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. by yuzedo: 1:23pm On Dec 17, 2015
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Re: . by Aviero: 1:41pm On Dec 17, 2015
F*ckin True!
Re: . by yuzedo: 1:48pm On Dec 17, 2015
Aviero:
F*ckin True!
That I am handsome? angry
Re: . by TV01(m): 2:08pm On Dec 17, 2015
yuzedo:
I believe I am ready, by God’s grace, simply because I like to think that (true) love is sacrifice, and I’m already very much in love with my unborn kids…….
Funny, but so true. A very fair view of a mans life, is of sacrifice - of his vigour, labour and, even his well-being in caring for his wife and children. And for most men – especially the “ordinary Joe”, that is the reality.

It’s why I can’t stand ignorant, entitled women painting men as brutes, and spouting off about discrimination and supposed ill-treatment. Few women, if any, would want too, or be capable of swapping places with ole’ Joe. God bless him.

Good piece. And all the very best in your labour of love - may it not go unrewarded or unappreciated wink


TV

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Re: . by Smartsyn(m): 2:22pm On Dec 17, 2015
As I went through the post, I thought of the last time I say a heart felt "Thank You" to my dad or even bought something special for him at of the blues and couldn't remember.

Even this Christmas, I have already bought some pair of shoes and bag for my mum, but didn't even buy any thing for him. I will always dismiss the thought with "what will you buy for someone that have everything, he can take care of himself".

Having thought it through, I will do something extraordinary for my dad, this Christmas to say thank you.

And then pray that my children will not always think that "he'll take care of himself".

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Re: . by AZeD1(m): 2:24pm On Dec 17, 2015
What more can I say? I guess part of being a man is knowing your efforts would mostly like go unappreciated but you can't and shouldn't abandon ship.

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Re: . by Aviero: 2:33pm On Dec 17, 2015
yuzedo:

That I am handsome? angry


Earlier this year, I had a face off with my pops about how I really don't "care" about him. He was all about how I only get to talk with him when I am in need of something. He didn't hide his feelings. What He said wasn't completely true tho, but this piece explains everything.

While not attempting to take anything away from the special
and very well-deserved status and rewards naturally
conferred on motherhood, it seems a shame that despite
every effort and sacrifice made and intended by fathers,
they will never be at par with their more venerated
partners.


Mothers will always win.

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Re: . by Nobody: 2:37pm On Dec 17, 2015
. I believe I am ready, by God’s grace, simply because I like to think that (true) love is sacrifice, and I’m already very much in love with my unborn kids……. But they better fucking love me right back, or their momma can fix the damn car engines while I drink my beer! Ugh!

Lol
Re: . by Nobody: 2:48pm On Dec 17, 2015
Hi Boo!! kiss kiss

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Re: . by poshestmina(f): 2:51pm On Dec 17, 2015
Roles of fathers are truly always unappreciated
Can't remember the last time I called or bought my dad anything cry cry
Re: . by base83: 2:53pm On Dec 17, 2015
Really apt, I can recall every wrong I 'felt' dad had done to me growing up as little as counting within the range of ten occurance, I nvr forgot. Buh mum has a record longer than a book can keep buh I not only forgive almost immediately I forget as well. Guess will jus learn to try balancing embarassed
Re: . by Nobody: 4:47pm On Dec 17, 2015
Got my dad a gift today for the first time and I don't understand why I felt so overwhelmed with joy... Can't wait to give it to him tonight.


Someone should sing "sweet father" already

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Re: . by Crixina(f): 4:52pm On Dec 17, 2015
Yuzedo, very nice piece and true.

Sometimes when I talk to him, I can almost swear I hear the emotional neglect in his voice or maybe that's just my conscience nagging me.

But love on all sides has never been stronger.

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Re: . by Vivly(f): 4:59pm On Dec 17, 2015
If I ask for a summarized version, it's not because I'm too lazy to read. Summarized version please.

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Re: . by Nobody: 5:06pm On Dec 17, 2015
Will read this later...
Re: . by Nobody: 5:12pm On Dec 17, 2015
Well, when I become a father someday, the successes of my kids is enough payback for me.
All that emotional sentiments seem rather feminine to me.
Men are men.

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Re: . by cococandy(f): 5:17pm On Dec 17, 2015
I don't under appreciate my father.
But I appreciate each one according to their efforts. cool

Anyway human beings are emotional beings. Male and female. And hence tend to care more about those who bond emotionally with them.

Dear fathers, pls take the time to have that emotional connection with your kids and you'll see your problems of being neglected in old age gradually disappear.

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Re: . by cococandy(f): 5:17pm On Dec 17, 2015
Yuzedo how far?
Re: . by yuzedo: 5:27pm On Dec 17, 2015
cococandy:
Yuzedo how far?
Sound as a pound, ma'am! Et tu?
Re: . by flyca: 5:37pm On Dec 17, 2015
yuzedo:
Wednesday 9th December 2015, 8am.


Yuzedo (handsome and SINGLE) writes from Ikoyi, Lagos. All rights reserved, don't f*cking lift this and post on your site without permission if you don't want me to close down that your two-bit-wannabe blog for nothing.
Yuzedo why are you writing from Ikoyi? What happened to your banana Iceland manshun? angryundecided

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Re: . by yuzedo: 5:43pm On Dec 17, 2015
flyca:
Yuzedo why are you writing from Ikoyi? What happened to your banana Iceland manshun? angryundecided
Did u tink banana iceland is inside egbada or okokomaiko? undecided dis wat happen wen u do nursry school agege, prymary school agege, secondry school agege, univasity, orile-agege.............. WE GIV UPPPP!!!!!! angry angry angry angry

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Re: . by VocalWalls: 5:45pm On Dec 17, 2015
yuzedo:

That I am handsome? angry


Gauy, wear harve yuou bean?

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Re: . by Amhappy(f): 6:03pm On Dec 17, 2015
Well when the children are growing up most daddies have no emotional connection to them. They are only care about providing money which is very important but means little to youngsters. Most men spend less time with their family and their only discussion is about school in a scolding manner. Men who spend their spare time with their children do get remembered. I remember a late uncle that spent quality time with us while we're growing up,he know me more than my dad and I do get him gifts even as a student.

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Re: . by Diplomaticbeing(m): 6:22pm On Dec 17, 2015
Eyekandi:
Got my dad a gift today for the first time and I don't understand why I felt so overwhelmed with joy... Can't wait to give it to him tonight.


Someone should sing "sweet father" already

That's nice of you. By the way, let me know the best means to reach you privately.
Re: . by Nobody: 9:43pm On Dec 17, 2015
Despite his many flaws, my father has my eternal love and respect. If he's not the world's best dad, I'm sure he did his best for me. That's enough.

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Re: . by flyca: 1:51am On Dec 18, 2015
yuzedo:

Did u tink banana iceland is inside egbada or okokomaiko? undecided dis wat happen wen u do nursry school agege, prymary school agege, secondry school agege, univasity, orile-agege.............. WE GIV UPPPP!!!!!! angry angry angry angry
Lol. I don't live in Lagos o. Pls always write BANANA ICELAND in bold. Its your signature here. That is what we your NL fans understand cheesy
Re: . by Nobody: 3:25am On Dec 18, 2015
Beautifully written

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Re: . by GboyegaD(m): 3:40am On Dec 18, 2015
The challenge is that fathers are never emotional. I know they feel our pains but just try to be men by not expressing it while the emotions shown by our moms got us attached to them.

More so, the fact that they act like they don't care gave us the wrong impression of how much they yearn to comnect to us at all levels of life.

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Re: . by DocAdray(f): 10:23am On Dec 18, 2015
Two days ago, my dad requested that I buy him something 'little' and nice when coming back from work, with MY own money (I still collect money from him sometimes lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed).
I weakly protested but later got him a very nice wine.
The old man was sooo excited that he kept intimidating his wife with the wine. Well, I was really glad that I got him something...
Fathers appreciates our gifts and attention too!

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Re: . by Nobody: 11:48am On Dec 18, 2015
GboyegaD:
The challenge is that fathers are never emotional. I know they feel our pains but just try to be men by not expressing it while the emotions shown by our moms got us attached to them.

More so, the fact that they act like they don't care gave us the wrong impression of how much they yearn to comnect to us at all levels of life.

Men hardly show emotions most times because that's what we do. The aim is to make people understand what it means to be a man, not turn men into women just to "get some love". The person who first confronts danger and has to be clinical in most decisions is not likely to be gushing emotions upandan. Feminising men is a major reason why gays are on the increase; forcing men to emphsize their feminine side is just... meh.

Let men be men.

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Re: . by GboyegaD(m): 5:46pm On Dec 18, 2015
Timbuktou:


Men hardly show emotions most times because that's what we do. The aim is to make people understand what it means to be a man, not turn men into women just to "get some love". The person who first confronts danger and has to be clinical in most decisions is not likely to be gushing emotions upandan. Feminising men is a major reason why gays are on the increase; forcing men to emphsize their feminine side is just... meh.

Let men be men.

Showing emotions has got nothing to do with sex as we are human. Emotions does not require you break down rather some kind of empathy and concerns in situations.

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Re: . by Nobody: 6:25pm On Dec 18, 2015
GboyegaD:


Showing emotions has got nothing to do with sex as we are human. Emotions does not require you break down rather some kind of empathy and concerns in situations.

Men do not show emotions the way women do, moreover, both sexes tend to process and react to situations in different ways. A popular example is the reaction of a man to a woman having a problem; while the man's natural reaction is to solve the problem, a woman is more likely to provide a shoulder to cry on. Does that mean the man lacks empathy or concern? In fact, as a man, who would you say proved empathy and concern for the woman in trouble.

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