I'm Sam by name born to a family of six and I'm the 4th child and the only university graduate.My siblings and parents see me as the bread winner of the family but within myself l know l have not won any bread yet cos I
I'm struggling financially my salary is just 60,000naira
and l work in Abuja where bills are really huge.
Recently l brought my brother from the village to come stay with me in Abuja his upkeep,feeding is on me and he is presently looking for admission and l will be the one to pay his fees if he eventually secure one.
My other siblings always ask me for money and my parents too always asked for me the pressure and burden is too much on me l know what my friends have achieved but due to family burdens I'm far behind my friends Please nairalanders help me out l need your advice.

Omo it’s not easy to be a man.. you just have to keep pushing, remember you are doing it for the family(family first).. I believe with their prayers the lord will give you strength to endure and lift you higher..

I am proud of u n wat u doing ,so pls b proud of urself.I know its ot easy but its worth it.I pray God lift u higher n pls dont allow depression at all o

You have to man up. Tell them you are not doing anything serious yet. They shouldn't be you responsibility but that does not mean you should neglet them. One thing is certain, problem you don't solve for them will definitely be solve through other means. You can imagine if you lost the 60k job, will they die? God forbid. You need to start building yourself financially until have other sources of income and financially stable. Am sharing from personal experience. I wish I new all I know now then. Spent serious fortune and denied self many things for family at long long last, all bunch of ingrates.

With what I can relate from your story, the two most important things leading to your depression is finnacial pressure and competition with friends.
Firstly you must stop the pressure by letting your family know your finnacial status, they should not overestimate you because you live in Abuja. The month you are not able to send money to them, don't borrow or pressure your self to do that.
Secondly live within your means, If your house rent is too expensive move to a less expensive one.
Thirdly, let your sibling living with you know your finnacial state, that will help him develop an entrepreneur skill, because he will know if he depends on you 100% in school he might be surprised, so get him a skill to learn so he can start something for himself.
Fourthly, you must understand that your expenditure and Consumption will increase, but if you do nothing about your finnace your income will realtively be the same. Seek another source of income, apply yourself in the direction of your gifting.
Finally stop using your friends as a bench mark for your success, ' It is not first to start, that is first to finish' let your past become your motivation.Only get inspired by their success.
Above all seek the face of the God

Guy, you should be happy that you have a job at least .

Many people on Nairaland don't have a job and yet they haven't killed themselves.

Be grateful for the one you have and work your way up.