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Health / Re: Itching, Boil On My Joystick: How Did This Happen Please? by Yourbest(m): 5:53pm On Jun 13, 2023
Could be Genital Warts. Most likely. It's and still but takes years or months to reflect. Anyways go to the hospital. Narialand isn't a lab
Autos / Re: Toks Lexus ES350 2013 - SOLD by Yourbest(m): 9:25am On Jun 09, 2023
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Properties / Re: Almost Completed 3 Flats & 2 Bedroom In Abraka- 17m by Yourbest(m): 9:24am On Jun 09, 2023
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Autos / Re: Bought Brand New Reg Toyota Hilux 2006 (warri) - 6.3m by Yourbest(m): 10:51pm On Jun 02, 2023
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Autos / Re: Reg B7 Armoured Bulletproof Landcruiser 2016- CLOSED by Yourbest(m): 10:50pm On Jun 02, 2023
Only real B7 in Lagos
Properties / Hotel For Sale At Airport Road Warri - 300million by Yourbest(m): 5:10pm On May 31, 2023
24 Rooms
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Gym, Laundry and Security House
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Technology Market / Re: iPhone 13 & 13mini 128gb(Both locked) HP elitebook by Yourbest(m): 5:49am On May 30, 2023
12 mini SOLD
Autos / Re: Toks Hyundai Sonata 2009 - 5m| SOLD by Yourbest(m): 5:48am On May 30, 2023
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Autos / Re: Bought Brand New Reg Toyota Hilux 2006 (warri) - 6.3m by Yourbest(m): 5:48am On May 30, 2023
Hurry
Autos / Re: Bulletproof Reg Toyota Sequoia - 23m by Yourbest(m): 9:02pm On May 29, 2023
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Autos / Re: Reg Toyota Highlander 2015 - SOLD by Yourbest(m): 7:21pm On May 28, 2023
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Properties / Re: Almost Completed 3 Flats & 2 Bedroom In Abraka- 17m by Yourbest(m): 7:20pm On May 28, 2023
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Autos / Re: Toks Lexus ES350 2013 - SOLD by Yourbest(m): 7:18pm On May 28, 2023
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Technology Market / Re: iPhone 13 & 13mini 128gb(Both locked) HP elitebook by Yourbest(m): 7:17pm On May 28, 2023
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Autos / Re: Reg B7 Armoured Bulletproof Landcruiser 2016- CLOSED by Yourbest(m): 5:53pm On May 26, 2023
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Family / Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Yourbest(m): 6:47am On May 26, 2023
Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,

I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.

My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).

I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.

Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.

As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.

Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?

I await your responses, suggestions and advice.

Many thanks,

There are multiple problems here. First you’ve lost attraction for your wife in other words you done see your wife finish. Don’t disguise under the fact she didn’t match your energy initially. Now you are the cause not her. You’ve because too comfortable with her. While it’s a good thing on the other hand could be bad. A little bit of informality helps. Overfamiliarity in relationships would sometimes deceive your biology. You get erection for other women because of the anxiety you feel with them. I’d suggest you find a way to distance me yourself mentally at home and build the cravings back for your wife


Secondly you are scared. Somewhere in your mind every time you want to start you are thinking what the doctor said and suddenly you’ve forgotten the doctor was wrong because you actually don’t have low libido. If you do you wouldn’t even have or sustain erection from anybody


In summary it’s all in your mind. Work on it or let biology though.
Solution one. Conflictive ( Work on the things i mentioned above)

Solution 2 Biology (starve yourself from other ladies and masturbation, Your Adrenaline would be forced so to spike at the sight of any naked woman. Which would be your wife! In other terms. Simply put is kongi)

Solution 3: Bang at your strongest. In the morning when rod is naturally hard. Let the staff comfort her

Solution 4: Find a psychologist! They would work with you to tailor solutions best suited for you
Stop looking for the easy way out. If this is your only problem except you didn’t add other things. I suggest Stay in your marriage and make it work! Those other girls are making you think there’s sweet out there 😃 ….

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Autos / Toks Lexus ES350 2013 - SOLD by Yourbest(m): 1:44pm On May 24, 2023
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Autos / Re: Reg B7 Armoured Bulletproof Landcruiser 2016- CLOSED by Yourbest(m): 12:05pm On May 24, 2023
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Autos / Re: Bulletproof Reg Toyota Sequoia - 23m by Yourbest(m): 7:18am On May 19, 2023
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Autos / Bought Brand New Reg Toyota Hilux 2006 (warri) - 6.3m by Yourbest(m): 4:58pm On May 16, 2023
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Autos / Re: Reg B7 Armoured Bulletproof Landcruiser 2016- CLOSED by Yourbest(m): 4:54pm On May 16, 2023
Johnpaul1099:
If you agree for 70m buzz me up

Alot but not enough. If you know about bulletproof. You'd know B7 is rare. Very rare. Most expensive spec and not common

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