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A close friend of mine has run to me for help in an area I used to be in chains too, but I'm finding it hard to help him.

Back story, this friend of mine I've known for a very long time, I happen to be the one who introduced him into gambling, i.e Casino & Virtual gaming. I wouldn't even lie used to be very lucrative, most of what I happen to own now or have done ( travelling out etc) was funded by these games that we play, but that used to be years back. When I noticed we start losing more than we got. I took a step back but my friend didn't.

Okay, I used to be the one calling the shots, studying the patterns, the signals right etc my friend's job is to play whatever I told him to so he really didn't know much about it. But during the time I stepped back and told him to let's try other hustles and focus on other things since we were a bit fine financially. So I went to school (Studying to be a computer scientist) but my friend we grew distant because of the distance, for about two years. Out of the blues, I got a call from him , asking for financial assistance, I was shocked because this used to be someone who had available balance running into tens of millions, a car amongst others.

So I got curious and asked what's up, then he explained a lot to me that gambling has ruined his life that he can't seem to stop. I know it's hard because it took some battles for me too to finally understand that the era of successful wins on casino games was over and have moved on with my life, though occasionally I test the water not in a way that will be detrimental to my finances. My friend has sold all what he gathered which is very sad. I explained to him that it takes for than GUESSING or LUCK to win CasinosWhat broke the camels back is the money I sent to him was about 500k, he called me crying now that he needs help that the money I gave him it wasn't up to an hour that Casino bet took it all. I'M THINKING OF DISTANCING MYSELF FROM HIM and I'm left with the guilt that I introduced him to Gambling.

Need some advice on what to do

My amiable mods, please elaborate

All man for himself.

If he does not have any money to play, the addiction will cure itself.

Don't let him drown you.

Your friend needs help, serious help (not financial help) especially from you.

Don't abandon him now. Stop giving him money as he will finish it on gambling. Look for other ways to help him.

Trying to save a gambler with money is like pouring water into a leaking basket.

You’ll go broke before it ever fills.

The real help here is structure, distance, and professional support, not soft loans.

Distance isn’t betrayal, it’s sometimes the only way not to drown with them.

Imagine, he said he doesn't have any money for foodstuffs and he owes a lot of people, still wasted the money that could have gone a long way

otipoju:
All man for himself.

If he does not have any money to play, the addiction will cure itself.

Don't let him drown you.

Maybe I should contact some of his family I know or what

bestman09:
Your friend needs help, serious help (not financial help) especially from you.

Don't abandon him now. Stop giving him money as he will finish it on gambling. Look for other ways to help him.

I can't explain the guilt I feel like it's my fault. But this problem should be mine I don't know how he got to indulge himself so much. Kai

dechriz:
Trying to save a gambler with money is like pouring water into a leaking basket.

You’ll go broke before it ever fills.

The real help here is structure, distance, and professional support, not soft loans.

Distance isn’t betrayal, it’s sometimes the only way not to drown with them.

We’re all responsible for the choices we make, whether someone influences us or not.

If you tell him to put his hand in fire, he won’t, so you don’t have to feel guilty about the decision he made.

Don't abandon him but also do not give him money. Allow him to hit rock bottom. As long as he's still getting stipends to play, he can never stop. So counsel, advice, recommend rehab centres (you can even pay for him), but don't give him any money directly. And it's also nice to involve his family and significant others as you're planning to. Don't beat yourself up over introducing him to gambling, he's an adult capable of making decisions for himself and I'm sure he was well aware of what he was getting into in the first place. Besides you also told him when you were leaving that life, he took should have left also

otipoju:
All man for himself.

If he does not have any money to play, the addiction will cure itself.

Don't let him drown you.

Walai na all men for himself
Last last he will understand

bestman09:
Your friend needs help, serious help (not financial help) especially from you.

Don't abandon him now. Stop giving him money as he will finish it on gambling. Look for other ways to help him.

He should open store for him to be selling garri ba?

shilenji:
A close friend of mine has run to me for help in an area I used to be in chains too, but I'm finding it hard to help him.

Back story, this friend of mine I've known for a very long time, I happen to be the one who introduced him into gambling, i.e Casino & Virtual gaming. I wouldn't even lie used to be very lucrative, most of what I happen to own now or have done ( travelling out etc) was funded by these games that we play, but that used to be years back. When I noticed we start losing more than we got. I took a step back but my friend didn't.

Okay, I used to be the one calling the shots, studying the patterns, the signals right etc my friend's job is to play whatever I told him to so he really didn't know much about it. But during the time I stepped back and told him to let's try other hustles and focus on other things since we were a bit fine financially. So I went to school (Studying to be a computer scientist) but my friend we grew distant because of the distance, for about two years. Out of the blues, I got a call from him , asking for financial assistance, I was shocked because this used to be someone who had available balance running into tens of millions, a car amongst others.

So I got curious and asked what's up, then he explained a lot to me that gambling has ruined his life that he can't seem to stop. I know it's hard because it took some battles for me too to finally understand that the era of successful wins on casino games was over and have moved on with my life, though occasionally I test the water not in a way that will be detrimental to my finances. My friend has sold all what he gathered which is very sad. I explained to him that it takes for than GUESSING or LUCK to win CasinosWhat broke the camels back is the money I sent to him was about 500k, he called me crying now that he needs help that the money I gave him it wasn't up to an hour that Casino bet took it all. I'M THINKING OF DISTANCING MYSELF FROM HIM and I'm left with the guilt that I introduced him to Gambling.

Need some advice on what to do

My amiable mods, please elaborate

it's not easy help him stop the addiction