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The headlines this week have been filled with various shocking details of infidelity with well known figures in government. First, we heard that respected IMF Chief, Dominque Struass-Khan had been accused of allegedly sexually assaulting a maid in his hotel suite. The news of his alleged indiscretion spread like wild fire following his arrest and has left many surprised that a man of his position could be involved in such scandalous activity.

Just as we were trying to make sense of the whole story, the news of former actor and former Californian Governor, Arnold Schwarzenegger’s infidelity and separation from his wife Maria Shriver, put more sting on already painful wound. According to various media outlets, the former Terminator star is believed to have fathered a child with a former staff of his household. As if that wasn’t enough to cope with, he is believed to have kept the result of his infidelity a secret for about 10 years. The child, who was born before Schwarzenegger began his career as governor, was born to a staff who had worked with the family for 20years and retired in January.

Both stories remind me of the Tiger Woods saga, where the world watched as the Golf supremo’s love life unfolded like a soap opera as various women went public on alleged affairs with the sports star. The results of all three stories were similar, shock, disbelief and resultant hurt for the women who loved them most.

There are many dimensions one could analyze from these stories. The fact that men (and women) involve themselves in unscrupulous activity that has the potential to wreck their families is something we can all debate till the cows’ home. My question today is different. Without question the public humiliation faced by the families of both men is very much disheartening. But when the dust has settled what happens next. If you were married to any of these men what would you do? Would you pack your things and leave or would you, after a bit of time apart begin to dust off the cracks in your marriage and rebuild?

Let’s not forget that Maria Shriver, a life long democrat, stood beside her husband Arnold and campaigned for him during his political career even though he was of a different political Party. Also in previous years of alleged indiscretion, Maria, had stood beside her husband and father of her children regardless. So when is enough really enough? Is there a point where we say, I’ve had enough and I can’t take it anymore? If there is, when does that point happen? Is it after the first indiscretion? The second, third or fourth? Or do you, in public, stand beside your man a hundred percent and in the quiet of your home begin to rebuild the brokenness?

Personally, I don’t know that there is a right or wrong answer with this one. Human beings have a way of making marriage and love difficult to sustain, and both men and women are guilty of this. The decision to stay or go, will always be a difficult and tear stained one.

What do you guys think? Let’s discuss!

By Glory Edozien - Bella Naija

I don't know why we make so much noise about men extramarital affairs.

This is the BS peddled by these hypocritical American and British media.

The reason is because these countries have stronger feminist movement so they can easily influence their media.

We don't get news about women have extramarital affairs not because women don't do it, but the American and British media is bias against man.

Unlike other European counties like FRANC,ITALY, SWEDEN e.t.c were extramarital affairs are not issues.

The man has the right to sexual liberty once he dose not do it contrary to the law.

@poster. . . Perhaps you should ask yourself what made these men cheat if they had such "innocent loving wives" as the media potrays them. What EMMATOK said is true. The feminist dominated media has distinction in demonizing cheating men but when a woman cheats, it's "okay" and they even accuse the man of being at fault. A while ago, i surfed through a feminist website and the kind of advice women gave themselves tells the whole story why divorce in the west is on the rise e.g imagine a 37 yr old woman boasting that she had denied her husband of sex for 2 yrs all because she wasnt "feeling him" any more and on top of that, she had an "admirer" in the office. If the husband finally seeks another woman outside, she will create the impression of the "loving,caring,innocent,dutiful wife" that got cheated on and the judge will hand down the harshest punishment available to the man. How "fair" is that?

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Can't recall when a woman cheated and we all "okayed" it. Just saying.

Bawss1:
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Can't recall when a woman cheated and we all "okayed" it. Just saying.

Women cheat a lot these days, but the sentimental media don't make much notice about it.

The last time i heard of a woman cheating, her was husband was blamed for not satisfying her enough. Hypocrisy.

'I feel so betrayed': Mildred Baena's ex-husband had 'no idea' his son was Arnold Schwarzenegger's love child



The ex-husband of Mildred Baena has spoken out for the first time about her affair with Arnold Schwarzenegger, revealing he had 'no idea' his son was actually the actor's lovechild.
Rogelio Baena was named as the father of his ex-wife's 13-year-old son on the boy's birth certificate, and claims he never doubted that the boy was his biological son.
He learnt the truth just last week, when news broke of Schwarzenegger's love child.
In an emotional interview Rogelio said he feels 'betrayed' and claims 'Arnold Schwarzenegger for me, [was] my hero, Maria [Shriver] is destroyed forever.'

Emotional: Rogelio Baena told Entertainment Tonight that the situation involving his ex-wife Mildred was a 'betrayal'
And while he is coming to terms with the news, Rogelio said he still considers the boy his child.
He told Entertainment Tonight he wanted to tell the youngster: 'I am your father. That's all.'


Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1390543/Arnold-Schwarzenegger-love-child-Mildred-Baenas-ex-husband-says-feels-betrayed-didnt-know-son-wasnt-his.html#ixzz1NTFjF8fy

If Schwarzenegger is guilty of cheating on his wife,

Mildred Baena is also guilty is cheating on her EX went they married, and also guilty of deceiving her EX with that child.

But the Feminist influenced media won't talk about the woman(Mildred Baena).

emmatok:
'I feel so betrayed': Mildred Baena's ex-husband had 'no idea' his son was Arnold Schwarzenegger's love child



The ex-husband of Mildred Baena has spoken out for the first time about her affair with Arnold Schwarzenegger, revealing he had 'no idea' his son was actually the actor's lovechild.
Rogelio Baena was named as the father of his ex-wife's 13-year-old son on the boy's birth certificate, and claims he never doubted that the boy was his biological son.
He learnt the truth just last week, when news broke of Schwarzenegger's love child.
In an emotional interview Rogelio said he feels 'betrayed' and claims 'Arnold Schwarzenegger for me, [was] my hero,  Maria [Shriver] is destroyed forever.'

Emotional: Rogelio Baena told Entertainment Tonight that the situation involving his ex-wife Mildred was a 'betrayal'
And while he is coming to terms with the news, Rogelio said he still considers the boy his child.
He told Entertainment Tonight he wanted to tell the youngster: 'I am your father. That's all.'


Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1390543/Arnold-Schwarzenegger-love-child-Mildred-Baenas-ex-husband-says-feels-betrayed-didnt-know-son-wasnt-his.html#ixzz1NTFjF8fy

If Schwarzenegger is guilty of cheating on his wife,

Mildred Baena is also guilty is cheating on her EX went they married, and also guilty of deceiving her EX with that child.

But the Feminist influenced media won't talk about the woman(Mildred Baena).

Wow,

I never even knew all this till now. This is exactly what has been said over and over again. The western media WILL NEVER put down a woman for cheating on her husband. . .they will actually glorify her "actions" by blaming the man for everything.

If anyone feels different, name just ONE woman in the west that has been crucified for cheating on her husband the same way the media and the world crucified Tiger Woods! Name just ONE ! ! !

Its because women are never wrong.

Lets flip the Tiger Woods issue a little bit, Assuming it was the wife who cheated and Tiger beat her with a golf club.

Can you imagine what kind of headlines that would have been?

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emmatok:
Mildred Baena is also guilty is cheating on her EX went they married, and also guilty of deceiving her EX with that child.

But the Feminist influenced media won't talk about the woman(Mildred Baena).

of course she is guilty! who is denying that?
where are you living that you haven't seen the media coverage on the maid?

Bawss1:
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Can't recall when a woman cheated and we all "okayed" it. Just saying.

THANK YOU. cheating is wrong, period, regardless of who does it.

ebony4life:
The headlines this week have been filled with various shocking details of infidelity with well known figures in government. First, we heard that respected IMF Chief, Dominque Struass-Khan had been accused of allegedly sexually assaulting a maid in his hotel suite. The news of his alleged indiscretion spread like wild fire following his arrest and has left many surprised that a man of his position could be involved in such scandalous activity.

Just as we were trying to make sense of the whole story, the news of former actor and former Californian Governor, Arnold Schwarzenegger’s infidelity and separation from his wife Maria Shriver, put more sting on already painful wound. According to various media outlets, the former Terminator star is believed to have fathered a child with a former staff of his household. As if that wasn’t enough to cope with, he is believed to have kept the result of his infidelity a secret for about 10 years. The child, who was born before Schwarzenegger began his career as governor, was born to a staff who had worked with the family for 20years and retired in January.

Both stories remind me of the Tiger Woods saga, where the world watched as the Golf supremo’s love life unfolded like a soap opera as various women went public on alleged affairs with the sports star. The results of all three stories were similar, shock, disbelief and resultant hurt for the women who loved them most.

There are many dimensions one could analyze from these stories. The fact that men (and women) involve themselves in unscrupulous activity that has the potential to wreck their families is something we can all debate till the cows’ home. My question today is different. Without question the public humiliation faced by the families of both men is very much disheartening. But when the dust has settled what happens next. If you were married to any of these men what would you do? Would you pack your things and leave or would you, after a bit of time apart begin to dust off the cracks in your marriage and rebuild?

Let’s not forget that Maria Shriver, a life long democrat, stood beside her husband Arnold and campaigned for him during his political career even though he was of a different political Party. Also in previous years of alleged indiscretion, Maria, had stood beside her husband and father of her children regardless. So when is enough really enough? Is there a point where we say, I’ve had enough and I can’t take it anymore? If there is, when does that point happen? Is it after the first indiscretion? The second, third or fourth? Or do you, in public, stand beside your man a hundred percent and in the quiet of your home begin to rebuild the brokenness?

Personally, I don’t know that there is a right or wrong answer with this one. Human beings have a way of making marriage and love difficult to sustain, and both men and women are guilty of this. The decision to stay or go, will always be a difficult and tear stained one.

What do you guys think? Let’s discuss!

By Glory Edozien - Bella Naija

the decision to stay or leave a marriage is to be made by the couple and the couple alone. there is no wrong or right answer, only the best decision for the two involved. that is a decision that will take time, prayer, counseling, and honest discussions about what was wrong in the marriage. cheating is never right, but there is a reason why people cheat, and that truth must be addressed. perhaps there were needs that the cheaters felt weren't being met in their marriages, and that drove them to do what they did. sometimes, the wives knowingly or unknowingly contribute to the reason why husbands stray. again, it does not make it right that they did, but it does mean that the wives have to address their contributions to the problem.