Good evening guys.This is will be lengthy but please bear with me
I think it's high time I share what I've been going through with you guys cause I don't know which way again.
I'm an introvert, I'm always shy this makes me feel so less and the worst part is that I'm scared of almost everything as well,this particular fear is drowning me.I don't know what to do again,I always try to read some motivational quote,they help me sometimes but it's never permanent.
I always try my best to be brave and confident but it only works for few minutes,hours, days it's never permanent.i don't know whether it's only me in this shoe but those who knows what real fear is will understand me, it's Soo hard for me to do things on my own,fear always grip me plus shyness,and what I've observed in me that cause this fear is THINKING.
I think too much, even when I don't want to think, those thought will just come to my head without control and I'll be just be thinking whatever and this is really affecting me psychologically. it's really affecting my live.i can't think straight.
I always feel less confident at home and work, when my peers are talking and gisting I'll find it very hard to join them, thinking of how to associate with them in my head.These people are not newly friends to me,yet I still find it very hard to feel free with them . It's always a bad experience for me infact it gets to a certain point when I'm shy and scared I'll be shaking and having a hot temperature as if I'm in war can you imagine
But, whenever this fear and shyness leaves me(when I'm trying to act bold it sometimes will)I feel like a normal person,I control things,I do whatever I want to do,THAT IS ALL I CRAVED FOR but it's never permanent.
I don't just know how I'm going to live my life on my own way. I'm tired of these things guys I don't know what to do again please help me.Anyhow. I'm scared as I'm typing this scared with no one or nothing pursuing you
I pray so much on this. It's been happening to me since I was small.i always think it will leave me when I grow older but now I'm 19 and it's just getting worse.It cause so much depression in me there was I time I thought of committing suicide cause I was totally fed up of everything. I'll just wake up every single day thinking of how to overcome fear while it grips me more.Being shy is normal but the scared part is what is killing me.Anybody with help pls just don't know where to face
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Hi faruq. I can relate to what you're feeling. I understand how that feels. I'm 26 now, i still feel bad a couple of times about so many things. I aint gon cap you. What I've figured out lately is that you're in control of your own life. If you don't give in to the thoughts, they've got nothing on you. The people you're afraid of, are scared themselves too. Be strong bro. God's gat ur back.

You're totally normal bro. Stop the fidgeting. There are tons of people like you and I out there. It's only left for you to embrace your personality, who you are, and see how the world starts accepting you for you.

If you feel the need to talk to me, you could PM me. Stay blessed bro.

Themeekanalyst:
Hi faruq. I can relate to what you're feeling. I understand how that feels. I'm 26 now, i still feel bad a couple of times about so many things. I aint gon cap you. What I've figured out lately is that you're in control of your own life. If you don't give in to the thoughts, they've got nothing on you. The people you're afraid of, are scared themselves too. Be strong bro. God's gat ur back.

You're totally normal bro. Stop the fidgeting. There are tons of people like you and I out there. It's only left for you to embrace your personality, who you are, and see how the world starts accepting you for you.

If you feel the need to talk to me, you could PM me. Stay blessed bro.

Thanks bro.i really appreciate this, I'm just fed up of everything by accepting me for me, like when I know I have a particular thing to learn in shop and I'm supposed to go there and ask my boss and ask him questions about that thing but my fear will just hold me so tight that I won't be able to say anything.how about that?so I always think what I need is courage and that's why I don't like to accept myself for myself and whenever I try being courageous it doesn't last .I will still be scared and I will still blame myself

I totally get you brother, I've been in such instances a couple of times too. You'd get better, just understand how to channel that little energy you have whenever it comes.

Hmm, I guess you are an introvert. When you want to embark on any stuff at all, never second guess or start to think about it. Just do it. Cos the moment you second guess urself there is every likely hood for you to draw back or disengage. Try to come out of your shell "some" times, most especially when you are in a social gathering. Learn not to give a hoot about what people are saying cos they will always talk. Just do your thing.
Also try to engage in doing exercises like weight lifting. It helps a lot. The dopamine effect. It boosts one's self esteem and confidence. You are still young, don't pile up unnecessary pressure on your self.

Ninejaywon:
Hmm, I guess you are an introvert. When you want to embark on any stuff at all, never second guess or start to think about it. Just do it. Cos the moment you second guess urself there is every likely hood for you to draw back or disengage. Try to come out of your shell "some" times, most especially when you are in a social gathering. Learn not to give a hoot about what people are saying cos they will always talk. Just do your thing.
Also try to engage in doing exercises like weight lifting. It helps a lot. The dopamine effect. It boosts one's self esteem and confidence. You are still young, don't pile up unnecessary pressure on your self.

thanks, I really appreciate this

Well, I thought I was the only one on this table, I think it all have to do with our upbringing and whether we received enough love from our parents when were still kids.... If you have judgemental parents then there is a likelihood for such feelings. And you will like you aren't enough

FaruqMadridCr7:
thanks, I really appreciate this

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Do u suffer from speech defects like being a stutterer?

Do u feel insecure about any part of your body..??

There is this source of insecurity. Try and identify it and tackle it.

Exercises help a lot too.

Ask For The HolySpirit

Once The HolySpirit Enters You, You Will Become BOLD.

MrHealth:
Ask For The HolySpirit

Once The HolySpirit Enters You, You Will Become BOLD.

ok

RisenJoe:
Well, I thought I was the only one on this table, I think it all have to do with our upbringing and whether we received enough love from our parents when were still kids.... If you have judgemental parents then there is a likelihood for such feelings. And you will like you aren't enough

hmmm

Growing up affects us alot, being bullied by friends in school, neighborhood,... This has destroyed many great future.

Look back and think of those that bullied you and made you feel less, try to meditate and be brave.

I'm fighting this also.
We will survive.

Be happy with yourself.

kaykaybillion:
Growing up affects us alot, being bullied by friends in school, neighborhood,... This has destroyed many great future.

Look back and think of those that bullied you and made you feel less, try to meditate and be brave.

I'm fighting this also.
We will survive.

Be happy with yourself.

Afa bro. Dem notified me here say you DM me. Afa, any better

I thought I was the only one going through this too
This sometimes make me stay indoors for hours or days all because of fear and shyness..
I think a lot to the fact that I give in in everything whether am right or not have to forfeit my money someone tries to deny me all because of fear
But just discovered that the cause is too much of thinking .
Just stop thinking and do your thing no minding how people feel
Giving pity to some situation causes it also