Dantay: you must be a big fool to choose a friend no matter how close u r to her to ur husband.

chaircover:

You have already made the choice naw so what do you want NL'ders to do after you have used ur hand to scatter the whole thing? Do you want to marry your friend ni?

Anyway next time try and find out why he suddenly doesn't want you associating with someone. in this case You said that they are from the same family so it may be something that you dont even know about. He may or may not have a good reason, but knowledge is power and you could have tried to get to the bottom of it before making a decision especially if this is out of character for him and he isn't normally a controlling or difficult person.
he was wrong to give you an ultimatum and you were wrong for calling his bluff. You were also very wrong for continuing to carry on contact with this lady behind your husbands back. The time and stress it took you to do all that, you could have invested the same effort into finding out from your husband why he doesnt want her round you.

Mma4luv: @chaircover[b],he used to complain that i love my friend,care and respect her more than him [/b]and i tried to convince him to no avail.My question now is this enough reason for a husband to quit his wife relationship with her best friend?

chaircover:

You have already made the choice naw so what do you want NL'ders to do after you have used ur hand to scatter the whole thing? Do you want to marry your friend ni?

Anyway next time try and find out why he suddenly doesn't want you associating with someone. in this case You said that they are from the same family so it may be something that you dont even know about. He may or may not have a good reason, but knowledge is power and you could have tried to get to the bottom of it before making a decision especially if this is out of character for him and he isn't normally a controlling or difficult person.

he was wrong to give you an ultimatum and you were wrong for calling his bluff. You were also very wrong for continuing to carry on contact with this lady behind your husbands back. The time and stress it took you to do all that, you could have invested the same effort into finding out from your husband why he doesnt want her round you.

obowunmi: What if your friend is trying to f,u,c,k your husband? If your marriage isimportant to you, politely let go of your friend.

Mma4luv: Hello nairalander's,i am married and i ve' little girl of a year and four months.My husband met me through my best friend whom is somehow related with my husband,though far relation,the relationship b/w the families were very cordial.After i got married to my husband,my best friend was staying with us until my husband developed a hatred on her,he was able to keep quiet until i was about to put to bed then he told my best friend that it's high time she left the house cos the house will not contain her any longer and the girl left.One day my husband told me to reduce my relationship with her and that got me annoyed cos i wonder how my husband will select my friends for me even my best friend i knew before him,because of my reaction,my husband then said i should quit the relationship.I told the girl about it and we maintained our relationship but i stopped calling her in my hubby's presence and she stopped comming to my house but my husband was never satisfied with that.As a result of this,the relationship between my husband and my best friends family went sour.To cut the story short,yesterday my husband told me that i will have to chose between him and my best friend and i told him that i chose my best friend since he has no reason what so ever to quit me and my best friend,i told him instead of quiting my best friend,i will quit my marriage cos if i allow him,he may soon stop me from all my friends.He then told me angrily that i can go on with the relationship that there is no problem.My husband's reason is that i respect the girl more than him and the girl's philosophy about life and marriage is tottaly different from mine.pls do i have the right to say no in this kind of issue since i know the girl cannot influence me in any way,cos she would have influenced my life over the years i knew her before i met him.Pls advice me

andyanders:


I think there is something beyond your explanation. Maybe you are a lesbian hence your action to chose your friend to your husband. There must be something beyond this because your husband must have noticed something in between you and these your so called friends. You are not clean at all. ou have something hidden

Afamdman: @kobojunkie hmmmmm I wonder which planet your from. Hmmmm I wonder how in ur book the woman has a right to choose btw her friend and her husband. How do u agree with that. @ poster there is more that meets the eye to this your story, you have not told us the complete truth. Please come clean so we can advice you well, except you want ur husband to marry your friend as a second wife. Hmmm women sha SMH you sometimes are your own worst enemies.