Is it safe to visit a friend(of opposite sex) alone. Honest response needed

give the full gist. u already sound like u have a plan to do him

shaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaappppppppppppp you. before nko, what do you have in mind before presenting this rubbish question experience is the best answer. i concur you to embark on the visit and come back here to give us the situation report. hisses

nope, i visited him once alone. And i had a feeling a chemistry was arising btw both of us, i don't wanna give in to the chemistry coz i know nothing will definately come out of it. A day after he asked me to come and stay overnight. Hell no, can't do that. Anywayz, we are meant to see each other at some point next week. I'm just quite confused if it's really worth my time. Coz we're only friends. I'm really scared coz i don't want a situation that will lead to sex. I don't want that. I'm very determined wen it comes to self control but i dunno how much self control d guy has,

u will certainly end up in his bed with this kind of mentality

so you mean to tell us that you are friends with a rapist?

If you say no then no is no unless he is going to rape you.

So it is only as safe as you know that he is not a rapist.

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shaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaappppppppppppp you. before nko, what do you have in mind before presenting this rubbish question experience is the best answer. i concur you to embark on the visit and come back here to give us the situation report. hisses

oi u don't need to b rude! i have just posted an honest question. Btw, i only want to visit coz he's my friend, no other motive.

he's not a rapist , lol

@poster
it all depends on your mind set,if you know u will give in to sex i would advice you dont go but if you can overcome the temptation then no fear.

she's just come up here to announce she's gonna get laid and she's considering whether or not to allow it.  I mean, doesn't make sense,  init

busygirl:

nope, i visited him once alone. And i had a feeling a chemistry was arising btw both of us, i don't wanna give in to the chemistry coz i know nothing will definately come out of it. A day after he asked me to come and stay overnight. Hell no, can't do that. Anywayz, we are meant to see each other at some point next week. I'm just quite confused if it's really worth my time. Coz we're only friends. I'm really scared coz i don't want a situation that will lead to sex. I don't want that. I'm very determined wen it comes to self control but i dunno how much self control d guy has,

@busygirl,
There is a saying that ''You Don't Go Window Shopping With Money In Your Pocket''
Determined People succeed not because they are perfect but because the clearly identify their weaknesses and work towards overcoming/suppressing them. . .
So since you have implied that you might loose your self control if you see him, I suggest you put him at arm's lenght and avoid being caught in compromising places with him.
That way, your self Control will remain Intact.

abeg, go f**k the guy and stop confusing yourself.

@smooooooth
hmmmmmmmm??

y me:

@smooooooth
hmmmmmmmm??

y me, u try me, why me, so tell me why me. hehehe. okay on a serious note, hear the poster, she knows if she goes they will have sex, cos they feel a chemical something, and she still insist she must see him next week "alone". who she deceiving, she wants the koboko as much as the guy wants the kitten. so make she make us hear word, and go do the thing.

smooooooooth even if she wants it within her but she doesnt want to fall a victim. we all have weakness you know
lol

and if i nor try you who try you

y me:

smooooooooth even if she wants it within her but she doesnt want to fall a victim. we all have weakness you know
lol

true talk miss, thats why we are aske to flee from ''it'' but she know how weak she is, and she still wan go. how wish na my house. she for hear am.

well i tink im d guy dat shes plannin
on comin 2 see
@busygurl
abi no be me
no worry com my crib
den we go knw wetin go happen

U dey ask? ABEG GOOOO, don't starve your body ooo

@ honeric01

na gwad go save you

lol

nope, i visited him once alone. And i had a feeling a chemistry was arising btw both of us, i don't wanna give in to the chemistry coz i know nothing will definately come out of it. A day after he asked me to come and stay overnight. Hell no, can't do that. Anywayz, we are meant to see each other at some point next week. I'm just quite confused if it's really worth my time. Coz we're only friends. I'm really scared coz i don't want a situation that will lead to sex. I don't want that. I'm very determined wen it comes to self control but i dunno how much self control d guy has,

You know one problem with girls. . .

They know the right path and the wrong path; the funniest or rather the craziest part of the story is that they would seek counsel from friends, families, elderly people anyone with the ability to advice them on what path to take.

After being advised to take to right path, they would prefer to turn a deaf ear on all the advises they’ve received, take the wrong path, make a mistake later in life and then live to regret it.

@Topic.
If you’re aren’t comfortable with him and you know that he might not be able to control himself in your presence, then why would you want to visit him in the first place, why would you want to get close to him when you know deep down inside of you that nothing good can come out of that relationship why?

Hasn't it ever crossed your mind that he can rape you?

If you want to give in to sex, then go and if you want to be strong, stay out.

from my observation, i noticed that some female actually enjoyed been raped or better still they enjoy being forced to have sex . some guys will understand what i mean i.e

a lady visiting a guy alone, u've seduced him, either knowingly or not

its just like dangling a piece of bone before a dog and u want him to still keep his cool, haba its impossible

Thanks to everyone that contributed. I'M EXTREMELY GRATEFUL

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from my observation, i noticed that some female actually enjoyed been raped or better still they enjoy being forced to have sex . some guys will understand what i mean i.e

a lady visiting a guy alone, u've seduced him, either knowingly or not

its just like dangling a piece of bone before a dog and u want him to still keep his cool, haba its impossible

@ camelot, so u reckon it's not right to visit a friend of opposite sex alone even when the relationship is platonic?

There is everything wrong in visiting a guy friend alone, its just like you are giving him an INVITE!

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There is everything wrong in visiting a guy friend alone, its just like you are giving him an INVITE!

Noted, Thanks

sex on the way.

na wa for you wetin dey make you confuse you no get sisters? do you mean you can't freely relate with girls? you need deliverance

jemodan:

na wa for you wetin dey make you confuse you no get sisters? do you mean you can't freely relate with girls? you need deliverance

yes am with you

Omolola1:

There is everything wrong in visiting a guy friend alone, its just like you are giving him an INVITE!

Omolara, for the first time I beg to disagree with u, To me it doesn't matter whether u go alone or in multitude.Look @ JENIFA part 2, I think the girl should not let all her guards down and moreso she should ascertain the guy's sincerity of purpose b4 going to his house. its just like you are giving him an INVITE this is not always true.

Topic

OK!