C2H5OH:

yes, you can ultimately end up being friends with your friends again. it's just not advisable to tell you to maintain a friendship with them right at the nick of time when that relationship just ended. you might end up in a cycle of something i will refer to as emotional blackmail, where the strong feelings you still have for your ex causes you to do certain things that you know are not healthy for you. this usually happens because you obvioiusly care a lot about the ex. during this period you could end up sleeping with the ex, paying for his/her rent, phone bills, etc, even though you are broken up. basically the ex is eating the cake and having it back. blah blah blah i'll end the rant

unless you can handle it, try to give yourself time to get over the ex before even attempting to be friends with said person again.

biola44:

correct, but maturity is needed even after getting over d ex,

Diva1:

When people say exes are exes for a reason and it remains that way, nothing to do with them and all, it gets me thinking, aren't they people too, especially if the exes are not evil maybe one thing led to the other and the relationship didn't work out but they are still people. And the other party has healed.

What are some of your opinions on why most of the time, people feel it's best to keep away from an ex like pretend a relationship never occured, like less than strangers if the ex was not so bad??

Depends on the individual. Sometimes it ends badly or they get hurt badly that people dont want reminders of it. Sometimes, its a matter of not forgiving.


I've always been friends with them. . .probably because i can be terribly mental about things and because i have never had a bad break up. _{i'm just adorable} .