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I'm a married man living in Abuja, where I work as a web designer and app developer. I have my own office and brands, and I've diversified my income streams through various business ventures.

In January, I received a call from my uncle, who wanted me to meet him in Port Harcourt about a job opportunity in an oil company. At the time, I wasn't interested, so I politely declined, citing a toothache as the reason.

What's relevant to this situation is that my uncle has been providing me and my siblings with a monthly allowance of 280,000 naira since I was in school. However, I'd rather not discuss this further, except to say that it's a point of contention. Being an inherritance paid to everyone and handled by him.

In February, my siblings received their allowance, but I didn't. My brother informed me that my uncle had stopped my payment because he was upset that I hadn't accepted his job proposal. This isn't the only thing my uncle has excluded me from, despite being aware of my financial stability.

Recently, my wife(Army OFFICER) was posted to Port Harcourt, which adds another layer to this situation. If I were to accept my uncle's offer, I'd be under my wife's scrutiny, which could impact my personal and professional life.

I'm currently conflicted about what to do, and I'm weighing my options carefully.

What would you do ?

People wey get cap no just dey ever dey get the head to wear am put

Whereas, people like us wey come this life without a cap just dey hustle both day and night just to put food for our table...

Na WA..

What a complex and sensitive situation!

Firstly, kudos to you for being financially independent and having a successful career. It's also commendable that you're considering your wife's feelings and potential impact on your personal and professional life.

Now, let's break down the key points:

1. Family dynamics: Your uncle's behavior seems controlling and manipulative. Stopping your allowance because you declined his job offer raises questions about his motivations.
2. Financial independence: You're financially stable, which reduces your reliance on the allowance. However, the fact that it's an inheritance paid to all siblings creates a sense of entitlement.
3. Personal relationships: Your wife's posting to Port Harcourt adds a new layer of complexity. Her scrutiny could impact your decisions and relationships.
4. Career and personal growth: Accepting your uncle's offer might compromise your personal and professional life.

Considering these factors, here are some potential options:

1. Communicate with your uncle: Have an open and honest conversation with your uncle about his expectations, motivations, and concerns. Try to understand his perspective and express your own feelings and boundaries.
2. Re-evaluate the allowance: Consider whether you truly need the allowance. If not, you could politely decline future payments and maintain your financial independence.
3. Explore alternative opportunities: If you're interested in working in the oil industry or expanding your professional network, look into other job opportunities that don't involve your uncle's influence.
4. Prioritize your relationships: Focus on nurturing your relationships with your wife, siblings, and other family members. Your personal connections are more valuable than any financial gain.
5. Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries with your uncle regarding his involvement in your personal and professional life.

Ultimately, the decision is yours. Take your time, weigh the pros and cons, and choose the path that aligns with your values, goals, and priorities.