I married my wife a virgin. Because of our religious sensibilities, we abstained from sex before our wedding. But two weeks after our wedding, there was no sex. She allowed pre-intimacy, but once I tried to penetrate, she withdrew even without 'contact'. I was patient, thinking it was just a question of fear because of the stories she probably heard about how painful it might be. But on the third week I practically forced my way through... It is two years now, and sex has been far less than fulfilling. First, she never gets wet or even aroused, no matter the pre-intimacy! And after giving birth to our daughter, I still have to, no, I still MUST apply a lubricant to penetrate her.
Is this normal? Is there any help?

You have my blessings!
If you are not strong enough, please USE HAMMER OR YOUR WALKING-STICK.
Lubricate am welly welly ooooooooooh.
Good luck sha-sha!

*relaxing and waiting for comments*

One of the reasons I encourage pre-marital sex

OP, Go work it out. It's part of the lessons you learn in marriage. Keep working on it (with adultery out of your mind).
You 'll find what works for both of you once you discover her "mumu" button.

Hmm, there are books and online articles about marital sexual satisfaction. Moreso, you never mentioned talking to your wife so that you both could straighten things out.

Tazmode: Hmm, there are books and online articles about marital sexual satisfaction. Moreso, you never mentioned talking to your wife so that you both could straighten things out.

We have spoken about it. I left out a lot of details because I get strained typing long things, but her elder sister is aware. Things were worse than I presented them. She actually admitted to her problem, but it would seem it was
beyond her.

I have this kinda gf. She never get wet even if u pre-intimacy til next year. But she claims she loves me. I dunno if it's a medical condition or abnormalities.

ozalogbo: I married my wife a virgin. Because of our religious sensibilities, we abstained from sex before our wedding. But two weeks after our wedding, there was no sex. She allowed pre-intimacy, but once I tried to penetrate, she withdrew even without 'contact'. I was patient, thinking it was just a question of fear because of the stories she probably heard about how painful it might be. But on the third week I practically forced my way through... It is two years now, and sex has been far less than fulfilling. First, she never gets wet or even aroused, no matter the pre-intimacy! And after giving birth to our daughter, I still have to, no, I still MUST apply a lubricant to penetrate her.
Is this normal? Is there any help?

maybe pre-intimacy is not enough. has she ever initiated sex?

Ah no know wetin to talk for dis matter o.oga op sorry ehn.on a serious note have u tried going down on her?

I think both of u should talk to a doctor. Maybe she's lacking some vitamins.... I don't know what else to say

ladyju: I think both of u should talk to a doctor. Maybe she's lacking some vitamins.... I don't know what else to say

OP, pls learn to perfect your skills. Who knows whether na teeth you dey use to chop off her .

ladyju: I think both of u should talk to a doctor. Maybe she's lacking some vitamins.... I don't know what else to say

are there vitamins that aid women's arousal and wetness??

What is your wife saying or doing about this her challenge? Is she willing to make things right?

Whats your MUMU button?

breathless: OP, Go work it out. It's part of the lessons you learn in marriage. Keep working on it (with adultery out of your mind).
You 'll find what works for both of you once you discover her "mumu" button.

I am not doubting the authenticity of your story but I think I have read this story somewhere sometime ago.

Who send you go marry virgin?

1stCitizen: Who send you go marry virgin?

can't you marry a virgin?

Godmystrength: can't you marry a virgin?

My personal preference though. I cannot!!! simple. Those that did that I know of had too many issues that created marital problems for them. That of the OP is even trivial and can be sorted compared to others. I am not encouraging pre-marital sex but being very realistic. A sexually inexperienced woman with a sexually experienced husband is recipe for disaster.

things er really happening...

*takes chair sidon* I think the lecture is here.

Dang!

She need serious sex education. Seems she doesnt like sex

Hope you are not my husband oh
Cos we still make use of lubricant tho I didn't marry a virgin

@op u got it all wrong by forcing ur way tru at the first instance. That is not hw any girl wants to loose IT. What shez probably going tru could b d psychological effect of dat nite.

My dear, u've got lots of work to do. I wld advice u dnt b too forward with sex. Spoil her wit gifts(must nt b expensive) try sex outside ur home,could lodge etc

In general, spice up ur marriage. Do things together to tighten ur bond.

1stCitizen:

My personal preference though. I cannot!!! simple. Those that did that I know of had too many issues that created marital problems for them. That of the OP is even trivial and can be sorted compared to others. I am not encouraging pre-marital sex but being very realistic. A sexually inexperienced woman with a sexually experienced husband is recipe for disaster.

Since you are not encouraging pre-marital sex, whom do you expect to disflower the virgins before you can marry them?

rolled: Hope you are not my husband oh
Cos we still make use of lubricant tho I didn't marry a virgin

bursted

OP some women are just like. If she indicates interest in intimacy but is being inhibited by certain fears, the best bet is to meet a doctor or a sex therapist. Adultery may not solve your "problem" ur wife needs help which only you can render. Just understand that it is a gradual thing.

Science called it Genophobia.
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Godmystrength: Since you are not encouraging pre-marital sex, whom do you expect to disflower the virgins before you can marry them?

What a question? No be person dis-virgin me? haba? Na ghost?

Even sef, Virgin dey Nigeria again? abi you no sabi say woman wey claim say she be virgin na him dey no dey gree do for wedding night and dey frustrate him hubby with the way she go the contract the thing to mimick virginity, then run enter bathroom like say she dey bleed. We don hear plenty tory my bro.

Seriously.
I said I am very sexually experienced. Why should I marry a virgin when I am not one. We will definitely not be on the same wavelength.

Op, I think your wifey has a case of frigidity which is purely psychological. In such a condition, Its hard to get a woman's vaginal lubricants going, down yonder. Please perish the thought of adultery. You can seek medical advise. Did you try speaking to a doctor in your past attempts to remedy the situation ? A psycho- counsellor can be of help.