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Mom007:
Buy a big flat bath, the one we call plastic baff. She should place it on the floor of the second toilet, stand or squat in it and take her bath. When she is done, she can pour the water down the toilet or drainage. Problems solved. It's like you don't know how much renting an accommodation is right now.

Thank you for your suggestion

lionphil:
I know times are hard but given the situation with the son, I'll advise you pay rent upfront for some years if possible. Then tell the mum. If anything happens to that woman (God forbid) the quit notice will come very swiftly.

Thank you so much for the advice I will discuss it with my hubby.

lionphil:
So this automatically means the young lady doesn't take her bath at night before sleeping... I must commend you for your wisdom but you need to fix that bathroom yourself and save your niece from getting into wrong hands.

You are obviously saving money from rent why don't you simply use your money to fix the bathroom? You will save more than a third of that amount you'd use to get a new apartment except of course you and your husband are very wicked and ungrateful after being given such a cheap place.

We have no issue about fixing the bathroom but the landlord son is a difficult man ever since the father had dementia he is abroad now. he is not happy that we are living here for cheaper he wanted to increase the rent with 100k but his mother refused he is not happy with us and he won't allow us to fix it. I wanted my husband to complain to his mother over this toilet issue but he refusec saying he doesn't want to cause trouble between mother and son we have to ignore and manage the house like that.

Pennywise2:
rent a place for her. Bring up the suggestion.
2. Change accommodation
3. She only need a room. Get her a campus accommodation. Talk to her abt it till she accepts. Start slowly.

PS . Don't give chances to destroy ur marriage and don't accuse anyone yet

Thank you for the advice she will not have any problem about moving out . .actually I am the one who is afraid of letting her go because of she will have no guardian or boundaries.

immortalcrown:
Undergraduates below her age rent apartments for themselves for schooling.

Noted thank you

Good morning everyone I need your mature advice on this situation. I am married with 4 kids we live in a 4 bedroom flat the price is very very cheap because it belongs to my father's in law childhood friend. What we are paying in this area cheaper than what other people are paying for the 2 bedroomed house. But the downside is we have 2 toilet in the house the one with the shower is attached to our bedroom and the second one doesn't have a shower it been okay for us with our children. Although we had spoke to the landlord son who's in charge of the house about building a shower in the other toilet he promised to do so but nothing so far. It happened that my 19 years old soon to be 20 niece has gotten a job in our city and she moved in with us for the past 2 months she is here and she is also working. Before she used to bath in the other toilet with a bucket of water because there is no shower drain water used ti flood in the house it become stressfull cleaning all.the water and she was getting late for work. I used to help her sometimes but my hand is also busy with the kids plus my business so I have asked her to be woken up at 4am everyday. To use our bedroom shower although my hubby is not
aware because he is a deep sleeper he doesn't even know when she enter and leave the room. For the past 2 weeks she is using the shower in our room the problem is my hubby doesn't wear anything to bed except boxer and he doesn't like to cover although he is a deep sleeper if I try to cover him he will feel the heat and remove it complaining that he is hot..so the way my niece has been entering our room at 4am sometime I am also asleep at that time I don't even know when she enter because is also tiring for me to be awake at this time everyday and for her to seeing my hubby in his boxers I don't find it appropriate and am not very comfortable with the situation anymore. And the day my hubby will found out that she is using our shower he will not find it funny he will be very angry with me. I don't want to loose my marriage because if this issue please I need your mature advice what should I do with my niece. She is only 20 she is still a child is renting a room for a 20 years old to live alone is appropriate or not..am very scared because I don't want her to have the freedom and to start messing around with men or even carry belle. Help me please I will be in the comment section