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traihit:
What a sensible analyses you've made here!
I'll call that 'Preference Bias' and it happens in the world of education too.
If a teacher sees a child and assumed that the child will be intelligent, he/she gives the child more attention, asks more questions and expects more from the child. The child notices this and adjusts accordingly.
Meanwhile, the ones that have been ignored take cue from that and also act accordingly. They assume in their head that their lives isn't to any good, they're bad etc and this will in turn make them all the negativity they've thought of.

We have a natural tendency to be biased towards something or someone instead of another and this shapes our view of them and ultimately, the results we get from them. Even our experiences on life is full of biases which eventually favours or disfavours us. It's all about being unassuming and opening one's mind. Give everyone a chance no matter who they are. I've met someone I didn't like at the first and second meeting but by the year ending, he was closest neighbor, friend and confidant. Let's give all at least two chances.

I think it's supposed to be called the Pygmalion effect

purpinkx:
The problem most humans have is seeing things in extremities, black and white, no middle ground.

[Some] Rich people [I've met] are greedy.
[The] Women [I've met] are wh°res.
[The] men [ I allow into my life] are dogs.

Etc.

We don't like to use the words in the brackets because it exposes something about us, and it makes our argument invalid.

I saw a research on coaches and training facilities.

According to the research, when a coach, for some reason, likes a player and ‘thinks’ that they can go far in life, the coach gives them more training opportunities, corrects them constructively, freely offers useful tips and tricks, as well as become interested in their progress.

The player feels encouraged and, most times, becomes successful.

However, if the coach, for some reason, doesn't like a player and ‘thinks’ they don't have what it takes to be successful, he doesn't invest( or ’waste’) his time on the player. After all, they'll be no good.

Subconsciously, the player picks up on this and behaves accordingly. A few see it for what it is, do all they can to prove the Coach wrong, and they succeed.

A real life scenario. There's this shop I usually Barb at. There are two barbers in the shop, but I like one more than the other.

Even if the barber I like makes a mistake in my hair, I still feel dope AF. But, the other barber could give me a clean hair cut, maybe even better than that of the barber I like, and I'll feel my confidence drop until the hair grows back. I even had to get the barber's number so I'll schedule a haircut with him before going to the shop.

It is what it is, we are humans and we all have biases.

Could it be that you are projecting your expectations of these people on them? Or that you're attracting what you think of?

it's called the Pygmalion effect