Ok so I have this friend who I warned about dating married men and it even caused a huge disagreement between us that it affected our friendship.i told her for goodness sake you work and earn a 100k plus salary so why are you dating this man, leave the man alone.she responded with what is my buisness,am I his wife or am I related to his wife.i told her I don't care or give a f** about his wife.just leave married men alone and she refused so I had to stop friendship with her so we won't be seen as birds of a feather

Anyway fast-forward 6 months later she was served breakfast and had the audacity to come to my house to seek comfort and someone who will make her feel better but at first I told her to get lost that her private life is none of my buisness and she should go and fix herself and then I slammed the door on her.on a second thought I said let me just open the door and hear her story instead of just condemning her.so to the story

So I asked her with a more empathetic tone why were you even dating a married man, don't you love yourself or is it that you want to be a second wife and she said she didn't plan on staying with him long but she didn't know when she fell in love with him (I tried to hide my disgust because I was really getting irritated) that she just wanted a companion because she was bored so she said the guy will come around and nack and each time she is broke and asks for money,he will be posting her with I will send it and eventually not send it and when she confronts him it's always no vex my phone had issues,no vex,I just paid my son's school fees.just basically posting her.Then on her birthday on march 22nd he couldn't even call to wish her a happy birthday and when she saw him the following week she asked why he didn't wish her a happy birthday,he said she didn't tell her (then I interrupted her and said with all of this is the writing not clear enough that he doesn't give a shiit about you) then she said she was thinking he will change.when he now asked her to send her account details he sent 12thousand.i shook my head in irritation

After then she said he ghosted her for another 3 weeks and when he came around he was demanding for s#x that they should meet up in a hotel then she saw it as an opportunity to go for closure.(i cut in again) and said this Guy ghosted you and came to chat you up again and you still gave him attention,he didn't give you any money he had always promised yet he still came to your house to drive you to the hotel? Meanwhile he didn't give you anything but he's ready to pay for the hotel? Wetin do your brain? At this point I was loosing my patience then she kept saying she went for closure.ok I asked what happened when you got there, she said she went to have her bath and after dressing up the guy was telling her to come to the bed.she then said she called out the guy on all the fake promises etc he made to her and he didn't fulfill any of them and at some point she said she had to walk out because she could read his body language as unbothered and indifferent.so immediately she walked out of the room he kept shouting her name to come back for them to talk that she refused.

At that point i was feeling like I should slap her and beat her up but I controlled myself and told her why can't you respect yourself.why did you have to allow a man to reduce you to this level.anyway I just shook my head and left her in the sitting room for her to rest because I found her experience annoying and avoidable because you dey do side chick to a supposed local government politician and you no still gain anything.marry he no marry you, money you no get so what's your gain

So subsequently after that day when she came to pour her heart to me and I advised her to seek healing,learn from your mistakes and move on.

The following day I was going to my own place of work,I saw this Same man again already going out with another girl in our street.i was shocked.initially I wasn't even interested in Knowing who the man is because I felt 1, neither of them is my buisness,2 na wetin she chop belleful am but this Time I was really curious like why is this man targeting young girls and preying on them so I decided to do my findings.i started making friends with the younger sister of the girl he's preying on in order to get information from that one so one day I poked her to get information from her.I said who is the owner of the car parked in front of your house,I like the car I so she said it's her elder sister's new man friend and she said he spends on her very well and helps in paying for the bills in the house.i said ok and left her.at that point I just concluded that that man is a complete predator but my confusion is why was he stingy on his old girlfriend and now spending on his new found girlfriend? I'm just curious and confused

Ndị ara.

irunoko:
■ So I asked her with a more empathetic tone why were you even dating a married man, don't you love yourself or is it that you want to be a second wife and she said she didn't plan on staying with him long but she didn't know when she fell in love with him (I tried to hide my disgust because I was really getting irritated) that she just wanted a companion because she was bored so she said the guy will come around and nack and each time she is broke and asks for money,he will be posting her with I will send it and eventually not send it and when she confronts him it's always no vex my phone had issues,no vex,I just paid my son's school fees.just basically posting her. Then on her birthday on march 22nd he couldn't even call to wish her a happy birthday and when she saw him the following week she asked why he didn't wish her a happy birthday,he said she didn't tell her (then I interrupted her and said with all of this is the writing not clear enough that he doesn't give a shiit about you) then she said she was thinking he will change.when he now asked her to send her account details he sent 12thousand.i shook my head in irritation
After then she said he ghosted her for another 3 weeks and when he came around he was demanding for s#x that they should meet up in a hotel then she saw it as an opportunity to go for closure.(i cut in again) and said this Guy ghosted you and came to chat you up again and you still gave him attention,he didn't give you any money he had always promised yet he still came to your house to drive you to the hotel? Meanwhile he didn't give you anything but he's ready to pay for the hotel? Wetin do your brain? At this point I was loosing my patience then she kept saying she went for closure.ok I asked what happened when you got there, she said she went to have her bath and after dressing up the guy was telling her to come to the bed.she then said she called out the guy on all the fake promises etc he made to her and he didn't fulfill any of them and at some point she said she had to walk out because she could read his body language as unbothered and indifferent.so immediately she walked out of the room he kept shouting her name to come back for them to talk that she refused.

Side-chicks get levels naw!

Kobojunkie:
Side-chicks get levels naw!

I don't understand what you mean.can you explain

irunoko:
■ I don't understand what you mean.can you explain

The man was just in it for the sex, it seems. I mean relationships can be like that and this even applies as far as those who date non-married people — males and females alike — experience from time to time. Sometimes you find that babe who is willing to go to the ends of the earth for you and other times, you find the one you are with would not even lift a finger if you were in need. it happens!

Kobojunkie:
The man was just in it for the sex, it seems. I mean relationships can be like that and this even applies as far as those who date non-married people — males and females alike — experience from time to time. Sometimes you find that babe who is willing to go to the ends of the earth for you and other times, you find the one you are with would not even lift a finger if you were in need. it happens!

wow.intresting.i get it.so if he was in it for casual sex how come he wasn't considerate of her own needs.How come he was stingy with her and not stingy with his new girlfriend (only God knows if that one is even saying the truth) I'm asking because I want to tutor and mentor young girls who fall prey into the hands of indecent married men. I feel a young girl should not be scarred by married men.

irunoko:
■ wow.intresting.i get it.so if he was in it for casual sex how come he wasn't considerate of her own needs.How come he was stingy with her and not stingy with his new girlfriend (only God knows if that one is even saying the truth)
■ I'm asking because I want to tutor and mentor young girls who fall prey into the hands of indecent married men. I feel a young girl should not be scarred by married men.

Has every one of your past relationships, even before marriage, been of tender loving kind?

2. Why not put that energy instead to tutoring and mentoring young boys to stop them from philandering after marriage?

Kobojunkie:
Has every one of your past relationships, even before marriage, been of tender loving kind?

2. Why not put that energy instead to tutoring and mentoring young boys to stop them from philandering after marriage?

of course,if I have the opportunity I will but why I'm particular about young girls is because those ones easily fall prey to the wicked lies they use in getting them to bed.for example,I found out that he told his New girlfriend that he's divorced and she is just another prey like any other young girl and many of the times their lies to get young girls are always

1.i don't love my wife any more
2.my wife doesn't give me sex anymore
3.i'm planning to divorce my wife soon
4.my wife nags too much.she doesn't give me peace
5.my wife use to do juju/jazz so I want to leave her
6.my wife is dirty
7.my wife is cheating on me

Etc like that.i hope you understand my point?

irunoko:
■ of course,if I have the opportunity I will but why I'm particular about young girls is because those ones easily fall prey to the wicked lies they use in getting them to bed.for example, I found out that he told his New girlfriend that he's divorced and she is just another prey like any other young girl and many of the times their lies to get young girls are always
1.i don't love my wife any more
2.my wife doesn't give me sex anymore
3.i'm planning to divorce my wife soon
4.my wife nags too much.she doesn't give me peace
5.my wife use to do juju/jazz so I want to leave her

Etc like that.i hope you understand my point?

So long as the girl in question is not underage, I see no reason why you should get yourself involved. If she is underaged, then what you can do is report the man to the authorities. Otherwise, these are mostly people engaged in the game that is relationship.

As I said earlier, if you are truly touched then you are best focusing your attention on teaching the boys why it is in their best interest to focus all of their energy on their chosen spouse. The one's tellings those lies were once boys and so if you spent more time teaching them to respect their marriages and hence themselves, you would have less of those liars out there.

Kobojunkie:
So long as the girl in question is not underage, I see no reason why you should get yourself involved. If she is underaged, then what you can do is report the man to the authorities. Otherwise, these are mostly people ENGAGED IN THE GAME that is relationship.

As I said earlier, if you are truly touched then you are best focusing your attention on teaching the boys why it is in their best interest to focus all of their energy on their chosen spouse rather than looking outside for ways to fill the hole inside of them.

lol wow.did you call relationship "GAME"? So depravity, deception and wickedness don reach this level? This àre really interesting times to be alive.

And Yes you said something like "I see no reason you should get yourself involved as long as they are adults" of course I would not have been involved if it didn't happen to my own friend (even though I warned her initially) I find deception annoying.yes she's not underaged but using deception to get into the pants of young girls is wrong on all levels.you think it's about just channelling the tutoring to the boys? Why do you think we have young girls suffering post traumatic stress disorder, promiscuity,drug abuse,anger issues, increase in abortion,STDs and baby mama culture.have you seen the number of young girls getting pregnant with men who ghosted them? They don't even know where he lives or can even Trace him to anybody or anywhere. This is not about it's the man's fault,it's the woman's fault.we are gradually having damaged girls who are already destroyed by married men even before their own Mr right gets to meet them.

Have you even gone to social media pages to see men ready to settle down and then you hear them complain that they can't find marriageable girls.theyll say they can't marry this particular lady because she has so many body counts or they found out she had an abortion or she has a baby with a man she can't even explain or she dated a married man.dont just look at the surface.look beyond that.

Which decent man will hear that the girl he wants to marry has dated a married man before and will ever take her seriously? Men that are naturally territorial.they won't even care about the circumstances surrounding her dating a married man,it will automatically become a turn off even if it happened through deceit

irunoko:
■ lol wow.did you call relationship "GAME"? So depravity, deception and wickedness don reach this level? This àre really interesting times to be alive.
■ And Yes you said something like "I see no reason you should get yourself involved as long as they are adults" of course I would not have been involved if it didn't happen to my own friend (even though I warned her initially) I find deception annoying.
■ yes she's not underaged but using deception to get into the pants of young girls is wrong on all levels.you think it's about just channelling the tutoring to the boys? Why do you think we have young girls suffering post traumatic stress disorder, promiscuity,drug abuse,anger issues, increase in abortion,STDs and baby mama culture.have you seen the number of young girls getting pregnant with men who ghosted them? They don't even know where he lives or can even Trace him to anybody or anywhere. This is not about it's the man's fault,it's the woman's fault.
■ we are gradually having damaged girls who are already destroyed by married men even before their own Mr right gets to meet them.
Have you even gone to social media pages to see men ready to settle down and then you hear them complain that they can't marry this particular lady because she has so many body counts or they found out she had an abortion or she has a baby with a man she can't even explain.dont just look at the surface. look beyond that.

1. Again, the relationship has always been a game!

2. According to you, your friend was not a victim so why use her as a reason to now get into the business of others? There are equally young boys out there with the same issues.

3. You are making it out as though these girls did not come from homes or something where they had it drilled into their heads that bedding a man without protection is a sure way to get pregnant. Many of them already know all of these things so if you wish to give a lecture to anyone, you should probably focus on their parents in this case since the damage can usually be traced back to them. They are the ones most capable of undoing the damage in the kids — both males and females

4. By the way, there are equally lots of damaged boys out there. Those men out there who go out supposedly deceiving women are themselves equally products of damage since they have no respect for themselves or even their families. So again, why not focus on them instead?

5. See, this is what I was afraid of. You are more interested in molding people, particularly these girls, to fit the ideas in your head, rather than in actually building their sense of self and confidence.

So what if a girl has a body count of say 1000? She is still a capable woman and individual. If you have a thing against her body count, then mind your fucking business and find yourself someone else who would fit your particular idea of a partner. This need people have to demean others particularly women for not looking or acting or being exactly as they prefer is a greater problem that ought to be dealt with in society and that problem stems from a general lack of respect for women by men.

So, again, focus your attention on the boys' abeg! Please leave those girls alone abeg and face your own life! They have been targetted enough.

Not normal at all. I see no reason to be stingy with side chicks.

This has to stop henceforth. Sidechicls are humans and have very impotant functions in our society. Infact, lots of marriages would have crashed without the love and hardwork of side chicks.
To all the side chicks out there, may God bless you.

irunoko:
I'm just curious and confused

Seven bulky paragraphs for YOUR FRIEND.

You are curious and confused on behalf of YOUR FRIEND.

you must be a friend in deed.

superCleanworks:


Seven bulky paragraphs for YOUR FRIEND.

You are curious and confused on behalf of YOUR FRIEND.

you must be a friend in deed.

SMH

Believe whatever you want.na you Sabi

irunoko:
lol wow.did you call relationship "GAME"? So depravity, deception and wickedness don reach this level? This àre really interesting times to be alive.

And Yes you said something like "I see no reason you should get yourself involved as long as they are adults" of course I would not have been involved if it didn't happen to my own friend (even though I warned her initially) I find deception annoying.yes she's not underaged but using deception to get into the pants of young girls is wrong on all levels.you think it's about just channelling the tutoring to the boys? Why do you think we have young girls suffering post traumatic stress disorder, promiscuity,drug abuse,anger issues, increase in abortion,STDs and baby mama culture.have you seen the number of young girls getting pregnant with men who ghosted them? They don't even know where he lives or can even Trace him to anybody or anywhere. This is not about it's the man's fault,it's the woman's fault.we are gradually having damaged girls who are already destroyed by married men even before their own Mr right gets to meet them.

Have you even gone to social media pages to see men ready to settle down and then you hear them complain that they can't find marriageable girls.theyll say they can't marry this particular lady because she has so many body counts or they found out she had an abortion or she has a baby with a man she can't even explain or she dated a married man.dont just look at the surface.look beyond that.

Which decent man will hear that the girl he wants to marry has dated a married man before and will ever take her seriously? Men that are naturally territorial.they won't even care about the circumstances surrounding her dating a married man,it will automatically become a turn off even if it happened through deceit

your type will eventually fall in love with one clownn like that. Adviser

xtivin2:

your type will eventually fall in love with one clownn like that. Adviser

every evil pronouncement,go back to your sender in Jesus name, amen.

I am not here to attack anyone nor engage in back and forth.i just want to add my own little impact to make my own environment a better place.

I know a lot of people are gradually normalizing promiscuity amongst married men and self deceit but there's nothing that can justify depravity and lack of reverence for God.moreover it's always fun and games when married men are destroying as many ignorant girls as possible till it's time for your sister to start choosing a good man or till it's time for you to look for a good woman