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Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Speeechless3(f): 8:19am On Jul 04, 2016
There is just this thing which comes up...correction it doesn't just come up but I think my generation grew up into it...more like became aware of it. Some are repelled by it for whatever reason(s),some have embraced it with the whole fibre of their beings for reason(s) which they honestly believe in...some are on the fence too for some reasons or maybe just indecision has kept them there. For me,...oh well, maybe when I am done, you can help me define my stance but first I have a story...

Some months ago,a notable legal personality cum scholar came to lecture us on a particular topic which he has an expertise in. The class was filled up, believe me, that course gives more than half of us the bejeezus so I guess my classmates were as curious as I was to meet the man who was a guru at it. He came but with a group of people who at introduction were all legal practitioners. They were all men with just one lady. They were all given a seat in front of the class while the legal guru rendered his superb lecture. By the way, that was the most interesting land law lecture of my life. I listened to him speak and I also watched the rest keenly. Some of them were interested and enjoyed it too like some of us but some were bored and were trying to wait out the lecture, none looked as bored as the lady while she crossed her legs and chewed her gum very decently( rare skill I assure you). My lecturer was in the bid to bring the lecture to a grand close, then one of the rest indicated an interest to talk to us. As we discovered, He was a Lion and President of a Customary Court of Appeal;his dress sense and speech skills were impeccable, I was impressed. After his charge, the meeting was brought to a close and we all dispersed. As I was heading back to my hostel, one of my course mates caught up with me and asked me after pleasantries whether I felt the woman was (marginalized or discriminated against, I can't remember his exact diction). I laughed then told me that I didn't because she didn't have any interest to talk to us and if she did, she didn't show it and I knew no one there was a mind reader. I brought to his remembrance the President who indicated interest and was given a chance. He smiled, gave me a look and walked on. I didn't give the issue more thinking time then.

That's the end of my story but you see pals, the concept I have been trying to shape my words around since up there is feminism. My real encounter with this concept was in 200level with the study of Children, Women and the Law. My mind was opened to information, facts, issues and so much more about this concept, some genuine and some ridiculous in my opinion. It made me seek counsel both scholarly, spiritually and some -ally ways I cannot define.
I discovered that I don't want to be a feminist not because I don't want to believe in women and their ability to deliver at responsibilities but simply because I realized that the word 'feminism' does not have an "in rem" definition. It then means if I say I am one, what is in my mind may not match what is in yours and no way I am going to let what I don't know define me.(Aside: also because many man-haters are using the concept as a cloak)

So I decided that I am an ardent believer of give honour to whom honour is due, gender notwithstanding. If the skirt can do it better than the trousers, she should not be sidelined simply because she is the skirt. She should be allowed to achieve her dreams and goals. She should be allowed to compete with the male for things which God in Heaven has not forbidden her to compete for and not be intimidated simply because she is female. If she wants to climb a tree, allow her to, I believe she's counted the cost of climbing a tree. I decided that I am against subduing and oppressing of women simply because they are women and they 'cannot do anything'.
When it comes to the divine aspect, on the authority of the Bible, I believe that men and women are created equal but their duties and responsibilities are different. Check out the curses of Adam and Eve. God has made them both different and none inferior to each other but each to complement and supplement each other in view of achieving one goal.
Then,to my fellow ladies, woman is the love child of God Almighty. It was only before making her that God admitted that something was not good in His own paradise. The favorite of a parent can never be sidelined even if he or she is the youngest. Always seek out, work towards and stand in God's will for your life and no man or woman will be able to topple you. You remember that bae in the bible called Deborah...
Another thing I discovered is that this concept is a Changeling and in my suggestion has to be applied like the mischief rule. What I am saying in essence is that objectivity should be made a main focus while dealing with any real or seeming issue of feminine discrimination.
Again I discovered that no matter how much we protest, shriek and stamp our dainty little feets, some deepseated customs can never change. My grandpa will never let me go get the yam from his barn and would prefer Ekene my toddler nephew to go get it. You think I should barge into the barn like a heroine and get the yam to show him? Lol, no way. Here, the battle is won in the mind. You are not inferior to the male simply because custom says so. Grandpa has his way but my mind gets my say...believe me,that's all that matters...

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by falconey(m): 8:21am On Jul 04, 2016
interesting hypothesis
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by whogoscam: 8:29am On Jul 04, 2016
Who cares?
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Strahovski1(m): 8:29am On Jul 04, 2016
Like my dick cares
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Nobody: 8:35am On Jul 04, 2016
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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Speeechless3(f): 8:53am On Jul 04, 2016
DJHANDSOME:
Speechless, Were's the post ? angry
I have posted wink
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Speeechless3(f): 8:53am On Jul 04, 2016
falconey:
interesting hypothesis
grin
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by IamLEGEND1: 8:57am On Jul 04, 2016
I don't know you,my dear O.P...but I will find you wherever you are & I'll marry you.

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by LuveU2(f): 8:59am On Jul 04, 2016
whogoscam:
Who cares?
Strahovski1:
Like my dick cares
Why so rude? embarassed
Helo, strahovski, pls vote my candidate Falconey for mr nairaland
Helo whogoscam teamFalconey needs your supoort.

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by halfricanadian(f): 9:03am On Jul 04, 2016
Feminism is not the same as girl power o
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Speeechless3(f): 9:20am On Jul 04, 2016
IamLEGEND1:
I don't know you,my dear O.P...but I will find you wherever you are & I'll marry you.
Just vote Falconey for me grin

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Strahovski1(m): 9:36am On Jul 04, 2016
LuveU2:
Why so rude? embarassed
Helo, strahovski, pls vote my candidate Falconey for mr nairaland
Helo whogoscam teamFalconey needs your supoort.


I am not voting anybody. I even want to contest
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by slimthugchimee(m): 9:40am On Jul 04, 2016
mehn...o.p your cute thou, but flat
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Nobody: 9:41am On Jul 04, 2016
Feminists are fat man Hating Retards_

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by SmellingAnus(m): 9:43am On Jul 04, 2016
Speeechless3 I read of every word of what you wrote and I was just carried away by your intelligence and writing skills that is not to say I agree with everything you wrote but thanks for this Educational Piece... kiss

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by chigoizie7(m): 11:50am On Jul 04, 2016
whogoscam:
Who cares?

Well, I do.
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by chigoizie7(m): 11:56am On Jul 04, 2016
Fantastic!!!!!!!


As far as Nigerian constitution is concerned, no one is discriminated against.

If u want to stand out as a woman do it, be hard working and stop looking for preferential treatments.

We all know who d riches black woman is, she is a nigerian. She is not a feminist, she only believed that she can achieve whatever she wants, through hard work.

In political climes, remi tinubu contested on the same field with men, her hard work and determination got her where she is. Also, there are so many female president around the world, they all contested with men, there was no special treatment for them, but they emerged victorious, that is their hard work and determination.

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by chigoizie7(m): 11:58am On Jul 04, 2016
halfricanadian:
Feminism is not the same as girl power o

I am a learner oh, can u please throw more light on the two?
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by halfricanadian(f): 12:35pm On Jul 04, 2016
chigoizie7:


I am a learner oh, can u please throw more light on the two?

Feminism is all bou gender equality if u notice feminist are married they can b submissive infact dey are d most emotional humans u will ever meet bt they empower women nt to accept bully of any nature from both men nd women.

Girl power just want to dominate men have dem under their wings

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by foolinlove(f): 2:05pm On Jul 04, 2016
halfricanadian:


Feminism is all bou gender equality if u notice feminist are married they can b submissive infact dey are d most emotional humans u will ever meet bt they empower women nt to accept bully of any nature from both men nd women.

Girl power just want to dominate men have dem under their wings


Well said. It's wonderful that Nigeria has a feminist business world that lets men and women succeed on merit alone!
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by halfricanadian(f): 2:08pm On Jul 04, 2016
foolinlove:


Well said. It's wonderful that Nigeria has a feminist business world that lets men and women succeed on merit alone!

smiley smiley im glad too dat we have such
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Natotogokillme: 2:10pm On Jul 04, 2016
Strahovski1:
Like my dick cares
Vishnu, stop trolling!

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Natotogokillme: 2:11pm On Jul 04, 2016
Or is it even Vinshu? undecided
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Nobody: 2:59pm On Jul 04, 2016
Nice read. Intelligent op.
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by vicstar(m): 3:06pm On Jul 04, 2016
• • • • • Hmmm what a post, pretty cool though that "skirt and trouser denotation " cool

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Strahovski1(m): 3:07pm On Jul 04, 2016
Natotogokillme:

Vishnu, stop trolling!

If you are crushing on Vinshu just say it.. you can send her a pm stop getting on my nerves. How many times do you have to be banned? Why not get a life?
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by bitchcrafts: 3:12pm On Jul 04, 2016
Speeechless3:
There is just this thing which comes up...correction it doesn't just come up but I think my generation grew up into it...more like became aware of it. Some are repelled by it for whatever reason(s),some have embraced it with the whole fibre of their beings for reason(s) which they honestly believe in...some are on the fence too for some reasons or maybe just indecision has kept them there. For me,...oh well, maybe when I am done, you can help me define my stance but first I have a story...

Some months ago,a notable legal personality cum scholar came to lecture us on a particular topic which he has an expertise in. The class was filled up, believe me, that course gives more than half of us the bejeezus so I guess my classmates were as curious as I was to meet the man who was a guru at it. He came but with a group of people who at introduction were all legal practitioners. They were all men with just one lady. They were all given a seat in front of the class while the legal guru rendered his superb lecture. By the way, that was the most interesting land law lecture of my life. I listened to him speak and I also watched the rest keenly. Some of them were interested and enjoyed it too like some of us but some were bored and were trying to wait out the lecture, none looked as bored as the lady while she crossed her legs and chewed her gum very decently( rare skill I assure you). My lecturer was in the bid to bring the lecture to a grand close, then one of the rest indicated an interest to talk to us. As we discovered, He was a Lion and President of a Customary Court of Appeal;his dress sense and speech skills were impeccable, I was impressed. After his charge, the meeting was brought to a close and we all dispersed. As I was heading back to my hostel, one of my course mates caught up with me and asked me after pleasantries whether I felt the woman was (marginalized or discriminated against, I can't remember his exact diction). I laughed then told me that I didn't because she didn't have any interest to talk to us and if she did, she didn't show it and I knew no one there was a mind reader. I brought to his remembrance the President who indicated interest and was given a chance. He smiled, gave me a look and walked on. I didn't give the issue more thinking time then.

That's the end of my story but you see pals, the concept I have been trying to shape my words around since up there is feminism. My real encounter with this concept was in 200level with the study of Children, Women and the Law. My mind was opened to information, facts, issues and so much more about this concept, some genuine and some ridiculous in my opinion. It made me seek counsel both scholarly, spiritually and some -ally ways I cannot define.
I discovered that I don't want to be a feminist not because I don't want to believe in women and their ability to deliver at responsibilities but simply because I realized that the word 'feminism' does not have an "in rem" definition. It then means if I say I am one, what is in my mind may not match what is in yours and no way I am going to let what I don't know define me.(Aside: also because many man-haters are using the concept as a cloak)

So I decided that I am an ardent believer of give honour to whom honour is due, gender notwithstanding. If the skirt can do it better than the trousers, she should not be sidelined simply because she is the skirt. She should be allowed to achieve her dreams and goals. She should be allowed to compete with the male for things which God in Heaven has not forbidden her to compete for and not be intimidated simply because she is female. If she wants to climb a tree, allow her to, I believe she's counted the cost of climbing a tree. I decided that I am against subduing and oppressing of women simply because they are women and they 'cannot do anything'.
When it comes to the divine aspect, on the authority of the Bible, I believe that men and women are created equal but their duties and responsibilities are different. Check out the curses of Adam and Eve. God has made them both different and none inferior to each other but each to complement and supplement each other in view of achieving one goal.
Then,to my fellow ladies, woman is the love child of God Almighty. It was only before making her that God admitted that something was not good in His own paradise. The favorite of a parent can never be sidelined even if he or she is the youngest. Always seek out, work towards and stand in God's will for your life and no man or woman will be able to topple you. You remember that bae in the bible called Deborah...
Another thing I discovered is that this concept is a Changeling and in my suggestion has to be applied like the mischief rule. What I am saying in essence is that objectivity should be made a main focus while dealing with any real or seeming issue of feminine discrimination.
Again I discovered that no matter how much we protest, shriek and stamp our dainty little feets, some deepseated customs can never change. My grandpa will never let me go get the yam from his barn and would prefer Ekene my toddler nephew to go get it. You think I should barge into the barn like a heroine and get the yam to show him? Lol, no way. Here, the battle is won in the mind. You are not inferior to the male simply because custom says so. Grandpa has his way but my mind gets my say...believe me,that's all that matters...
FARTS! grin

Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Natotogokillme: 3:20pm On Jul 04, 2016
Strahovski1:


If you are crushing on Vinshu just say it.. you can send her a pm stop getting on my nerves. How many times do you have to be banned? Why not get a life?
Still denying you're Vinshu and an internet scammer? Tell that to the winds! And, no, I don't crush on gays.

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Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Strahovski1(m): 3:22pm On Jul 04, 2016
Natotogokillme:

Still denying you're Vinshu and an internet scammer? Tell that to the winds! And, no, I don't crush on gays.

Prove it that I am Vinshu and an Internet scammer. If you cannot, then you are just another gay piece of sh!t who needs his ass ripped with horse d!ck
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Strahovski1(m): 3:47pm On Jul 04, 2016
Natotogokillme:

Stupidity is when you hide your face in a sack and think you're invisible. Keep lying to yourself, bloody internet scammer. You're not only Vinshu but Mr Green and a lot of other IDs. I'm expecting your other handles to come in and defend you now. Oops! He wouldn't dare now that I let it leak. grin You're not better than the garlic you chew for breakfast.

Cc Mynd44 Rule 2 and Rule 9

Lalasticlala thanks
Re: Why I Am Not A Feminist. by Natotogokillme: 3:54pm On Jul 04, 2016
Strahovski1:


Cc My-nd44 Rule 2 and Rule 9

Lalas-ticlala thanks
Crybaby, don't think the mods are kids you can toy with.


You're Vinshu and Green99, and you're a scammer!

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