DEVELOPING YOUR SELF-WORTH
Self-worth is an internal state of being that comes from self-understanding, self-love, and self-acceptance. It is the most essential aspect of one’s life. If you do not understand how to appreciate yourself and your worth, how do you expect others to? Life is too short to maintain toxic relationships. In order for you to flourish, you need to work on yourself first.
To have high level of self-worth means having a favorable opinion or estimate of yourself. It means having unshakable faith in yourself and in your ability to follow through and get things done. It means feeling worthy of good things; feeling deserving of happiness, health, wealth, success and love no matter what difficulties you might face, disappointments you may experience, or what other people might say about you or might not say to you.
“Don’t expect anyone to love or respect you if you do not fully love or respect yourself first.”
If you don’t respect yourself then you won’t take care of yourself the way you should. By achieving this respect, you must set boundaries for your life and your relationships. This will encourage people’s deference to you. You cannot allow people to treat you poorly and if they do, you need to recognize your worth and walk away. Others cannot negatively influence the opinion of yourself; this will only lead to degradation of your worth. You must love and respect yourself before anyone else can.
People accept toxic jobs and relationships because they do not respect themselves enough to realize they deserve better. Too many people become complacent in these aspects and stop striving for greater things.
“We should only accept the love we think we deserve.”
Relationships become detrimental when the self-respect is lacking. You end up hurting the other person and yourself. You need to love yourself enough to choose the ones that make you happy and motivate you to grow.
“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anyone or anything that no longer serves you, grow you, or makes you happy.”
A lack of self-respect can and most often does, result in depression and self-destructive behaviors. You need to reinforce your positive qualities and actively try to fix your negative qualities. When everything else in the world fails you, you will always have your self-respect to fall back on. How you feel about yourself affects every single aspect of your life.
HOW TO BUILD SELF-WORTH
The foremost step in building self-worth is to stop comparing yourself to others and evaluating your every move; in other words, you need to challenge your critical inner voice. The critical inner voice is like nasty coach in our heads that constantly nag us with destructive thoughts towards ourselves or others. This internalized dialogue or critical thoughts or “inner voices” undermines our sense of self-worth and even leads to self-destructive or maladaptive behaviors, which make us feel even worse about ourselves.
We all have a “critical inner voice” which acts like a cruel coach inside our heads that tells us we are worthless or underserving of happiness. This coach is shaped from painful childhood experiences and critical attitudes we were exposed to early in life as well as feelings our parents had about them. While these attitudes can be hurtful, over time, they have become engrained in us. As adults, we may fail to see them as an enemy, instead accepting their destructive point of views as our own.
However, we can challenge the inner critic and begin to see ourselves for who we really are rather than taking on its negative point of view about ourselves. We can differentiate from the ways we were seen in our family of origin and begin to understand and appreciate our own feelings, thoughts, desires and values.
“It is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself.” ABRAHAM LINCOLN
In a nutshell, building your self-worth is fundamental to achieving real success in your life. Forget what society tells you about what it means to have succeeded, and endeavor to create your own definition of success based on those human qualities and virtues that you value most. Make it your goal to become a successful being by inwardly living and outwardly displaying those virtues you admire most and you will find no competition in your way. When you have built your self-worth based on your own definition of success, you will find out that all those material things and outer appearances that once seemed out of reach no longer define you, and that they paradoxically now flow freely towards you. This is what it means to have succeeded your way.



©QUEENETH PATOSKY

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