₦airaland Forum

parent-child interactions
typically happens in five steps.
The parents:
1. become aware of the child's
emotion;
2. recognize the emotion as an
opportunity for intimacy and
teaching;
3. listen empathetically,
validating the child's feelings;
4. help the child find words to
label the emotion he is having;
and
5. set limits while exploring
strategies to solve the problem
at hand.

"Family life is our first school
for emotional learning, " writes
Daniel Goleman, psychologist
and author of Emotional
Intelligence, a book that
describes in rich detail the
scientific research that has led
to our growing understanding
of this field. "In this intimate
cauldron we learn how to feel
about ourselves and how others
will react to our feelings; how
to think about these feelings
and what choices we have in
reacting; how to read and
express hopes and fears. This
emotional schooling operates not
just through the things parents
say and do directly to children,
but also in the models they
offer for handling their own
feelings and those that pass
between husband and wife.
Some parents are gifted
emotional teachers, others
atrocious."

When mothers
and fathers use a coaching
style of parenting, their
children become more resilient.
The kids who are Emotion-
Coached still get sad, angry, or
scared under difficult
circumstances, but they are
better able to soothe
themselves, bounce back from
distress, and carry on with
productive activities. In other
words, they are more
emotionally intelligent.

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