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Ive been married and divorced, and all your information is excellent and very relevant!

Thanks for all the feedback. I plan to move on because you guys are absolutely right.. he has to also fight if he wants it.. being passive to his family is a problem.

I am not familiar specifically with Nigerians..as he is the first one I have ever dated, but I socialize almost entirely with Africans. I have Ghanian friends and was married to a Cameroonian man. I am very open to learning the culture. I have not met his family as we have only been dating for a few months, and I suspect due to the fact that he already knows that they would not accept me. However he still keep in contact, offers to take me out and come and spend time. This is why Im confused because he is sending mixed messages.

Im in a very hopeless situation, and I dont know which way to turn. I met a Nigerian guy a few months ago, and he was my dreams come true. We are always so happy together. However, his family does not approve of him dating any American. His father is adamant that he marry another Nigerian and my guy is in the middle of it. On one hand, we have fun, but he does not want conflit with his family. He told me we could be friends, but Im wondering if it is worth the effort because I really have strong feelings for him. What are the chances of it blossoming into something longterm? Should I just try to move on or fight?