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@29yrs I don’t have a stable relationship which as been a major concern bothering me day and night , I intend to settle down by 30 but the problem is in any of my relationships when Sex is involved I start losing feelings to the extent I won’t want to see the girl again , some friends said am not serious and I don’t know what I want but the truth is I do know what I want , I fall in love naturally but the day sex involve I start losing feelings immediately and I don’t know how to hide it ... pls I need advice how to can overcome this pls dont batch me just an advance , Thanks

I can relate.

It is a 'mind' thing, bro.

what is missing here is COMMITMENT.

It is a normal thing to lose interest in a girl after having sexed her, but have it in mind that it is same with girls [not guys only].
but, the one you want to keep a long-time relationship with should be committed to.

some girls are even worst in this case. that's why most of them keep multiple guys. they ditch the ones they lost interest in.

Don't let me lie to you, even some married men/women would tell you the same if you asked them, but, because it is a husband - wife thing, they have no choice than to stay put and continue their stuff.


u should also have experienced where after having sexed a particular girl, u lost interest in her, but after some few days, u developed interest in her again.


the simple advice for you is to focus on COMMITMENT, rather than the sex. that's why I said that it is a mind thing. you've gotta makeup your mind that "even if I lost interest in u after sex, I'm not letting you go."

but, you surely must have loved her first, then commitment follows.


walahi, your case is simple. just change your mindset and become a committed person....

it is very simple. Trust me.

The guy above has made a lot of sense.
Its a mind thing majorly. Get your mind renewed when it comes to women. See them as a necessity not just a pleasure giver.

I recommend "The Worth of Women" translated and Edited by Virginia Cox.