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Thanks for all the advice so far. To answer your questions no I can't say anything to him cuz I don't want to look desperate or worse be rejected. Also i know hes not married cuz i know his family a bit. I thought about moving on but I like him so much. He's everything I want in a partner. Im always scared that what if the time I decide to walk away ends up being the time he was planning to take things further...I've never been in this situation before. Normally I meet a guy, we get to know each other, discover we have a good connection, and in a month or so he asks me to be his girlfriend. This guy is totally different from my prior experiences so I don't really know how to react. So I just wait...

I met this guy in December and we have been talking for three months. We talk everyday and he comes to see me every few weeks (we live in different cities). So I really like him and I think he likes me too. Here is the problem. He has never come out to say he wants a relationship with me or asked me to be his girlfriend. He never even held my hand or tried to kiss me. A few weeks ago he told me he never starts anything out as a relationship because he wants to get to know the person first. I understand that, it is a good approach to dating. However it has been 3 months. Isn't that enough time for him to know if he likes me? How do I know if I should keep waiting for him? How long is too long to wait for someone to make up their mind about you? I don't want to wait too long and miss other opportunities and at the end of the day he says he decided he just wants to be friends. Please advise me.

Girl I really feel your pain. I'm the same age as you and still no ring. Its sooo hard seeing female friends and relatives getting hitched and you're like wait, what about me? Then I look at some of my cousins who are in their 30s and still no hubby and I get scared like what if that ends up being me? But life is funny in that things happen differently for different people. You just have to have faith that your own go betta! So don't ever entertain the idea of being desperate because it will surely cloud your judgment and you could end up marrying the wrong person (a fate worse than remaining single). I'm speaking from personal experience. I was recently in a relationship where I was so focused on getting the ring that I missed some major character flaws in my intended. I thank God my eyes were opened before it was too late. Just try to keep busy with school, work, friends. Then when you meet a guy you like get to know him and don't rush into anything. Good luck girl! I've got my fingers crossed for both of us