Asc first of all...

I'm not the one that needs help, it's one of my friends. Long story short, she likes this guy, the guy likes her back,been talking for a year now, wants to get married but her parents told her they want a guy from the same race.... he's not black.
I know that's haram, that in islam what matters most is the deen and how strong the iman is but they won't budge. Hell my parents tried talking to them but they won't listen. Do they have another option?

Try talking to another trusted family member or someone else that her parents respect to try to convince them.

Is it only because of the race or do they have other reasons to be concerned?

snapscore:
Try talking to another trusted family member or someone else that her parents respect to try to convince them.

Is it only because of the race or do they have other reasons to be concerned?

I personally know the guy and he has all the good qualities. They don't know him. Her family has mentioned her marrying her own race before. She has her aunt coming this weekend to talk to her mom but it's unlikely that she'll change her mind... they're very stubborn. But I heard that if your parents refuse to let you marry someone for stupid reasons like this, that you can have your uncle approve of it? Am I wrong?

well if there is no shareeah reason why thry are preventing her from marrying then after begging them and they still insist, the wali role should be transfered to another person in the family, the grandfather for instance.

The wali does not have the right to prevent a woman from marrying on the basis of his own whims and with no shareeah reason.

lexiconkabir:
well if there is no shareeah reason why thry are preventing her from marrying then after begging them and they still insist, the wali role should be transfered to another person in the family, the grandfather for instance.

The wali does not have the right to prevent a woman from marrying on the basis of his own whims and with no shareeah reason.

Yah that's what I thought but her grandparents live in Africa and this girl is in the USA...

if all her guardians prevent her for no shareeah reason, then the leader of that community(who should be a muslim) will be her wali.

HayatH:


Yah that's what I thought but her grandparents live in Africa and this girl is in the USA...

how bout her uncles?

HayatH:


I personally know the guy and he has all the good qualities. They don't know him. Her family has mentioned her marrying her own race before. She has her aunt coming this weekend to talk to her mom but it's unlikely that she'll change her mind... they're very stubborn. But I heard that if your parents refuse to let you marry someone for stupid reasons like this, that you can have your uncle approve of it? Am I wrong?

Yes you can. An uncle from the paternal side.

If they haven't met him, how can they refuse him? Maybe he should pay them a visit. It not like they will chase him out of the house would they?

I would also strongly encourage that istikhara should be performed.

lexiconkabir:


how bout her uncles?

Yah, they're both here.

snapscore:


Yes you can. An uncle from the paternal side.

If they haven't met him, how can they refuse him? Maybe he should pay them a visit. It not like they will chase him out of the house would they?

I would also strongly encourage that istikhara should be performed.

They don't even want to be see him.... as soon as they heard that he's not black, their answer was "hell no"

HayatH:


They don't even want to be see him.... as soon as they heard that he's not black, their answer was "hell no"

Oh really?

Then I don't know.

I ask Allah to soften their hearts.

snapscore:


Oh really?

Then I don't know.

I ask Allah to soften their hearts.

Me too.

HayatH:


Yah, they're both here.

then, one of them can do the job, i hope they agree tho.

HayatH:


Me too.

You know, tell your friend not to worry about it. This is probably a rough time for her but everything will workout the way it's meant to.

If her parents refuse and she decides uses her uncle (from paternal side) as a guardian, then I would still strongly encourage isthikhara.

Ask her if she knows about it. I would try searching for some links about it. Some of them are already here on NL.

In the meantime, just tell her not to worry much.

snapscore:


You know, tell your friend not to worry about it. This is probably a rough time for her but everything will workout the way it's meant to.

If her parents refuse and she decides uses her uncle (from paternal side) as a guardian, then I would still strongly encourage isthikhara.

Ask her if she knows about it. I would try searching for some links about it. Some of them are already here on NL.

In the meantime, just tell her not to worry much.

I will InShaaAllah, thank you for your help