DAILY NUGGETS 07/09/2016

BY

JONATHAN O. EVESO

LEARN THE ART OF MODERATION (PART 2)... SELF CONTROL !!!

Hello Dear Friend,

I hope you had a simple and moderated day yesterday.

Today, we shall continue in our moderation series. The focus is on SELF CONTROL or SELF MASTERY if you will.

In our race for success, and our desire for improvement in every sphere of our lives, be it in the financial, emotional, career, spiritual or social circles, we may or may not know the acceptable boundaries to keep. That is, our actions or inactions might step on people's toes, emotions, will power, authority, freewill, Respect, name it!. Try as you may, you can't help but have one or two disgruntled rivals either at work, family, church or mosque, School, social gathering, etc. You cannot please everybody!. However, in order not to escalate the number of your "haters", you need to practice and make SELF CONTROL/MASTERY a habit. My friend, this requires re-examining your life.

An unexamined life is not worth living ---- oracle at Delphi

Re-examining your life require you or a trusted unbiased 3rd party to x-ray your character, your approach to issues, people and challenging situations generally. If you can objectively point out your areas of weakness and strength whilst fashioning out ways to work on those weaknesses, you are well on your way to character renewal. The expected results varies depending on temperament(internal) and upbringing/social environment(external) factors.


SELF CONTROL/MASTERY simply put is a man's ability to say NO, to things he has weakness for or primarily lack control over. In other words, it is your ability to say NO to things, people, situations, temptations that are unimportant or potentially harmful to you and to your relationships with others. If you are a sweet tooth, saying NO to chocolates everyday is self control. Declining drinks after work with colleagues especially when you know you are not a strong drinker is self control. It saves you from unnecessary embarrassment.

Your ability to say No to bad things you always like to do, refusing to treat people badly, avoiding dangerous habits like smoking, drinking, talking too much, backbiting, any other addiction And bad character is the first step towards self mastery.

HOW TO MAKE SELF CONTROL A HABIT
Making self control a habit requires that you set an initial target of SAYING NO as discussed above for a few days to few weeks. Basically, psychologists have surmised that an act repeated consistently for a month stand better chance of becoming a habit. Don't forget to reward yourself when you meet your target. It's a positive motivating factor towards learning the new habit of SELF CONTROL.

NOTE:
Self control is not easy especially for a carefree spirited person. It requires a strong desire for positive change and will power to achieve results.

ADVANTAGES OF SELF CONTROL
1. you become unpredictable, which reduces the chance of people manipulating you at will
2. You gain people's respect for being able to hold your own
3. You have more time to do and be with productive people.
4. Prevents embarrassment

DISCLAIMER: saying NO too much might make you miss opportunities that may never be regained. Discretion is advised.

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