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I'm totally ashamed of myself for keep failing and disappointing my self and my family. I have a big problem with alcohol. I don't have the urge drink every day but I always find myself drink non stop whenever I money comes my way. I won't stop drinking and buying for people until all the money is gone. This has made me lost everything. I don't have a job, I don't have a house, my wife and two kids are staying with my wife's parents. I don't even know my health status because I find myself indulging in in safe sex. Once the money finishes I will start regretting. I need therapy but where can I get free therapy because I don't have money to pay for any.

I'm from a very poor family, I don't want to blame village people but myself for wasting my life and dragging my beautiful wife and kids into this terrible mess.

I'm homeless, jobless, pennyless, nothing, my beautiful wife is hurting in the village. I'm willing to go to rehab but I can't afford to pay, I need help can anyone help me. I don't want to this 2026 to become another wasteful year.
I'm a HND graduate, a great Electrical Electronics technician. I do all kinds of installations, from CCTV to electrical Wiring. I was one of the best in Lagos but threw everything away.

I'm feel I'm cursed because why will I continue to kill and harm myself and my family.

DiamondJude:
I'm feel I'm cursed because why will I continue to kill and harm myself and my family.

Stop thinking stewpid! You are not cursed... You simply lack basic self-control and self-discipline when it comes to handling your finances and your desires. 🥱🥱🥱

Since you do not have any money at this time to pay for a therapist, I would recommend you consider giving yourself what you need. Begin now by becoming more self-aware— monitor your thoughts and actions. Get a journal and begin recording your thoughts and emotions throughout your day to understand what causes you to believe that money is being wasted the way you do. Also, document all the possible reasons why alcohol and sex seem to be your place of deluded safety whenever money falls into your hands. adopting those simple skills again, where you are. Choose to become more intentional about everything you think and do. And before long, you will start to see areas where you can make small, consistent changes that will ultimately lead you towards correctly addressing a good part of your problem on your own. If you are fortunate, by then you would be better able to handle your money and get yourself professional therapy with what you have.

Do you think you have a problem with alcohol?

Why can’t you just abstain from alcohol all together?

Do you think you’re addicted to alcohol or what?

Is alcohol your only vice?

DiamondJude, you're in Ikorodu, Lagos.

Go to General Hospital Ikorodu and ask them to refer you to the department of Psychology and Psychiatry if they have one or if not, go straight to General Hospital Lagos Island (they have a department there).

The Dr will refer you to a rehab center and it will be affordable, plus you'll start mental health treatment.

Get your life back together, man!

Print a picture of your wife and kids, look at it every hour and tell yourself "I'm doing this for them".

Tell God to stand by you during this journey. Join NSPDD 7am fire prayers (because you need motivation to push you to pray, you're not strong enough to do it by yourself). Join it until you can stand on your own two feet and pray for yourself (don't let anyone here discourage you, Addiction is hard to break and requires willpower and that man's shouting is mental motivation and ginger).

You can do this.

Onegai:
DiamondJude, you're in Ikorodu, Lagos.

Go to General Hospital Ikorodu and ask them to refer you to the department of Psychology and Psychiatry if they have one or if not, go straight to General Hospital Lagos Island (they have a department there).

The Dr will refer you to a rehab center and it will be affordable, plus you'll start mental health treatment.

Get your life back together, man!

Print a picture of your wife and kids, look at it every hour and tell yourself "I'm doing this for them".

Tell God to stand by you during this journey. Join NSPDD 7am fire prayers (because you need motivation to push you to pray, you're not strong enough to do it by yourself). Join it until you can stand on your own two feet and pray for yourself (don't let anyone here discourage you, Addiction is hard to break and requires willpower and that man's shouting is mental motivation and ginger).

You can do this.

Thanks but currently I'm not in Lagos. But I will for a general hospital around and see if they have rehab

Kobojunkie:
Stop thinking stewpid! You are not cursed... You simply lack basic self-control and self-discipline when it comes to handling your finances and your desires. 🥱🥱🥱

Since you do not have any money at this time to pay for a therapist, I would recommend you consider giving yourself what you need. Begin now by becoming more self-aware— monitor your thoughts and actions. Get a journal and begin recording your thoughts and emotions throughout your day to understand what causes you to believe that money is being wasted the way you do. Also, document all the possible reasons why alcohol and sex seem to be your place of deluded safety whenever money falls into your hands. adopting those simple skills again, where you are. Choose to become more intentional about everything you think and do. And before long, you will start to see areas where you can make small, consistent changes that will ultimately lead you towards correctly addressing a good part of your problem on your own. If you are fortunate, by then you would be better able to handle your money and get yourself professional therapy with what you have.

Thank you. I will give it my best, to start to be self aware and work towards having self control and discipline.

If you actually understood circuitry, you’d recognize that you have a massive short circuit in your logic board. you’re running a recursive loop where the input is profit and the output is catastrophe. the only thing haunting you is your own pathetic lack of willpower. you are the architect of your own hell and currently you’re building it with remarkably high efficiency.

if you were a server in my rack, I would have decommissioned you and sold your parts for scrap months ago. but since you’re a meat bag and you apparently possess skills that are actually useful namely CCTV and wiring it is illogical for you to remain in a state of helplessness.

you need to stop being a slave to a chemical compound.

in lagos, places like the federal neuro-psychiatric hospital in yaba have departments for addiction. they deal with system crashes like yours every day. some services are either subsidized or free for indigenes. go there before your hardware suffers permanent failure.

endeavour to find a community of other failures, look for alcoholics anonymous on twitter. they meet in ikoyi. it’s free. it’s a group of people trying to patch their own buggy code.

2026 is irrelevant. time is a human construct. what matters is the current execution cycle. you’re an electrician—fix your own damn wiring. stop blaming village people and start acting like the technician you claim to be.

incompetence is the only true sin and right now you’re the high priest of it.

Double0h7:
Do you think you have a problem with alcohol?

Why can’t you just abstain from alcohol all together?

Do you think you’re addicted to alcohol or what?

Is alcohol your only vice?

Alcohol is only supposed to be served and drank in allahs heaven together with d 72 virgins

Kaczynski:
If you actually understood circuitry, you’d recognize that you have a massive short circuit in your logic board. you’re running a recursive loop where the input is profit and the output is catastrophe. the only thing haunting you is your own pathetic lack of willpower. you are the architect of your own hell and currently you’re building it with remarkably high efficiency.

if you were a server in my rack, I would have decommissioned you and sold your parts for scrap months ago. but since you’re a meat bag and you apparently possess skills that are actually useful namely CCTV and wiring it is illogical for you to remain in a state of helplessness.

you need to stop being a slave to a chemical compound.

in lagos, places like the federal neuro-psychiatric hospital in yaba have departments for addiction. they deal with system crashes like yours every day. some services are either subsidized or free for indigenes. go there before your hardware suffers permanent failure.

endeavour to find a community of other failures, look for alcoholics anonymous on twitter. they meet in ikoyi. it’s free. it’s a group of people trying to patch their own buggy code.

2026 is irrelevant. time is a human construct. what matters is the current execution cycle. you’re an electrician—fix your own damn wiring. stop blaming village people and start acting like the technician you claim to be.

incompetence is the only true sin and right now you’re the high priest of it.

Truly I need to fix my faulty wiring. I'm truly the architect of the hell I'm currently living.

DiamondJude:
Truly I need to fix my faulty wiring. I'm truly the architect of the hell I'm currently living.

Then, get your pity strucken self up and start looking life right in the eye!

Stop trying to escape the reality, drinking to stupor ffs!

Lastpharoah33:
Then, get your pity strucken self up and start looking life right in the eye!

Stop trying to escape the reality, drinking to stupor ffs!

I'm looking for professional help. I'm really scared but I have to keep trying to fix my life.

Your problem is simply


HABIT AND UR ENVIRONMENT.

Ibechris2:
Your problem is simply


HABIT AND UR ENVIRONMENT.

I have changed environment but still happening.

You are still living a fake life.

You better hit the lanes leading to reality asap.

DiamondJude:
Truly I need to fix my faulty wiring. I'm truly the architect of the hell I'm currently living.

You have summarized your story so that you won't waste people's time abi...Firstly, pls don't listen to that guy yabbing you oo, sir...

However, now that you have realized & admitted your problem. You've even taken a step further to seek for help, I truly commend you for that, sir...

But a habit that you have taken considerable amount of time to build, isn't something you expect to break out from in one day...So you have to understand that it'll also take you time to recalibrate yourself, that means you need to stay resolute & committed throughout the journey... because your deliverance is a journey oo.

Are these irresponsible spending & unsafe sex habits common in your family background or it's peculiar to you alone...this is something you need to establish as well... what were the things that were happening first or what was the initial motive that brought out these traits into display.

What kind of company are you currently keeping now too, because you can either win or lose this fight depending on the network surrounding you. Prov 27:17 teaches us what true friends do: they challenge & refine & improve each other's character.

You may have intentionally neglected your first friend (or company) who is eagerly waiting for you to come back. Heb 4:15 describes Your Friend as a high priest who is able to empathize with your weaknesses, so you have to sincerely cry out to Him for help

Let me shock you a lil bit, sir. God already factored in all these weaknesses you have stated here, before He dropped you in your mother's womb...that's why Heb 4:15 says He is able to empathize with your issues. It's just that what has made the issue this serious now is you've either been trying to handle it yourself (as mature man wey u be) or you just didn't think it was significant.

Either ways, God still makes beautiful pottery out of broken vessels, no matter how dire the situation might look. So in Jer 29:11, He is telling you directly, 'For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future'.

So my 2 cents to you is that you have not yet developed a relationship with God through His son Jesus Christ, then your first step to solving this problem would be to intentionally & sincerely accept Jesus Christ into your heart.

If you have already done that, what you need to do is ask Him for help. You need to realize that by the strength of your arm, you can achieve nothing.

Here are some messages that can help you https://www.youtube.com/live/7hrT4q4bRD0?si=iXBAo6y2Bn_YmYfe


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kVobe_Qz7Cw?si=qaZZnhZcO13USRIY

https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSaewdcAa/