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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Mariangeles(f): 3:52pm On May 17
latieph:
To be candid, cheating is one major thing every married man must do cuz it is nature and can't be resisted. I will only advice you take off emotional feelings towards your man. cuz if you also decide to reciprocate (cheat), it won't be in your favour as a married woman. No guy will take you serious. Na to Bleep and go.

Taa gbafuo osiso!
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Maysdevices(f): 3:53pm On May 17
DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Madam, one toto no dey belleful man grin
And yet una go dey expect women to genuinely love una

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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by cjudy(m): 3:54pm On May 17
MrBrownJay1:


you can ...
A) divorce the animal before he infects you with some deadly disease
B) shut up, stay married to the animal and live with the consequences... as its obvious this man doesnt care about what you think OR has any respect for you and the marriage you guys have.

BTW cheating back is by far the worst possible thing you can do. why turn into the animal that he is? how is that gonna solve the problem (remember, he doesnt really care about you)?
Are you married?
Do you have a serious girlfriend?

I guess my answer is NO.
People like you rush into matters that doesn’t concern them.
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by luminouz(m): 3:54pm On May 17
Mariangeles:


Do what gives you peace of mind, for that is the ultimate.




You should've grown beyond that by now.
Even teenagers have moved on from that.
K
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Lifemanage: 3:54pm On May 17
Elusive001:


Is your husband born-again? I did NOT ask if he is a pastor, minister, or worker in his church. I did NOT ask if he goes to church, preaches, prays, pays tithe, etc. I asked, Is he born-again? Is he crucified with CHRIST JESUS?
Craziness... 😂
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by onadana: 3:55pm On May 17
NeckingNgulping:


Divorce him. I think it's better to get a second wife and make it legal rather than cheat on you.

Whether he gets a second,third or fourth wife,a cheater will always be a cheater. It is the adrenaline that drives them.
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Mariangeles(f): 3:58pm On May 17
luminouz:

K

Ooo!
Omode lo n se e.
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Innobee99(m): 3:59pm On May 17
fyzaila:
In your last post you said you were enjoying your marriage to the fullest, now watta gwan??
Many women endure pain silently

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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by LalastiklaIa(m): 4:06pm On May 17
SWATMan:



But i thought they said that women love men who cheat? I read it in a post online and felt it was true. One lady even said that it's better to have a cheating husband who pays the bill than to have faithful one who shares the bill. If i may ask how long have you been married?

You Dey answer confused beings lol 😂

There’s a high likelihood that a pastor asked for hand in marriage at one time but she refused. A pastor she knows will keep faithful and would not cheat but if you ask 99% of them don’t want a pastor lol.

Infact these ladies are going to dumb you if they keep going through your phone and they can’t find something or a chat that shows you are cheating.

They start to see you as an unwanted property by other females. It means you are not hot enough or good looking enough or rich enough for other girls to be competing with her for her man. She likes the fact that her man is desired by other women what she doesn’t like is the fact that he might he giving women resources that’s supposed to come to her and her kids and he should per adventure not father a kid with another lady that will also further cut down the resources coming to her. She’s not bothered about the cheating because she loves him.

You must have seen a very faithful man that “mistakenly” fell into cheating and his woman finds out. All hell is let loose and she leaves on the grounds that she can’t condone cheating but you’ll see this same woman with another man known to be a chronic womanizer when she finds out she brushes it aside and doesn’t react.



Shey you can now see you are dealing with a complicated confused specie

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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Sandralight(f): 4:07pm On May 17
RomanGreen:


I can bet my balls that even you will not take this advice you dropped. When you leave your cheating husband, what's the guarantee that the next guy won't cheat? There are subtle ways to tame a cheating man but as long as he fulfills his duties at home as your husband, don't leave. If you decide to leave I can almost guarantee you'll keep jumping from one man to the other. If you doubt me, try it when you get married. As long as the man doesn't run his cheating on your face, stay where you are, don't go around looking for what is not lost

Lol I will take my advice like mad and why is it only men that is advising her to stay in the marriage?
I haven't seen one woman advice her to stay, it's only men that are not in her shoes that is advising her to remain in a marriage that is causing her pain, telling her to tolerate as if it's easy.
If you find out your wife is cheating on you, will you remain married to her, ask yourself that.

I believe that what you don't want to be done to you then don't do it to others, I don't even have to talk too much, may ladies now don't tolerate cheating and many women now are putting their happiness before anything.

And stop with the fear mongering tactics, there are many fulfillment in life than to be shackle to a cheating man, so stop with "there is nothing in the street" she will be fine and I have seen many divorce women that are happy and fulfilled and most of them their husband are the ones regretting the divorce.

As a man if you want a happy home than don't hurt your wife

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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by LordReed(m): 4:08pm On May 17
Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.


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Leave where you can't cope. Your mental and physical health are more important than accommodating someone who does care about you.

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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Kobojunkie: 4:11pm On May 17
Fryx:
■ Family. That’s the building block of society. That’s what marriage is for. Just as money doesn’t make the wealthy happy except for the fulfilling of their desire. Marriage or relationship won’t make you happy either except you learn how to be happy. If you don’t already know how to be happy, you will be miserable. Humans are selfish by default, your happiness is no one’s responsibility except you first offer them happiness.
Therefore, if you want to be happy with your husband in marriage, then you both don’t need to seduce each other. If a man and a woman naturally makes each other happy without effort, they are bound to continue being so even after marriage. And if any one of them change, then you look for something else to replace him or her without necessarily cheating on him. Except sex is a source of happiness to you.
■ For your second point. People are drawn to what they don’t have. If you live with a sadist but you manage to be happy without them, they will be curious and will want to be like you. If they see you as the prize, you have a control over them. At least, till when you become as hopeless as they are and they look elsewhere. The point: Humans are selfish, don’t ever desire anything from a human. You will never be happy or satisfied. But you can always trade what you have for what you don’t have.
1. None of this answers my question and try to keep these retorts of yours brief and to the point abeg! I practically had to go back to confirm the actual question I had originally asked.

The reason many embark on marriage is to increase their happiness quotient. But what you have literally said here is that marriage is not meant to do any of that. grin

2. See the first part of my response abeg! grin

You claimed the woman can infect her husband with her happiness. But I asked if you mean similarly to her husband who is happily boinking another woman is equally able to infect her with his happiness rather than the emotional and psychological trauma OP claims she is left with as a result of her husband's cheating? grin
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by NothingDoMe: 4:13pm On May 17
Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.


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You are a clean woman. Only clean people are disgusted by filth. Not many like you anymore.

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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by chatinent: 4:16pm On May 17
He could be irreparable but doesn't mean a good payback is cheating on him too.


If I were you, I'd divorce him right away but I understand you. I understand the Nigerian society. I also understand how much you have got to lose.

Please be strong.

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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by olidcapital275: 4:16pm On May 17
immortalcrown:
How you have been coping is how to cope.

Don't listen to those who advise you to divorce him. They have no guarantee that your next husband will be better. Cheating on you is very bad. But I advise you to bear it since you don't suffer domestic violence and starvation In the marriage.

How do u mean bear?. What if he brings HIV and other STDs. What if it was your wife cheating...will u bear it?. Why are u people like this. You have no self respect and honour....sleeping with anything that comes their way!

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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by komzy589(m): 4:16pm On May 17
Kobojunkie:
So, this ideal world does not exist yet here you are pretending to know and tell me about it? undecided

2. What you are then is that, even now, OP is unable to work out her survival by her own hands. According to some, only a minority of women in Nigeria can escape the life of marriage to a cheating, disrespectful husband and this has to do with most women being unable to feed and fend for themselves outside of marriage — women are handicapped. OP who was alive and well before this marriage is now worth nothing more or better than this marriage; her survival now depends on the marriage as she cannot work to feed and fend for herself when marriage is no longer in the picture. undecided

@OP, I hope you are paying attention. That marriage to a disrespectful cheating man is said to now define your existence as a human being. grin
Your words are sweet and sound like they are logical but are completely void of anything in reality.
I don’t want to say much because issues like this are not as complicated as you’re making it seem.
Divorcing her husband is not an option for her and most sensible women.
Otherwise she will not be here to ask questions.
She made it very clear that her husband provides and doesn’t abuse her.
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Fuckyoumod: 4:20pm On May 17
Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.


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my dear learn to deal with it.

If you cheat, the entire blame will be on you.
Accept your fate and move on with your marriage in as much as he is taking care of you and your kids.

Cheating is a general thing, one woman is never enough for a man.
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Sirchiboy: 4:23pm On May 17
Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.


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Pic of your husband cheating for proper advice
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Kobojunkie: 4:23pm On May 17
komzy589:
■ Your words are sweet and sound like they are logical but are completely void of anything in reality.
■ I don’t want to say much because issues like this are not as complicated as you’re making it seem.
■ Divorcing her husband is not an option for her and most sensible women. Otherwise she will not be here to ask questions.
■ She made it very clear that her husband provides and doesn’t abuse her.
LOL.. but all I did in my response was stress the exact same points you had made earlier....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I am glad you at least note for yourself how completely void of anything, in reality, your own words truly are. undecided

2. Not as complicated yet you have yourself tried several attempts to make it exactly that by pretending OP's actions need be based on what other women in the reason have done in their own marriages. You are not the brightest cookie over there, are you? grin

3. Up until this point in this entire conversation, I have not used the word Divorce or even hinted at it. OP asked how to cope and I have been careful to explain to her the how and the implications of such an action. grin

4. Yes, @OP, so long as he does not physically or verbally abuse you, the emotional and psychological trauma that has resulted from his lack of respect for you and cheating on you is your worth in marriage in the Nigerian context. However, if you dare to cheat on your husband, that man will unleash hell on you for daring to emotionally and psychologically traumatize him in such a manner. grin
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Fryx: 4:24pm On May 17
Kobojunkie:
1. None of this answers my question and try to keep these retorts of yours brief and to the point abeg! I practically had to go back to confirm the actual question I had originally asked.

The reason many embark on marriage is to increase their happiness quotient. But what you have literally said here is that marriage is not meant to do any of that. grin

2. See the first part of my response abeg! grin

You claimed the woman can infect her husband with her happiness. But I asked if you mean similarly to her husband who is happily boinking another woman is equally able to infect her with his happiness rather than the emotional and psychological trauma OP claims she is left with as a result of her husband's cheating? grin

Well, I responded with what I know brings happiness. But since you are more interested in turning stone into diamond, go and ask those who enter marriage to be happy and how they are coping with their misery.

I don't live in misery, stop asking me miserable questions.
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by lendahand(m): 4:26pm On May 17
SWATMan:



But i thought they said that women love men who cheat? I read it in a post online and felt it was true. One lady even said that it's better to have a cheating husband who pays the bill than to have faithful one who shares the bill. If i may ask how long have you been married?
do you think this confused gender know what they actually want??
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by saasala(m): 4:29pm On May 17
AllBlack:


Please define CHEAT BACK. 😂
You want to pay him back, you mean?

Him Cheating - He meets babes and gets them naked and inserts his diiick in them and pounds their ass and makes them scream & sweat. They even suck his diiick too and maybe he release on their face. They freshen up and he comes back home 🤔

You Cheating back - A man, boy or grandpa takes YOU to a club toilet, hotel room or his office. Gets YOU naked, squeeze YOUR breasts, spank YOUR ass, fingers YOU, bend YOU over and puts his diiick into YOUR hole, fork YOU very well till his satisfaction and release inside YOU or even cum on YOUR body. Maybe he even put his diiick in YOUR mouth and cums on YOUR face. You freshen up and go home.
You have cheated on who again? your husband or YOU?

I laugh when women say CHEAT BACK 😂😂😂

You be weyrey I swear grin
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Kobojunkie: 4:29pm On May 17
Fryx:
■ Well, I responded with what I know brings happiness. But since you are more interested in turning stone into diamond, go and ask those who enter marriage to be happy and how they are coping with their misery.
■ I don't live in misery, stop asking me miserable questions.
1. Your statement here that you don't believe marriage brings happiness? undecided

2. Merely questioning your very responses makes you miserable. Is that so? undecided
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by 1Sharon(f): 4:30pm On May 17
cjudy:

Are you married?
Do you have a serious girlfriend?

I guess my answer is NO.
People like you rush into matters that doesn’t concern them.

Since you're married, what will be your advise to her? undecided

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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by immortalcrown(m): 4:37pm On May 17
olidcapital275:
How do u mean bear?. What if he brings HIV and other STDs. What if it was your wife cheating...will u bear it?. Why are u people like this. You have no self respect and honour....sleeping with anything that comes their way!
If you are not stupid, explain how my comment supports infidelity.
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by abbey621(m): 4:38pm On May 17
You have two options but before you implement any of the two, I suggest you get irrefutable evidence such as a video. Then play the video for him, if that does not work, play it for his parents and then his friends.

Your two options:

1. Leave(Only if you're financially independent and are confident you can take the kids if any)

2. Stay but refuse intimacy without protection. The only thing worse than a man not getting some in a marriage is a man always having to wear raincoat in order to lapoopoolala grin

Here's a fact: 90% of all married men will cheat at one point or another, it can be early on, mid life crisis or when they get older and these girls see them as sugar grandpas. The question here is would you rather be with a known cheater or one that won't even give you the chance to suspect him but na him be leader of the married cheater association (MCA)? grin grin grin

Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by yusufmurry: 4:44pm On May 17
When you give a woman money, she feels "love".

Just yesterday, he was the best man but today, you are unhappy.

Dey money don finish? Or is the percentage that gets to you reduced?

Madam, go and look for a job and stop being helpless and entitled. This your husband has been cheating since day one
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Enemyofpeace: 4:48pm On May 17
Op, please whenever you change your mind to cheat back on him, DM me, I'm always available

Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by IDERAWOLE(m): 4:54pm On May 17
Elusive001:


Is your husband born-again? I did NOT ask if he is a pastor, minister, or worker in his church. I did NOT ask if he goes to church, preaches, prays, pays tithe, etc. I asked, Is he born-again? Is he crucified with CHRIST JESUS?

The first question to ask is: Is this woman born again?
If she's not born again, of what use is the answer to your question to her? She can't make use of a born again husband if she herself is not born again.

If she's born again, she should know what to do with her husband now!
Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Undaunted11: 4:54pm On May 17
fyzaila:
In your last post you said you were enjoying your marriage to the fullest, now watta gwan??

It's because life happened.
One moment in ecstasy basking in abundance of love, next moment, it's like all hell let loose.

Enjoy the moment and prepare for the worst while you expect the best.

Through it all, God is good.

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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Ibukun003(m): 4:55pm On May 17
You can divorce him...but never ever try to cheat back. Never try it.
Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.


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Re: How Do I Cope With Cheating Husband? by Niok: 4:56pm On May 17
Come let me drill ur wet pu s s y
Your husband will be jealous too

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