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ReneeNuttall:
U mean both parties involve right?

Tajbol4splend:
On us buddy

In a case where one of the duo are no longer interested. Someone has to do something to calm the situation

Tajbol4splend:
You end up with the better and stay committed to him or her

Like Renee said, you never know which would be better until you're in it

ReneeNuttall:
Truth is people sometimes hide their true identity, till after marriage. You know that u can't know everything about someone until u start cohabiting with d person.

It all depends on you to make it work

Tajbol4splend:
You know having more than one gf or bf can be of an advantage sometimes but when one is doing it for the right reason

you'd be telling yourself a lie. Staying in one relationship prepares you and makes you the committed type. you cannot stay in a committed relationship when you go about double dating

ReneeNuttall:
A lot of things contributes to the reasons why people have disputes during early stage of marriage, and if not properly handled can lead to divorce, Let me use my next flat neighbor as an example.
While they were courting, the guy was resident in Benin,while the lady was in Lagos,so it was a once in a while visiting thingy and mostly a social media relationship, then finally they agreed to settle down which they did.
few months after cohabiting ,they starting quarrelling, from quarrelling to ,constant fights ,the lady has made several attempts to pack out of the house and even d guy said he's fed up too.
This is due to d fact that, during courtship, they thought they understood themselves,which they never did,now she has found out that her hubby smokes,likes hanging out with single guys,a die hard football freak,always stuck to his phone and womanizes according to her.Meanwhile the guy says she's too Nagy and loud,she can't cook,she's lazy, always policing him etc,These are stuffs they never divulged, during courtship.

I have seen couples who courted for 10years only to get married and break up months later. There are alot of responsibilities that come with getting married that most new couples will have a hard time facing

Tajbol4splend:
Absolutely you right

lots of people cannot stay in a long committed relationship with just one person. that is why we have so many breakups.

Young03:
thanks, i took pills thats why

Are you on drugs?

Young03:
For him mind he's just making sense, multivating the ladies

mr uche, go n die

mtcheew

motivating

They say not the lack of love but the lack of friendship makes marriages unhappy.

You could choose to not read them if you want.