a terrible person. I battled with my conscience on this and concluded that I would never get in bed with him.

The next day, while dropping me off, he kissed me. A kiss which I returned. This soon became our routine.

On Valentines day, a couple of months into our car rides and kissing routine, he invited me to meet him up one Sunday evening. I did. We took a drive for about an hour until he got to a hotel. No words were said while he paid the room fee and led me to a room. We made love, it was the best sex I have ever had. Thus began our affair.

Fast forward two years, I am now married with a beautiful baby girl. My affair with the pastor has long ended, but it is an experience I will never forget.

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It is said that you cannot ever truly know a person, hence it is almost impossible to expect that you should know every little thing about your partner. But is it right to knowingly keep secrets from the person you claim to love?

A 32-year-old banker says;

” I do not think I have any secrets from my husband neither does he keep things from me. I think sharing everything with the person you are with would make your relationship even stronger and last longer.”

On the flip side, 28-year-old Paul* expresses:

“There are some things which people might want to keep from their partners. I think it depends on how big of a secret it is.”

One thing we can say from the couple of responses above is that the issue of keeping secrets depend on the kind of secrets being kept. It is safe to say that if you the thing you are hiding could one day affect your partner, then it is only fair that you bring it to the open as early as you can.

We should also consider the fact that secrets have a way of always coming out, so if you try hard to keep important things about your life hidden and your partner ends up finding out from another source someday, the feeling of betrayal could easily ruin your relationship.

Mr John Peterson*, a 65-year-old man who has been married for almost 40 years shares some of his wisdom on this issue;

“A couple who believe in the strength of their love should not find it difficult to reveal all to each other. People only keep things hidden because they are afraid of how their partner will see them or whether their love can withstand certain things. But if you truly love and trust your partner, you would have no reason to keep secrets. You will feel safe with them and trust that they would take you as you are.”

Whatever the case, whether or not to keep things from people you love is ultimately a personal decision. But remember, while there is a risk that telling all might hurt your relationship, having someone still hold you close even after sharing all things with them would only increase the bond you share. The choice is yours.


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In this part of the world, we are mostly used to women being the financial opportunists and always looking to be with men who can upgrade their financial status, but a lot of the times, men can be guilty of this too.

We can blame the situation in the evolving way of life where women are now making giant strides in their academics and also in their careers so you would be unsurprised to find that quite a lot of women are financially independent in their own right. This, in turn, would lead them to becoming victims of opportunistic men. I mean, let’s face it, who does not want to be with someone who is willing to elevate their social status (either male or female.)
Aishat, from Osun State says;

” My boyfriend is University is always fond of asking me for money at every opportunity. I have bought him countless recharge cards, paid for his internet subscriptions and even helped paid his school fees. Sometimes I am worried this is the only reason he wants to be with me but I find it difficult to say no to him.”
A 24-year-old lady from Lagos also shares her story;

” I met Daniel a year ago, earlier this year, I took him home to meet my family (my father is quite wealthy and our home makes that very obvious) and since then, he has been asking me for money constantly. I find this uncomfortable and I tried to tell him about it but he flared up and told me that I am being selfish. He insisted that he is sure my father can give me whatever I want and I should not have a problem sharing with him. He even threatened to leave me for his ex girlfriend if I continued being difficult. The relationship did not last long after this altercation.”

What happens when it is a married woman facing this struggle. Bola, talks about her experience with her husband of two years;

“I knew he was struggling financially before we got married but I loved him and that did not matter. We got married last year and things took a turn for the worst. I have a good career going and I was able to afford being the breadwinner but recently, he has completely refused to work to bring in money. Now, I do everything. I cook, clean, take care of the home, take care of our child while also working and still paying all the bills. He seems content to just sit at home playing video games and drinking with friends at nights. I tried explaining that the stress is too much, and that I would need help financially sometimes too. He promised to try harder but nothing has changed. These days, I feel used and very unsure if I want to stay in the marriage.”
From the stories above, we can gather that things get very rocky when it seems all the financial burden are on the woman. Our men still want a woman to retain their traditional roles, regardless of whether or not she shares or bears the financial responsibility. She becomes depressed and stressed out, leading the relationship to suffer.

What do you do if you have an opportunist on your hands?

Well, sometimes, things might not be as they seem. Just because a man asks for your help does not necessarily mean he is trying to use you for financial gain. If you do start to feel this way, have a heart-to-heart with him and explain how you feel. Let him know that him expecting you to solve all his financial problems makes you respect him even less. If it is decided that you should be the breadwinner because you earn more, come up with ways he can also help with taking some burden off you. If he supports and loves you, he should be willing to reach a compromise on the issue. If not, then you should know it is time to move on.

A man would feel used if a woman only wants him for what the money he can provide and the situation is even worse for women because one of the things that women respect in men is the ability to provide just like men expect their women to be able to nurture. No one partner can do both without there being serious unbalance in the relationship.

Source: http://www.naijaqueen.com