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What Is Your Take On Your In-laws Living In Same House With You? / 'No Difference Between Single Mothers And Prostitutes' - Lecturer / Mothers And Daughters Who Look The Same Age (Unbelievable Photos) (2) (3) (4)
|. by kiddkash(m): 2:33pm On Feb 20|
|Re: . by Romanoff(f): 2:46pm On Feb 20|
It's because mothers have come to see themselves as gods in the lives of their sons.
I don't know why.
They won't just let their sons leave to cleave, they see the son's wife as a competition.
It also depends on how these sons handle the excesses of their mother.
|Re: . by anthonyuncle(m): 2:53pm On Feb 20|
women naturally have an issue with being loyal to one another.
when it comes to marriage, their is an issue of who has the son's ear.
this is one reason why a guy should neither be a sissy or a mummy's boy.
funny thing is that the wife complaining today would be the mother in law to be complained about tomorrow
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|Re: . by Klass99(f): 3:05pm On Feb 20|
|Re: . by Lamanii22(f): 3:45pm On Feb 20|
I live with my mil at the moment, we sometimes don’t agree with each other especially regarding how I want to raise my daughter, I believe in discipline but she believes in spoiling and I would never ever spoil my child… I put some boundaries in that aspect… every other thing we are good together…
|Re: . by Zico777(m): 7:29pm On Feb 20|
Lamanii22:Your husband has a great role to play here, by letting his mom let u be!
|Re: . by Zico777(m): 7:31pm On Feb 20|
Klass99:Factor no2 is very common amongst many women.
|Re: . by Kobojunkie: 7:45pm On Feb 20|
kiddkash:1. Not all mothers feel that way so it is wrong to go about painting all mothers are mentally lacking. There are equally many examples of women who don't exhibit such animosities towards other women.
2. Your grandmother simply happens to be one of the many mothers out there whose sense of self happen to remain wrapped around her son possibly thanks to her defective upbringing.
3. When women grow up believing their lives are defined by the decisions their children or sons make in life, that is typically what results.
|Re: . by Kobojunkie: 7:48pm On Feb 20|
Romanoff:1. gods aren't clingy though. Na demons dey dey that way. Such mothers are tend to have no life of their own as it all revolves for them around their kids or sons , a clear sign of psychological dependence of the unhealthy kind.
|Re: . by Lamanii22(f): 7:57pm On Feb 20|
He’s too complacent…. He is always on her side somehow… I’m not a trouble maker but I’m firm with my decisions
|Re: . by Zico777(m): 8:17pm On Feb 20|
Lamanii22:He shouldn't be o!
It's good u are standing your ground.
|Re: . by Beremx(f): 8:25pm On Feb 20|
Even at 88 years your grandmother still doesn't like her daughter in-law who is your mother?
Na wa for your grandmother o!! 😐😐😐
|Re: . by Nazgul: 10:27pm On Feb 20|
The problem lies with the man. Most young men have failed to draw the line between being a bachelor and being a married man.
The moment you get married, you must let your mom know that you're now a man in case she's still sees you as a baby. And if she must visit, she has to call, and say how long she'll be visiting. Her home is her husbands house not her son's house.
|Re: . by BlongTrendies(f): 10:30am On Feb 21|
|Re: . by bukatyne(f): 10:37am On Feb 21|
Most of the troublesome MILs replaced their bad husbands with their sons so it almost feels like the wife is taking away her lover.
You rarely see women who lived good lives/have good relationships with their husbands disturb their DILs.
|Re: . by Saintmary(f): 11:25am On Feb 21|
|Re: . by Saintmary(f): 11:34am On Feb 21|
You already got the root cause from replies, now, what is the solution?
That's the next thing to discuss.
As long as we as a society keep condoning, enabling, and pardoning infidelities without making husbands accountable, women will keep finding unhealthy/healthy means of coping.
Imagine the family of your son suffering in the next 30 years because you can't control yourself.
|Re: . by Saintmary(f): 11:40am On Feb 21|
Nigerian societies absolutely love to hold women accountable for their actions, everyday you see threads about mothers in law, women issues here and there.
Hardly will you see threads about unfaithful husbands, they are very few.
Until you all accept that marital infidelity is an offence that has a consequence, maybe not in the eyes of the law, until you start avoiding things that will bring problems later in your lives, till then, keep dealing with mother in law issues.
|Re: . by Justbehave(m): 1:36pm On Feb 21|
Saintmary:You can start by telling us how unfaithful your husband or boyfriend is. Post it and we will gladly comment.
|Re: . by Zico777(m): 2:02pm On Feb 21|
Saintmary:So out of point!
|Re: . by Zico777(m): 2:03pm On Feb 21|
|Re: . by Zico777(m): 2:05pm On Feb 21|
|Re: . by Saintmary(f): 2:08pm On Feb 21|
You missed my point.
Complaining about mothers in law and women's behavior is only dealing with the branch, the real root is being left uncut, which is the attitude towards their husbands shabby behavior in marriage.
No one is holding those men accountable, hence the ripple effects.
P. S. My family is okay so far, so your attempt to shame me for an assumed infidelity just fell flat.
|Re: . by Saintmary(f): 2:10pm On Feb 21|
Of course my comment is outside the range of your comprehension, go and play with your PS5.
|Re: . by Zico777(m): 2:14pm On Feb 21|
Saintmary:U are very silly!
|Re: . by Saintmary(f): 2:19pm On Feb 21|
You want me and you to start trading insults?
You that can't even understand less than 6 paragraphs of a post I put up there?
You are at the level of kindergarten children, just maintain your lane, but I know you still want to throw insults, so, just face your family and insult them to your dirty heart's content.
|Re: . by Zico777(m): 2:20pm On Feb 21|
|Re: . by Justbehave(m): 2:45pm On Feb 21|
Saintmary:We are saying the same thing or maybe you are the one who is confused.
The post is about mother in-laws and wives but in your quest to blame men,you left the discussion and brought up infidelity against men.
Like I said,if your husband is exhibiting shabby behaviours or being unfaithful to you which is the root of the problems in your family then go deal with him.
|Re: . by Justbehave(m): 3:33pm On Feb 21|
Zico777:Her hatred for men is what made her to type that. She could not withstand the truth that mother in-laws and wives nah cat and dog. Lol
|Re: . by Zico777(m): 4:26pm On Feb 21|
Justbehave:U dey mind that one!
|Re: . by Kobojunkie: 10:35pm On Feb 21|
Saintmary:I always hold women responsible because
▪︎ majority of these men were supposedly raised by women who had position and opportunity to positively impact their lives in order to at least help them understand the place of respect for all regardless of tribe, or gender
▪︎ these men who cheat do so with women, many many who were raised by women to believing they are incomplete without in their lives to cater to or even bear kids for
▪︎ a good portion of those who belittle women who step away from the norm as imposed on them by a male dominated society are themselves women
▪︎ many of these duplicitous male characters men do not marry themselves.
▪︎ women condone the cheating by remaining in relationships with their duplicitous partners more often than not
If women could raise themselves to a higher standard that what is currently obtainable certainly the tides will begin to turn.
|Re: . by Saintmary(f): 1:52am On Feb 22|
To blame men
You are not ready to find solutions if you view this as a men versus women matter.
Men and women are yin and yang, intertwined and forever interwoven as long as we all coexist on this planet.
But then my words are flying over your head because you don't have the capacity to absorb them.
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