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Ignorance is Bliss

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falcon01:
Ignorance is Bliss

state your points directly and stop making noise.

Suspect1:
state your points directly and stop making noise.

yeah sorry I remember there are people who ain't fast. Don't let her know the reality, at this point what she needs is comforting lies.

Eyah ... I am so sorry dear...


Pray , miracles still happen, but also tell her if it's the will of God to take her home, she should make all things right.


It Is well

pansophist

My man... Just dey prey with her... There's nothing God cannot do.... It is well...

degreee:
pansophist

Man, this is sad. A real tragedy. I may not be able to understand what you're going through right now, but I can empathise.

First of all, your mum is still alive, so I can't give messages of condolences, although it seems pessimistic that she may come out of it smoothly. All reasonable conclusions seem like the countdown for the inevitable has begun, an outcome that nobody wants.

Honestly I don't really know what to say, but anytime I feel hopeless and faced with difficult situations outside my control, I adopt a mindset that puts things into perspective and regulates my mind.

No matter the tragedy that befalls a man, as long as it doesn't change your character, then you're grounded. Life is one giant shipwreck, but singing in a sinking ship is a mark of man's character. Character is the domestication, not the elimination of emotions.

Permit yourself to grieve, but be grounded. Expect the best, but prepare for the worst. Don't make it worse by evading responsibilities. Your words to her should be filled with hope, and your response to her pessimism should be one filled with optimism.

I'm not sure if you're working. But if you are not, then consider starting one. And please don't fall into the trap of wanting to start big. A little income is better than no income. This is when you have to be a man. Being a man is not an age, but a thing of mindset and duty.

Perhaps you fear she may pass away, I hope not, but if it happens, then you must understand that it's a natural circle of life. The circle of life and death. We shall all die. What's more important is the qualitative, not the quantitative elements of our lives. Some died in their 20's, crystallising their name in the sand of time, meanwhile, many in their centenary years will be forgotten in less than a half decade.

As a tail, so is life. It's not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters. She has contributed her best in the short period she has on earth. Life is bloodline, not the death of individual carriers of such lines. She lives inside you. You're encapsulating her DNA, surname, blood group etc, just as her ancestors thousands of years back have survived through her.

How you make her proud is to lead a good life. Be hardworking, principled, upright, and give your best. Your character is the central theme of your life, and guide it with all your strength. No matter what happens to you, you actually lose nothing if it doesn't change your character. And like every dark, cold winter, the summer, sun and flowers will blossom. This too shall pass. You're stronger than you know.

All the best my guy.

degreee:
she's a believer, a woman in her late 40.
she's critically sick.
she shows every symptom of chronic kidney disease.
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This is so sad and she's so young.
However, since she's not been diagnosed by a doctor, how can you tell it's kidney disease? You shouldn't be self-diagnosing?

pansophist:
Man, this is sad. A real tragedy. I may not be able to understand what you're going through right now, but I can empathise.

Thank you boss...
She's passed out tonight.
I could see the cry in her eye. She don't wish to go, but can't hold her back.
She loved me so much even till her departing.
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Thank you boss pansophist. You've been a motivation and inspiration to me here on nairaland.
I was born a Simp, but going through your post. I'm becoming the man I am.
I was the guy who posted on "questioning the nairaland philosopher" where I asked you on how to develop my self esteem. I've been following your words and I've seen a drastically change..
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She was left in agony. All she needed is to visit an hospital and see a doctor but they will bill us. But yet no one came to our rescue.
I've got to learn my lesson well that all man is for himself. It is through her event that I know the true definition of human.
When see realized that my dad won't be financially capable of treating, she run go meet her own family (siblings and her mum). But when they could no more take care of her again. They bring her back to my poor Dad. But could that really solve the problem.
Oh she suffered...
Poverty is the true cause of death
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The poor child watching his mum gone. Dad is quite holder. Brother are too young. Now it is evident I'm assuming the role of fatherhood.
I'm still an undergrad. Working and schooling is quite impossible... But schooling without sponsor is a hell...
But what else can I do? That is what made me create the moniker "matri6" and ask you my question.
I have no other option that can salvage me and my family than that. We are almost in a ship wreck, no one will salvage us. No one. I'm the one to take the responsibility!!!
I have friends here to put me through on the game. I've been suffering all this while. I must take an action since it has no consequence.
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Starting up here in Nigeria is a nearly impossible task. There is no real job for people like me except those deadly labour job.
I know it seems to me like I need approval for what I wanted to do, but no.. I just wanted to be clear on what life actually his..
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I'm an academical guru. Had 316 in my jamb. I'm currently on 1.1. but that would never solve the current predicament... My academic fruit can only ripen in many years time. But I can't wait for that. I need a way out now. Of course this might affect my performance... But I need to do something to it...
I'm trying to learn digital skill like copywriting and become a freelancer, but don't have the resources to do so. I don't just know how to start from this zero level capital and background!!
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Sir, your words are strength to a weakling bones. I'm mentally down now. I need to be strong...
I will need your advice sir..
I want to come out of life stronger..
I don't want what happened to her repeat itself on any member of my family..
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I'm her dream, but her dream is shattered.
I do hear how she make pride of me among her peer. She always sit me down to tell me of how I will do greatly to her in the future. Anytime she pray, she has no other prayer point except me... Sometimes when I behave like a Simp, she scold me and she push me beyond boundaries. She's woman like a man.....
But death why??
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I've always promise to make her proud and happy. But how can I do that again. How can I help her fulfil her dream.. I pity her
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It still seems like a dream to me. Oh how I wish it was..
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She has been my back up all this while.
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I could remember how she gave me part of the money she ought to use for treatment for me to pay my school fee... I wish I can repay her back. I can't believe I can be this an orphan.
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I'm scared of what my future will become. I'm scared how I'm going to forgo it all alone. I'm scared if her dreams of me will ever come through again.
Yeah I have a dad. He is way older. He married late. So he could barely take any responsibility again.
I'm the first born.
I wish this was a dream!
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Pls sir, I just need your words.....

@ pansophist

degreee:
@ pansophist

Comrade why not email me instead? This is rather personal I reckon. Saw your message now, haven't been online for a while.

pansophist:
Comrade why not email me instead? This is rather personal I reckon. Saw your message now, haven't been online for a while.

Alright sir,
I've done so