[b]Before i start, i would want to say this:-

- i need advice from you pple, and as such i wouldn't like anyone insulting me or saying anything out of the context. If you happen to feel the urge to yab or insult, i kindly ask you pls save it and leave the thread. Thank you in advance.

I broke up with my ex sometimes ago due to some reasons known to me, but for those who care to know, i actually didn't love the girl initially. i thot i did, but i later realised that i only dated her to get back at one other girl who cheated on me by getting pregnant for another guy. I was so hurt then and this girl came at that moment. With time we got closer.

Along the line, i realised that this girl was literarilly throwing herself at me, making it so obvious that she wanted me. Any small thing, she'll always want to be around me, rubbing herself against me anytime we come close, calling at every opportunity, never giving me space. I tried talking sense into her to at least slow down as i didn't want to use and dump her, but the babe no wan gree.

about three years back, she called me one eveining and told me she was coming down from lagos to see me(i was in Ib then). She arrived my house that evening, and to cut a long story short, we ended up having sex that nite and the nite after. Since then, she had always been bothering me, coming to my house at the least opportunity. She even came one evening when my dad was at home. I had to drive her back and lodge her in a guest house that nite.

Anyway to cut a long story short, i broke up with the girl about two years ago due to all these possessive behaviours of hers(always checking my phone, any girl's number she sees, she'll start raking that i'm dating her, she also had this annoying habit of referring the girl i dated before her as "her rival". She raved and ranted, but i had to hold my stand firm. She then stopped calling me since.

I got hooked up again with my present girlfriend(the air-hostess chick in the other thread i created sometimes ago). We got along and we celebrated our first year together sometimes last month.

Now my problem is this - last week i had to leave Abuja where i presently work to go get my transcript in skool. i was getting down from the bus when i heard someone call my name, i turned round and who will i see? My ex-girl. we greeted each other, chatted a bit, and then we went our both ways. She later called me that night, saying she had missed me, she still loves me, blah blah. . . . . . .i told her we were history and that i already have another girl in my life. She then started begging me to take her back, she'll change her ways, etc.

Ever since then she has been on my neck. She even made me promise that i would come see her in skool and that she wants us to talk things out. left to me there is nothing to talk about. Tomorrow is the day we fixed when i'll go see her. i don't want to go, but at the same time i want to tell her straight to her face that IT'S OVER, since she doesn't want to listen. What do u all suggest?[/b]

She sounds like a stalker to me.  If you can I would change your number or have your current girlfriend answer the phone the next time she calls.  She may get the message once she hears another womans voice on your phone.

If she still wont stay away you will need to change your number and refuse any contact from her at all.  You can not contuine to talk to this girl as she may see any contact from you as a hope that she can get you back.

Sista

Ex had her chance, tell her you ain't goin back to her.

i really dont know what to say because , but ar u cute?

Lol . . See what NL has turned to? Pple now plead and apologise in advance not to be insulted b4 posting their issues.

@poster,
DO NOT GO SEE HER IN SCHOOL. She is ur ex and the exes remain in the past, u guys neva really dated anyways, she was just a rebound.
If u love ur current girl like u claim, u will avoid the other girl. Change ur number if u have to. She seems desperate and would resolve to do anything to get u back with her . . she might even call ur girl and threaten her . . desperate girls go to desperate measures to get what they want.

Good luck.

oreofemi:

i really don't know what to say because , but ar u cute?

wat has that got to do with anything?
look for ursef . . his pic is on his profile.

she blew it up when she had her chance , going back to her will only make the whole thing boring . why dont you build up on the one you have now . i guess it worth more than two in the bush .

am not trying to hala but i am asking him that question because this may be a set up from the girls he has went out with befpre, and because he may hav cause alot of damages before and those girls may not want him have a nic relationship again

There's a saying that a road that has been passed will be a whole lot easier subsequently
Flee from your ex man. She's probably laying a trap for you ^{some1 said not to go see her in skool} I Agree
Tap into her reasoning. . . tell her that if you leave ur present girl for her(which you must state is not a possiblity). . . what stops you from leaving her for the next girl.

Hey man,u need to be more firm in ur decisions,there's a polite way u tell a lady off
u'v said it all,u don't love her so please stop raisg her hopes,u must av shown her a green light indirectly
this time ard show her in words and actions dat u aint interested anymore,stop pikg her calls,avoid hanging out
abi u r still interested?
if not,Be a man,take a stand!

Don't try to get back with her. Most times, a girl would go all out and date someone else simply because she believes she could get back the ex anytime she desired. Do not give her the satisfaction because she'll prolly see you as soft and do it again. Severe all communications with her, no calls, texts and you'll be fine.

what exactly wud u wanna go see her for?
will u tell ur present girl u went to see her? i trust that ans is no.
then dnt do what u wont want ur present to know.
cos ur going to see her is sending a wrong message already.
unless u have ur own motives, like hoping to have one last sex scence in ur script.

YOUNG MAN, DO NOT GO TO HER SCHOOL.

DONT TRY TO SEE HER ANYWHERE ATALL

IGNORE HER CALLS

IF SHE USE STRANGE NUMBER TO CALL, DIS-CHARGE HER IMMEDIATELLY PROMISE HER U WILL CALL HER BACK, BUT DONT.

DELECT ANY OF HER TEXT MESSAGES IMMEDIATELY AND DONT REPLY.

DONT GIVE HER OPPORTUNITY TO SAY ANYTHING SO THAT

U MIGHT NOT BE TEMPTED.

GOOD LUCK.

@ poster

and u promised to see her in school?!!!!!!!!!!

r ladies that powerful or men that weak?!!!!!!!!!

u mean u don't forsee havin sex with her again durin this visit?!!!!!!!

omo u r the source andanswer to ur problems