Kobojunkie:
Are you certain you are OK at all? Person tell you say the man cheats on her and does not even care what she thinks, you come dey ask if him dey born-again? Which kain yeye question be that one? Religion has seriously damaged the way a lot of you reason.

Have you really taking time to ask or verify if the audacity to cheat by the husband was triggered by the wife's attitude?.
Or did he just suddenly start cheating on her after years of marriage.
. Don't always jump into issues with emotional sentiments just to prove you are feminist wannabe.

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.


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Not everyone who cheats truly want to. Pls check to see if there is any adjustments you need to make

All I wish you is the wisdom to cope with him and to select advice from the very many bad advices here.

luminouz:

Stfu...mumu

Have just touched your breast and your wife breasts, when I touched your breast; you said ouch; when I touched your wife breast, she said couch... Which one is much..., ouch or couch...? Did you wants to say much or how much? Did you knows how much? How much is such much!...

Sandralight:


Divorce him he obviously don't care about you and don't listen to those men that will advice to stay because if the tables were turn, they will be the first to tell the husband to leave you.
The truth is most men can't take when they diss out, they expect women to take their cheating bullshit because to them we don't have feelings, you staying in a marriage with constant cheating will affect you mentally and emotionally in the long run, you will become a shadow of yourself and many people that goes through this usually dies young from High blood pressure and studies have shown that stress causes some cancers, do you want to keep living a life where you will be in constant stress and pain because of your husband.

I always tell people life is too short to be so unhappy, marriage is supposed to be a union, a happy union and if one is hurting the other, it's better to leave because Trust me if you cheat once you husband will never forgive you, so just leave forget all those talk of nobody want a divorce woman because they are fear mongering tactics to keep your unhappy in a loveless marriage.

Try to build yourself, become financial independent and you will surely meet the one that will make you happy and always remember life is too short to be unhappy

lol emotions at full blast. Women sef

tiswell:
Have you really taking time to ask or verify if the audacity to cheat by the husband was triggered by the wife's attitude?.
Or did he just suddenly start cheating on her after years of marriage.
. Don't always jump into issues with emotional sentiments just to prove you are feminist wannabe.

Is she such a feminist wannabe? What did she wanna be...? Bami bi...

Kobojunkie:
OP, here again, he reiterates the same point from earlier which is that your lot in life should be coping with a cheating husband who does not respect or value you as a human being because your very own friends may just be in the same boat as you.

Here's the kicker! If you dare to cheat on that same cheating guy you have there, he is likely to abandon your arse like a dirty rag and move on to marry another woman. And if one of his side chicks decides to elevate herself to wife status, that same cheating husband of yours might also abandon your arse like a dirty rag even then. If you think your stance is a righteous one, keep thinking!

Living with a man who does not regard you at all but maybe pays the bills and maybe throws money your way now and then when he is not thinking about his side chicks is better than living with disrespect and daily humiliation; that is the coping wife's motto, right? So hold fast to it, and continue...coping!

You are still not getting it.
In an ideal world, your suggestion may be right, but is that the reality?
I don’t think it is. Most women in these parts are married for survival.
You’re married to a cheating husband who’s taking care of you financially and doesn’t physically abuse you. Think rationally and stop dolling out unrealistic solutions.
I don’t think this woman will accept your advice of leaving because she wouldn’t come here to ask questions at all.

tiswell:
■ Have you really taking time to ask or verify if the audacity to cheat by the husband was triggered by the wife's attitude?.
■ Or did he just suddenly start cheating on her after years of marriage.. Don't always jump into issues with emotional sentiments just to prove you are feminist wannabe.

Audacity to cheat by the husband was triggered by the wife's attitude. What bunkum is that one now?

2. Are you certain you are alright for Pete's sake? A man signs a contract not to cheat no matter what, then the man decides to cheat breaking the contract he made, yet you have the nerve to suggest it is the wife to blame? Are you OK at all?

If OP had been the one cheating, would you have equally insisted that maybe her husband is to blame?

Cheat as well

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.


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Find someone to please you

fyzaila:
In your last post you said you were enjoying your marriage to the fullest, now watta gwan??

Dont mind one of those upcoming bloggers. Mod should be sanitizing threads before pushing them to front page.

Your husband is not supposed to make you happy.

Putting your inner peace and happiness on the action of another human is a recipe for a life of sorrow. Get busy with your hobby and you will stop noticing your husband cheating.

You can even infect him with your happiness. However, he paid your bride price and had the right to run his home as he wishes. You can only contribute or leave if you are not happy with how he run his affairs.

fyzaila:
In your last post you said you were enjoying your marriage to the fullest, now watta gwan??

NOTE: Whenever u hear this type of words from a woman, she is actually looking for words to help herself. Because she is actually dying.

I ve got some questions to ask you before I can advise you.

1. How did you find out he is cheating? Did he rub it on your face?
2.Was it by going through his phone out of curiosity when everything is fine?
3. Was there a hitch in your marriage then you decided to know if he was cheating?
4. Despite the fact he's been cheating, has he always been a good husband? Does he provide for you and kids? Make love to you often?

5, Does he not desire you any more and you think the reason is because he cheats ?

Try and detach emotions and answer the above questions then quote me so I can offer my own 2cent

Kobojunkie:
Audacity to cheat by the husband was triggered by the wife's attitude. What Bunkum is that one now?

2. Are you certain you are alright for Pete's sake? A man signs a contract not to cheat no matter what, then the man decides to cheat breaking the contract he made, yet you have the nerve to suggest it is the wife to blame? Are you OK at all?

If OP had been the one cheating, would you have equally insisted that maybe her husband is to blame?

yea,some extreme attitudes from a wife can change a man into something he isn't.
I guess you are very much single and lacks experience yet to meddle in marital affairs.

Marriage isn't arithmetic nor logic!!!

Sandralight:


Divorce him he obviously don't care about you and don't listen to those men that will advice to stay because if the tables were turn, they will be the first to tell the husband to leave you.
The truth is most men can't take when they diss out, they expect women to take their cheating bullshit because to them we don't have feelings, you staying in a marriage with constant cheating will affect you mentally and emotionally in the long run, you will become a shadow of yourself and many people that goes through this usually dies young from High blood pressure and studies have shown that stress causes some cancers, do you want to keep living a life where you will be in constant stress and pain because of your husband.

I always tell people life is too short to be so unhappy, marriage is supposed to be a union, a happy union and if one is hurting the other, it's better to leave because Trust me if you cheat once you husband will never forgive you, so just leave forget all those talk of nobody want a divorce woman because they are fear mongering tactics to keep your unhappy in a loveless marriage.

Try to build yourself, become financial independent and you will surely meet the one that will make you happy and always remember life is too short to be unhappy

I can bet my balls that even you will not take this advice you dropped. When you leave your cheating husband, what's the guarantee that the next guy won't cheat? There are subtle ways to tame a cheating man but as long as he fulfills his duties at home as your husband, don't leave. If you decide to leave I can almost guarantee you'll keep jumping from one man to the other. If you doubt me, try it when you get married. As long as the man doesn't run his cheating on your face, stay where you are, don't go around looking for what is not lost

Sandralight:


Divorce him he obviously don't care about you and don't listen to those men that will advice to stay because if the tables were turn, they will be the first to tell the husband to leave you.
The truth is most men can't take when they diss out, they expect women to take their cheating bullshit because to them we don't have feelings, you staying in a marriage with constant cheating will affect you mentally and emotionally in the long run, you will become a shadow of yourself and many people that goes through this usually dies young from High blood pressure and studies have shown that stress causes some cancers, do you want to keep living a life where you will be in constant stress and pain because of your husband.

I always tell people life is too short to be so unhappy, marriage is supposed to be a union, a happy union and if one is hurting the other, it's better to leave because Trust me if you cheat once you husband will never forgive you, so just leave forget all those talk of nobody want a divorce woman because they are fear mongering tactics to keep your unhappy in a loveless marriage.

Try to build yourself, become financial independent and you will surely meet the one that will make you happy and always remember life is too short to be unhappy

divorced him and marry another one that will cheat with your best friend...build yourself na small small boys go de Bleep you!

luminouz:

Stfu....Okpaface!!!

🤣😂😂😂😂😂
Which one be okpaface?

Where is paining you? Your head ?

komzy589:
■ You are still not getting it. In an ideal world, your suggestion may be right, but is that the reality?
■ I don’t think it is. Most women in these parts are married for survival. You’re married to a cheating husband who’s taking care of you financially and doesn’t physically abuse you. Think rationally and stop dolling out unrealistic solutions. I don’t think this woman will accept your advice of leaving because she wouldn’t come here to ask questions at all.

So, this ideal world does not exist yet here you are pretending to know and tell me about it?

2. What you are then saying is that, even now, OP is unable to work out her survival by her own hands. According to you, only a minority of women in Nigeria can escape the life of marriage to a cheating, disrespectful husband, and this has to do with most women being unable to feed and fend for themselves outside of marriage — women are handicapped. OP who was alive and well before this marriage is now worth nothing more or better than this marriage; her survival now depends on the marriage as she cannot work to feed and fend for herself when marriage is no longer in the picture.

@OP, I hope you are paying attention. That marriage to a disrespectful cheating man is said to now define your existence as a human being.

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tiswell:
■ yea,some extreme attitudes from a wife can change a man into something he isn't. I guess you are very much single and lacks experience yet to meddle in marital affairs. Marriage isn't arithmetic nor logic!!!

Marriage is not arithmetic or logic so when a woman comes to you to tell you that she is cheating because of her husband's attitude, you would equally come to tell us that makes sense — logic? Abeg, carry this is your empty bucket reasoning waka pass me o'jare!

Fryx:
■ Your husband is not supposed to make you happy. Putting your inner peace and happiness on the action of another human is a recipe for a life of sorrow. Get busy with your hobby and you will stop noticing your husband cheating.
■ You can even infect him with your happiness. However, he paid your bride price and had the right to run his home as he wishes. You can only contribute or leave if you are not happy with how he run his affairs.

A husband/wife is not supposed to make you happier than you were when you were single, then pray, tell, what is the use of all the suffering then?

2. Infect him with her happiness, you mean like the man is busy boinking other women and infecting her with emotional and psychological damage at that?

Why do you want to cope with a cheating husband?

ukaface:

🤣😂😂😂😂😂
Which one be okpaface?

Where is paining you? Your head ?

K

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.


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Do what gives you peace of mind, for that is the ultimate.

luminouz:

K

You should've grown beyond that by now.
Even teenagers have moved on from that.

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is not arithmetic or logic so when a woman comes to you to tell you that she is cheating because of her husband's attitude, you would equally come to tell us that makes sense — logic? Abeg, carry this is your empty bucket reasoning waka pass me o'jare!

na ya type dey eventually marry and won't divorce even if the hubby cheats.

I pity vulnerable married ladies taking your words serious here.

Let me be explicit here,you aren't good with marriage and relationship advise.

To be candid, cheating is one major thing every married man must do cuz it is nature and can't be resisted. I will only advice you take off emotional feelings towards your man. cuz if you also decide to reciprocate (cheat), it won't be in your favour as a married woman. No guy will take you serious. Na to Bleep and go.

Fiscus105:



I'm very sure you knew this before marriage, but marrying to handsome bobo completely overwhelmed ur rational thinking faculty then.

Unfortunately, no advice I render to a woman that got himself hooked by a he-goat.

Most of them know right from dating stage that the “He goat” they are dating no dey use eye see big yansh in tight skirts but for some reason whether pampering or money they stayed hoping they will be able to tie him down and personalize him in marriage

Give yourself brain. Nobody was there when you guys started and nobody forced both of you to getting married.

Any decision you take without violence is welcome. It is only in Nigeria that marriage is held in high esteem, just give yourself brain.

tiswell:
■ na ya type dey eventually marry and won't divorce even if the hubby cheats.
■ I pity vulnerable married ladies taking your words serious here. Let me be explicit here,you aren't good with marriage and relationship advise.

1. LOL.... see this one!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2. Women in Africa have coped and coped and coped.... and you know what has resulted from all of that coping for them.... nothing but a miserable existence in marriage. Oh sure, they try to lace their many stories of life in marriage with as many twisted lies as they can come up with but the long and short of most of their coping stories has always been... "I allowed a man who lacked respect for me to mentally and emotionally abuse me by way of his cheating for most all of the marriage." In many cases these women are eventually abandoned on the road side by the same men, while others die in the marriage with nothing to show. That is the long and short of coping in marriage. The choice is up to these women still.

Kobojunkie:
A husband/wife is not supposed to make you happier than you were when you were single, then pray, tell, what is the use of all the suffering then?

2. Infect him with her happiness, you mean like the man is busy boinking other women and infecting her with emotional and psychological damage at that?

Family. That’s the building block of society. That’s what marriage is for.

Just as money doesn’t make the wealthy happy except for the fulfilling of their desire. Marriage or relationship won’t make you happy either except you learn how to be happy.

If you don’t already know how to be happy, you will be miserable. Humans are selfish by default, your happiness is no one’s responsibility except you first offer them happiness.

Therefore, if you want to be happy with your husband in marriage, then you both don’t need to seduce each other. If a man and a woman naturally makes each other happy without effort, they are bound to continue being so even after marriage.

And if any one of them change, then you look for something else to replace him or her without necessarily cheating on him. Except sex is a source of happiness to you.

For your second point. People are drawn to what they don’t have. If you live with a sadist but you manage to be happy without them, they will be curious and will want to be like you. If they see you as the prize, you have a control over them. At least, till when you become as hopeless as they are and they look elsewhere.

The point: Humans are selfish, don’t ever desire anything from a human. You will never be happy or satisfied. But you can always trade what you have for what you don’t have.

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.


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Cheating in a marriage is a deal breaker for many...Alot of factors can and should influence your decision. Do you have kids for him? Do you have a stable job or biz? Have you informed his family, friends and perhaps your religious leader for their intervention? Have you spoken to your own family?
Alot can be done to change the narrative but note that you cannot change a man who is not ready and pls, DIVORCE is an option. Keep it open? Don't die in silence...Talk to people you can trust and cheating back would only worsen a bad situation...#Pray about it, very very important....