₦airaland Forum

ElsonMorali:
And who are their oppressors o? You mean their oppressors who you've been living in their region, feeding fat off the goodness of their lands? Who haven't turned you all to suya meat?

If they are oppressing you So much, did they also put chains on your legs and hands and prevent you from escaping back to the east?

If only the kids would grow up to be wiser than their parents and ask salient questions.

But we know the same DNA flows in their blood.

Just like you guys refused to ask your parents logical questions about the civil war like
If Ojukwu really cared for his people, why did He run away and abandon them?

If the Federal forces were really out to destroy the Igbo tribe, why didn't they do So when they got to the east and met a conquered people?

Keep on fooling yourselves o.

Time will tell If the lies you've been nurtured with from childhood will hold.

I for one did my research about the civil war and I know who is too blame. Everything you stated here is a fallacy.

ElsonMorali:
They've dragged their children into their stupidity.

These kids will grow up nurturing the same hatred in their hearts as displayed by IPOB fools on Nairaland and the cycle continues.

Your fear is that the children will grow up with common sense? Or do you prefer them to love their oppressors and those who detest them?I am sure you will love for them to intermarry and breed with those people too? You are the devil these kids should watch out for.

Igbo, Ghanaian pappies and Gbenro are on point. Besos. Enyinnaya is a papi chulo. Alex ekubo lipsssss. Omfg he looks like he can suck your clitorris till you cum in his mouth. If he does anilingus it would be perfect.

Guyman02:
YES, because Igbos dont hate Yorubas, we want them to know that after years of intermarriages we should be watching out for each other but Yorubas decided to hobnob constantly with people who behead their people in Ile Ife and parade with it against Igbos that have suffered same fate in parts of the North in the hands of the same people.

Georgina cannot wish Aunty Kemi evil because she has Yoruba relatives like many of us

You are no longer Igbo once you have mixed genes with ethnicities or races that despise you. I really know that Igbos are big fools. How someone can love a group of people that despise you is mind boggling. There is really is a case worst than Stockholm syndrome.

MrBen10:
Nice one.
A true daughter of igbo land representing her people.
Igbos are passionate, helpful and always defend their neigbours even when these neighbors treats them as enemies.
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FTC things, oga Seun i never see the alert o

That is why they are fools that will always be subjugated. Rubbish.

[quote author=MrBen10 post=54688152]Nice one.
A true daughter of igbo land representing her people.
Igbos are passionate, helpful and always defend their neigbours even when these neighbors treats them as enemies.
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FTC things, oga Seun i never see the alert o[/quo

That is why they are fools that is why they are fools that will always be subjugated with this thought process.

NNVanguard:
Any man who pleads for peace at the point when his surrounded by his deadly enemies is not fit to live. Fight and die than beg on your kneels forever.

You said it best!

Kondomatic:
I won't lie to you sister.


If that thing on your dp is truly your butt then I think your butt needs alignment and I advise you to fix it asaply before it wears out completely.



It is well out of alignment, go get it fixed.

Kele wiyo!!!

vedah:
Lol its to early for this. Pls don't laugh your ass off, if you laugh it off, who'll worship you? You won't be a goddess again lwkmd lol if you're intelligent, then intelligence just got a new definition I'm not aware of, pls I'm begging you not to multiply your kind in the world. Its going to be a world wide disaster. Managing you is hard then two or threes of you?

Pls, I can't worship your ass, I'm straight I'm not gay, and I can't look at my female folks and be aroused

Its glaring its a guy behind this handle. Fück Veda is not doing this!

Girl byyyy, No internet thugery. You are not worth it. You pick and choose part of my statement to respond to. I see you suffer from simple comprehension. You wish you had shape amoeba. I detest weak bitches like you. You shouldn't breed at all. you sound like you are sisters with the op. You are one to be used and abused over and over again. If you see me for real life you will bow and hate yourself, if you don't already. I smack birds like you everyday ma.

vedah:
Okay babe, I hear you

Men are making you feel like a goddess now cos of your butt

When you grow all old and wrinkled, and you ain't pleasing to the eyes, they'll dump you and you'll become a slave


Stop hyping that butt, BTW, your butt looks like its being help by two chopsticks

Otocha!!! Laugh my ass of. E be like say shittt wan commot from your mouth. Bad belle go kill you. You sound like a girl who loves a man to lord over her, subjugate and even become a Stockholm syndrome lover. I am adored because I am gorgeous from head to toe, intelligent, and can carry my own. If you see this kind nyash you no go worship am? Abeg, if you are not talking money with your spongebob flat nyash keep it pushing bird. You wey no old yet a man go use you clean nyash throway like most women wey dey for naija LMFAO.

vedah:
You think the world revolves around your butt? Wake up girl, its the 21st century.

The world revolves around me because I make it work that way. Can you say the same? It can be th 50th century nothing will change.

lindabon:
If all men are dogs, you are probably the one barking. Moreover, when you use 'all' in a statement, it is fallacy of faulty generalization. For those of us that use the excuse that, a man having a bone*r is why he has to cheat, first and foremost, people that have been raped sometimes still have orgas*m. Does that mean because they had a bone*r, they wanted to be raped? No!! It is a human response to touch that leads to erection which in turn leads to climax, with or without their consent. That is also the response of most men to an attractive woman; there is erection, but is that a go ahead to sleep around? No! Its your body's response to “an attractive woman”. Do you think because women don’t have erection, that they don’t have a body part that gets excited when they see an attractive man? We are humans, both men and women, not objects, and how we respond in times of “excitement” is entirely up to us. Yes, men are less likely to have self control, because people like the OP, have already excused and permitted men to do as they like in advance. Reward and Punishment;if you reward/ignore a bad behavior, it will likely continue and even escalate. Boys are not told countless times to “zip up”, but girls as they grow up, at every turn, they are being told to “close their legs, cover themselves”. This indoctrination is the reason why in the past, women were more likely to have more self control than men. But even with all the stigma attached to women, women still cheat, and they are catching up with their male counterpart at a very fast pace. If you look at the studies into paternity, figures show that between 8 to 15 per cent of children, haven’t been fathered by the man who thinks that he’s the biological father. Women are having more affairs than ever before; the figure is around 20 percent for men and a bit over 15 per cent for women. Alarming ? Maybe, but I’m afraid, the trend is going to continue. Girls have grown up, seen their mothers, aunties and other females, be the “ideal wife”, the “submissive wife”, the “patient wife”, and still, these women get treated like trash.They are now wondering , “Why should I be a conservative wife, when regardless of how loyal or submissive I am, a man will still abuse me, cheat on me, and disrespect me?”. “Why should I be faithful when no matter how faithful I am, society will still blame me for anything that happens between me and my husband”. So, again reward and punishment; if these women are not getting rewarded for their subservience to their husbands, by should more women follow suit? Why should they do the same thing that the women before them have tried and failed generation after generation? Madness, after all, is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. Most girls are now overcoming their inhibitions and you know what they say, “if you can’t beat them, join them”. If it was possible for cheating individuals to only be with people that cheat on them too, it would have been a perfect match. But unfortunately, there are so many faithful men that do not deserve this trend. If we want to build a world where men and women treat each other with respect, we have to take a bold step and condemn attitudes and behaviors that are destructive. Double standards when it comes to cheating seems to be encouraging cheating by more women. So to parents, BRING UP YOUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS TO BE FAITHFUL AND DECENT HUMAN BEINGS. This one sided bull*crap needs to stop, else, if we keep making excuses for men’s attitude towards women, we can all sit back, relax and brace ourselves for a 21th Century Sodom and Gomorrah, and the fact that women are skilled at keeping their affairs secret, I can say with certainty that women will win this cheating war that seems to have broken out between men and women. BRACE YOURSELVES I TELL YA!!

Nice right up. Unfortunately it is too late. The abuse of power has since a norm in patriarchal societies; women were always seen as properties and most importantly married or courted to give birth. This has been the practice of these societies for thousands of years. There were/are matriarchal societies but the ratio between the is almost 10:1. Most matriarchal societies have been wiped out. The only way to resolve this problem will be to annihilate most men and bury patriarchal system. Not an impossible task but it will take a while.

Women in the patriarchal societies are taught to be weak and feeble because of their sex. They are not pushed to be financially, physically and mentally strong by their parents. You forget that a girl child by most families in Nigeria is seen as an incomplete human, sub par, inequivalent to the opposite sex. Cultural structures/norms and governmental structures are structured by men in way that will always keep most women subservient and financially dependent on them forever.

Taiwo20:
Which ass? Oh! You call that thing ass...
Anyway, by collecting paychecks because they worship your ass makes you a_______

Is that the only thing you have to offer? It's your type that goes on IG and FB posting ass theme pics. And they would be claiming feminist.
And woman posting such is an hypocrite, lazy-ass who hasn't discovered her calling

You don't know me 1/100... I mean at all. Yes men love to gaze and worship my ass and give me their money, some access to their bank account. Lmfao. E dey pain you? Knock you head for ground. By collecting paychecks from them worshiping my ass makes me a Goddess. They don't need European god anymore. I am who they worship. Mehn I can't wait to make this the norm all over Africa. Instead of African men going to church to worship a God that Arabs and Europeans coerced them to worship, the first thing they would do when they wake up is to worship, adore, sniff and kiss a huge African booty. That will become the norm.

tosyne2much:
[/b] Hahahahah I don die

Mennn don't laugh too much lest you choke on your own saliva!

Taiwo20:
You don't have to insult me. This is my opinion and you don't have to subscribe to it. That's why it's a forum.. I never said its normal and I never approved of polygamy. Anyway, I blame the guy that bought you this phone and the other one that paid for the data

You insulted yourself by having such ideologies. Funny thing is I purchased my phone, albeit men love to give me their paychecks and worship me and my ass.

Taiwo20:
People don't like the truth, I am a factual person and love factual people. This epistle according to miss lawlardey is not an endorsement of polygamy or unfaithfulness. I was taught essay writing. This may simple comprehension

It just means that this way of life has been deeply entrenched in your psyche that it is now normalized, in other words you are deranged. Subjugation and subservience has been normalized. That is why the government is the way it is today. LMFAO. Black people are doomed.

AfroSamurai:
Nigerian men hardly divorce their wives because she cheated. I know some who are still married to women who cheated on them.

At the bolded. I'm curious, what if that imperfection is laziness, in bed? Are you willing to be married to a man who can't perform, yet he's faithful to you, doesn't cheat or even physically or emotionally abuse you?

They say women outnumber men right? What is the ratio of men cheating on women; along side other abuses: To women cheating on men; along side other domestic abuse in an extreme patriarchal culture/society?

[quote author=Respect55 post=54457322][/quote]Hell yes.

italo:
Verbal abuse too.

goes with mental abuse.

Tipsdon:
Lagos.. Wbu?

New York. So are you an ass worshipper?

tbliss22:
What would you have suggested if you were to be her friend?

Women like her have accepted pain from the opposite sexxx as a norm. We share different ideologies so I can't be friends with her. But If I was to talk to her it would only be about revenge. How she can make his life miserable for the next 20 years. Extort money from him, beat him until him until he falls into coma. She can get tasers, electrical plugs etc.

Tipsdon:
what do u suggest we do ma

Where do you reside?

tbliss22:
I still think unfaithfulness in marraiges still boils down to self discipline in our men.

Most times our young men's growth pattern moulds and determine who they really will be when they start the journey of marraige.


I have a friend who's not married but has a faithful girl who loves and adore him so much, but the simple problem is he can't stay a week without penetrating a lady's hole. The girl friend has caught him times without number but she kept telling me "I just can't let him go".

Looking critically at my friend's case:

1.he shouldn't be surprised if these set of girls fucking him right now kept coming back after he must have gotten married to his wife.

2.He shouldn't also be surprised if he discovers one or two of his side chicks suddenly shows up with a child which he will have to accept responsibility if truly he rocks the mother's Hot-pot

3.He should be ready for possible blackmail later in the future if paradventure he's so rich to contest for political office.

4.My guy should know that SEXual experience with ladies sticks in their memories especially if you've got "weapon of mass destruction" kind of joystick (I.e really big and you know how to slap it)

Finally to my guys out there, every sexually active man will love to have 5 super juicy Hot-pot opened before him but there are always PAINFUL consequence later in the future when you would have retired from fuckery and that dirty past will continue to be a regretful experience.

PUNA is sweet but it pays to stick to one.

your friends girlfriend has a mental issue like the rest of Nigerians/black people.

Tipsdon:
Wow. I would love to worship your ass.

Hmmm, I don't know what you look like.

12inches1:
Whether you like it or not the OP is making a lot of sense. If you pick 10 married men in Nigeria I can assure you that 9 out of them will cheat at one point in the marriage. This is not to say there won't be that one that won't. 9 out of 10 is 90 percent and this is a very high proportion. Not to condone cheating but if all women left their cheating husband only 10 percent of families will be together. That is 1 out of 10. And this is coming from someone that is married.

WOMEN NEED TO BE SELFISH IN THEIR MARRIAGE. CAN YOU BELIEVE THE NONSENSE YOU ARE SAYING? ONE SHOULD SUFFER AND SMILE BECAUSE MARRIAGES WILL BREAK? HONESTLY I NEED TO FLOG ALL THOSE WOMEN WHO HAVE ACCEPTED PATRIARCHY AND IT'S ABUSE OF POWER.

Lawlahdey:
I decided to write this article as a result of the argument that erupted from my comment on the Tonto dike's failed marriage brouhaha thread.

Before I actually write on the topic gangan, Allow me to quickly share a real life story with you.

There is a grandpa. A rich grandpa, happily married to a beautiful woman with 7 very successful kids.
The wife of this grandpa is a very strict and prayerful woman who believes that being strict and prayerful helps you keep other women away from your husband. She has been successful and victorious so far. They have never had a cheating scandal in 50 years of their marriage(or,so she thinks).

Recently, the grandpa called his first son(prolly because he knows he is close to his grave) and narrated the story of how he got another woman pregnant and the woman gave birth to the child with an oath that she won't ever bring the child to disrupt his marital home.He has actually been feeding and financing thd child without the knowledge of any member of his family. He said he told his son so that they could know that they have a sibling out there somewhere and bring him home after his death. He also asked the son to promise not to tell his mother or any of his siblings the secret.
So, Faithful Grandpa with a perfect marriage(In people's mind)actually has a son ouside marriage and his wife of over 50 years of marriage doesn't know. She thinks that she was successful in her quest for a hundred percent faithful man. She is the type that throws jab at other women with problems in their marriages and tell them to come to her and ask her how she did it, how her prayers, strictness and everything weren't in vain afterall.
She still hasn't found out, right. I wonder what her reaction will be the day she finally finds out that her 'faithful' husband has not been faithful afterall.

Now to the koko oro..

It pains me when i see my fellow women bragging about how they cannot stay with a man that is not contented with staying faithful to only them for the rest of his life. They say they will leave the man, that there are plenty more men still out there in the world... "No time to check time".. LOL.

You think that every 'perfect' marriage that you see, that you envy, that you hope for has been able to stand gidigba without sacrifices??

You think that because Joke Silva and Olu Jacobs do not come out to wash their dirty linen in public, they haven't had their own shares of marriage trouble??
See, It takes a very very very patient and enduring woman to stay in any marriage.

You can't stay with a man that won't cheat at all?? Then, walk the fvck outta the relationship and don't ever go about saying "All men should be able to stay faithful to one woman for the rest of their life".

You think tonto dike didn't think churchhill would remain faithful to only her for the rest of his life because he loves her?

You think Tiwa Savage didn't think that Teebillz would remain faithful to her forever? What with all her money and the banging body and everything? Does edible catering have more money than Tiwa? Or a hotter body? What did edible catering have that tiwa doesn't?? Why wasn't tiwa able to keep Tee down, even with everything?

Even Beyonce suffered her own share of unfaithfulness from JayZ.. And you are here forming, "I can't stay with a man that isn't hundred percent faithful"?? , "I can't ever share my man"??

Fine. You can't. Then leave! Leave and go from one man to another in the quest for your model man.
If a man loves you, He will prolly cheat in the hope or fear that you don't find out but don' t ever believe there is a hundred percent faithful man, specially moulded for you somewhere.. Because you are miss perfect too ahbi?

I know some of you will come here to say that you are praying for the perfect men and God will answer it.
Well.. Reality check:90% of those with failed marriages also scouted and prayed for the perfect man. You ain't better than them.
STOP LYING TO YOURSELVES.

And for those of you men that will come here to say that they can't cheat on their woman, I don't even have anything to say to you. Just keep telling that to those who would believe.

Maybe some 10% of you(tryna be generous with the figure) can be faithful, but you all know nature, you can't stay faithful to one hole.

Explains why a man that has one curvy, beautiful babe at home will see another curvy babe on the streets and his dick will still rise.

PS: Ladies, don't hope for a totally faithful man, just pray for one that doesn't throw it in your face.

If you had said women should go out and cheat and subjugate men the way they are being subjugated then I would say you are making sense. Women like you do not need to procreate or even live. You condone the ills that come from living in a patriarchal society. You tell women to numb their feelings and hope their man does not throw it in their face? You don't tell women to have more than 5 men available to them. Tell them to have someone who will love them unconditionally, another man who will always financially be there, another man who is great in bed etc. But you have accepted and tell women to accept the same thing. Any woman who takes your advice is a big fool. WOMEN LEARN TO SELFISH, LOVE YOU TOO MUCH THAT NO DUMB BITCH OR MAN'S OPINION CAN EFFECT YOU. WOMEN WHO LIVE IN A PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY NEED TO MAKE THOSE SO CALLED RULES/WAYS TO WORK FOR THEM.

Tipsdon:
You have a thing for ass.

Yes I love my ass being worshipped. I love it being sniffed, licked, french kiss, tounguefucckked etc.

amokeme:
Financial abuse?? Please can you enlightened me on this, never heard of it before

THE BLOG 07/28/2014 05:38 pm ET | Updated Sep 27, 2014
Financial Abuse: 6 Signs and What You Can Do About it
By Ginger Dean
Financial abuse is something that we rarely discuss openly since it is often insidious and wrapped up in the confines of what appears to be otherwise, a normal relationship. Very rarely do the women in these relationships speak of the issue because of the shame attached to having to account for every penny spent or even ask for money just to purchase the very basic necessities in life.

So what are the signs and what can be done about it?

Forced Career Choices

Women in financially abusive relationships are often forced to take career paths they would not have chosen on their own. This keeps them from succeeding, eventually becoming financially stable and independent in their own right. Many women in these situations are either stay-at-home moms or if they do work, it is part-time with the permission of their spouse. If the woman is lucky enough to be able to work full-time in such a relationship then her partner often sabotages her career/work life by forcing her to stay home or giving an ultimatum around quitting the job or ending the relationship.

Every Penny Spent Is A Penny Tracked

Every penny, and I mean every penny must be accounted for when given to the woman in this relationship. If it cannot be accounted for then the emotional and even physical abuse ensues and consequences are handed out. This many involve being given less money for basic necessities or being forced to beg for money. The feeling of being trapped in the house with no money for gas, food or transportation is crippling and women in this type of relationship stick to this rule or they know they will suffer the consequences.

No Bank Accounts

No personal bank accounts. No debit card. No savings accounts. No checking account. All money comes from one source. The working partner. This puts the woman in the position of relying on her partner for her very existence, hand to mouth. She is not allowed to have a job and if she does then her checks go to her partner who deposits the money in a separate account out of her control.

Threats Of Leaving

This is one of the most overt forms of financial abuse. Threatening to leave or deny financial support knowing that the woman is unable to support herself without the finances of her partner. Once the partner levies such a threat, control is established since she knows without her partner, her daily needs won’t be met. So, she stays in her lane and keeps herself in line fearing that without her partner, she will be destitute with no place to go.

Lazy Bum - Deadbeat - My Woman-Is-My-Momma Syndrome

The men in these relationships control everything financially even though they aren’t working, because they take and control all of the money coming into the home. All the household bills are usually in the woman’s name and he never pays them, forcing her to work harder while never seeing the fruits of her labor.

Forced Family

In this situation, the woman is essentially pregnant every other year of the relationship, ensuring that she will never have the chance to return to work. Depending on her earning power, with the birth of each child, the cost of childcare makes it impossible to return to work. Her life’s work is to care for children and her partner while never knowing what it is like to taste financial freedom and independence. Ultimately, the woman in this relationship is dependent upon her partner for her survival.

What Can Be Done About It?

Leave. Plan your way slowly or swiftly out of this relationship and leave. Relationships like this can never be trusted to become equitable since so much of it is about power and control.
Reach out to trusted friends, relatives or even a local church who many be able to house you until you’re able to get on your feet.
If vocational training or education is a barrier to getting a job then start going to school online.
Skim money from whatever is given to you and save little by little. Every bit adds up. Open a bank account in secret and stash your money until you’re ready to leave. Ask friends and family for donations to this account while noting you will pay them back once you are on your feet. Start a blog and learn how to monetize it.
Get a job in secret. For example you can say that you’re volunteering and get a PT job walking dogs or babysitting while he is away or working during the day. Or find a position working from home, online.
Establish credit. Get a secured card that you keep only at a friend’s or family member’s house in a locked box. Use it to make purchases while building your credit.
Research all options with regards to government assistance around food stamps, housing and community-based services. When stepping out for the first time, this may be a temporary option to get you from point A to B while you establish yourself.
Have you ever been in a financially abusive relationship? What tips do you have for women in this situation?

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Icaretoo:
most of them endured marriage and most women were afraid to live there homes for the mere fact "what will people say" or I can't live my children or there parents will not accept them back and so on ...they just learned to live each day as da come in d union mostly for their children

Also note that the rate of dependence on their husbands for almost everything was more as compared to women of now so they would reather endure all dat comes with marriage no matter how terrible, good or bad but not so as the case of these generation who do not have patience for anything.
funnily women were more abused and maltreated in does days compared to now but they grew up to obey and worship there husbands as he has d final say and the opinion of the woman does not court

Great point!!!

Respect55:
Make I hear say I marry dis one. Na so I go dey wash plate as d husband b4 she mend my nonsense with deadly precision

what is wrong with washing dishes?

SAMBARRY:
she go dey beat you anyhow if you fok up.this one no be woman again o

Oh really? So what is your definition of a woman? Let me guess weak, and tolerant of patriarchal system huh?

Beating(physical abuse) is not the only form of abuse, there is financial and mental abuse also.