https://www.nairaland.com/3431513/should-end-relationship by @billiondoe

Hello Nairalanders, I saw my gf's post which eventually made the front page. I introduced her to nairaland. this is not my real account though. let me be brief, We have been dating for 8 months and she just woke up one day that we should marry like now now, I was taken aback, I told her people don't just wake up and get married. Her ex is local yahoo boy who cant compose a complete English sentence, she claimed she left him because he wasn't ready to leave yahoo, they dated for five years whatever happened between them is not my business. My father is a major stakeholder in the Nigeria Oil and Gas industry so we have a family company run by myself and brother but overseen my our dad. She said my family controls me but there is no atom of truth in it. my older brother just got married last month we haven't even finished celebrating and she wants us to to tie the knot. I don't plan to dump her but you don't just rush in so you don't rush out. She knows that if I tell my family I'm ready, they won't stop me and we won't have any problem with money cars or houses. She doesn't not have job because she doesn't want to, I agreed for her to enroll in what she wants to as an entrepreneur. Now she is almost done with the training but haven't opened her shop yet. Now she wants marriage but my orientation is that both the man and the woman should be working before they tie the knot. I was eventually mad at her when I saw the post but decided to take it cool. and wait for the comments. I was supposed to do a masters program in Uk but withdrew even after paying tuition because of their BREXIT issue I tried to get her a visa to the UK before applying for mine but unfortunately she was denied. As God would have it my Dad finally convinced me to run it another country. I am on the verge of applying for hers too so she could come around after few months. Whatever the outcome is, law of nature would come in. because your ex is a yahoo boy and can throw money around doesn't mean I should too dear. I want us to have have good future. forget that that I have a billionaire father that would readily support me. we worked for this and not maye money. I don't blame my father that tries to protect us from being taken disadvantaged of but you and i know that I have have mind of my own. so..........i love you babe whatever it means to you. thanks to those that advised us.



vickylala239, karbridals, LadyB1195, Brightgem, TreasuredLeidy, sisisioge

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[size=18pt]Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew.....[/size]

You people must be mistaking NL for your living room.

We go c anoda reply 4rm d gal again to u

Mtcheew

Chai! This is what happens when one or the two of a couple decides to take their laundry out. Biko, you guys should just take this indoor and settle it. She obviously has a lot on her mind and, so do you. It gets really dirty and fierce if you allow social media settle your disagreements. You would end up causing irreparable damage.

I wish you two good luck...go talk your talk privately.

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Am I suppose to believe this?

As if I knew. Like I said in the first thread and I will say again: ALL THAT GLITTERS ISN'T GOLD. Women should take it easy. Sometimes, it is hard to rightly divide a matter if you hear one side of the story. Always one-sided on NL....

Chai
He loves her

Don't blame your girlfriend completely . First of all you are still young @27, secondly she is very ripe for marriage and also a graduate. You must not be working before you marry, people still marry undergraduate.
The thing here is that you are not ready for marriage but she is, women marry early you know. Maybe her people are disturbing her to get marriage which is the norm in Nigeria society . Don't be surprise if she leave for her ex or a new guy that come around and is serious about marriage .



And who said two brothers can't marry the same time?

mysticgal:
Chai He loves her

But he doesn't spend as much as the other guy

I smell lies....

omowumeee:
But he doesn't spend as much as the other guy

Girls should come to this point in life where money does not matter. A man could give you money but do not love or even like you. I learnt that recently and she needs to learn that too that's if the op's story is true.
This guy obviously has good plans for her so she should chill, and lastly she should get something doing and stop looking at how many cars, and houses these men have.... Sweetheart, go get your own ohhh!!

Assuming this story is true.

I suggest you dump her, nothing about her matches your kind of person. She sounds very vain and shallow.

Only if this story is true.

Modified
Take a look at her username sef

Are you guys done, disturbing us with your issues?






























































OK.

belamour:
You Introduce Ur GF To Nairaland

Your Daddy Is Into Oil n Gas

You Manage Your Family Company

Your Daddy Is A Billionaire

Your Brother Just Wed

Her Ex Is A Local Yahoo

Inside All Dese Recession

speechless

O my o my

Childishness everywhere

Efemena
Cococandy
kanwuliaextra

You're all invited into this thread

mysticgal:

Girls should come to this point in life where money does not matter. A man could give you money but do not love or even like you. I learnt that recently and she needs to learn that too that's if the op's story is true.
This guy obviously has good plans for her so she should chill, and lastly she should get something doing and stop looking at how many cars, and houses these men have.... Sweetheart, go get your own ohhh!!

True talk.. I would advice the op Not to marry her yet if this story is true.. cuz according to her the relationship is like world war2 and considering another man for being rich, houses and cars

Nairaland now na police station abi? If no be say I like your moniker ehn... Make I go find food chop first I dey come back.

omowumeee:
True talk.. I would advice the op Not to marry her yet if this story is true.. cuz according to her the relationship is like world war2 and considering another man for being rich, houses and cars

Me sef dey wonder dey wondering

Nl don turn court room.

If this story is true, then this your gf needs help Asap. how can one even consider a G guy for marriage. Chukwu mekalu ndi mmadu ebele. At 25, she is ripe but not late for marriage.

hmmmm. As if I knew.
I advised her to stay away from d ex who became an ex for a reason.
let her find something doing n stop counting d amount of cars her ex has. mtcheeeeeeerw


well, @op, if dis ur story is true. den plz forgive her for her ignorant.
oya make una go settle una matter for THE OTHER ROOM n leave Nairaland 4 now

Pandorabox:
Don't blame your girlfriend completely . First of all you are still young @27, secondly she is very ripe for marriage and also a graduate. You must not be working before you marry, people still marry undergraduate.
The thing here is that you are not ready for marriage but she is, women marry early you know. Maybe her people are disturbing her to get marriage which is the norm in Nigeria society . Don't be surprise if she leave for her ex or a new guy that come around and is serious about marriage .

@Bolded.. I am not understanding

Did you read the write-up where the OP stated that she has nothing doing and he decided to enrol her for entrepreneurship training?

What then makes her ready?
She's beautiful and 25 yrs of age and would end up becoming a total liability all because the fiancee's father is into oil and gas?

This marriage is gradually becoming a scam for guys.

As far as i know, any other guy can come for her for marriage. Would willingly kick her r.at-a.ss. out of my life.

So dis babe get dis kind bobo,na she dey bend head one go follow her ex yahoo bobo. Wat do girls really want

Family section don turn something else...!

Your Gf is just not serious to me... You need to stay away from here for now

I knew the melodramatic story of that lady wedged in between Scylla and Charybdis on whether to go for her ex or her current boyfriend was a beautifully scripted lie dreamed up from the pits of Hell.

To say you're both ready and matured for nuptials, belittles the institution called marriage.

Hmnn! When will people learn to keep their relationship and marriage issues away from social media. I don't just get it. @dear op, I know you are hurt but this is not the best, pls settle this at home.