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CChillz:
OP,
Can you FOCUS on building your future for now and let the opposite sex be your least worries?
Once you do this, you will become so busy that you would not even have time for relationships.
You are very young and at the infantry stage of Manlihood. This stage is very critical as it could spur you to the wealth you so desire if well managed.
Secondly, you also do not need to carry your "Ex" along your new contract. She made her choice already so let her be..
Thirdly, avoid anything that has to do with getting into dating and relationship again for now so your FOCUS will not be divided and also don't allow your "ex" to emotionally manipulate you later into starting a relationship again when she comes around her senses... Don't also ever also taunt her with your new status or flaunt your wealth for her to see, only CHILDREN does that. A time will also come when she will ask you about the contract and how you're faring? Do not loose FOCUS and let your pursuit for greatness be your only FOCUS.
Have you asked yourself this question? Is this not a blessing in disguise for me to FOCUS more?
Apart from married men, the joy of being single is non negotiable most especially when you had a demanding partner.
Op, FOCUS on utilizing the starting point like your dad said. Make him see that his investment in your University degree is worth it.
Finally finally, do not lavish that money during your youth service because most young boys take youth service and being a corp member as a time to show off wealth and class. Let your youth service also be among the time for you to FOCUS on your future plans.
Prioritize your time, money and FOCUS and see yourself BECOME A MAN YOU CAN BE PROUD OF.

OMG!! Thank you thank you thank you, this is so fatherly, God bless you.

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ProfDview1:
Can u carve me into ur project? Pls

I noticed you bro, kindly let me know your skills, let's see how it works, tho i got my team already.

DaySpringer:
Wake up and don't be a simp.

Listen.

Make me a promise.

Don't spend on that girl until you have read UBUNJA's threads on nairaland.
or his website miseducations.com

and then read the book The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.

If you finish reading those books and you still want to spend on her then be my guest.

Checking on this right away

ProfDview1:
Forgive rubbish...
OP, if them born u well, u send her any foolish money.. Never take dt girl back.

Another thing is, ignore her

But i feel u can help her whenever she needs help dt her Alhajis can provide

Thanks, I understand better

DaySpringer:
Brother. I am going to tackle this from several angles. I understand that you are heartbroken at the moment but while your heart might be feeling psychosomatic pain, the best way to heal would be to reorient your mind.

You have been dating her since she was 17. For her to be even loyal for that long, she has tried.

But then again, was she really loyal? Your friends suspected foul play that you did not see because you were blinded by love. Think about it. What if there was foul play behind your back all these while, how would you feel?

SHE IS WEAK-MINDED
Okay. Someone made a comment


You are a man that is heading to the top. Yes, she stood by you but she also allowed herself to be influenced into giving up the investment that she has been building for the past 3 years. Will you say you did no give her one naira throughout the relationship? No. She got greedy. She wanted more than you can give.

Listen a man needs a woman who has a strong mind. Who believes in him and what he can become. You were not lazy. You had a business and you were working hard for your future, a future that she would have enjoyed had she remained with you. Yet she allowed herself to be misled by a girl that slept with men for money.

A weak-minded girl can never be loyal because she will be influenced left and right by different flashy things. She will definitely cheat on you that is why you should be happy that she is gone. You want someone that stays with you because of you and not just because of your money and you should learn how to make this distinction because when you make money there will be girls that will flock around you because of that same money.

WHAT DOES SHE REALLY HAVE TO OFFER?
She evaluated you based on financial capacity. Now think about this logically like a businessman.
What does she have to offer that is worth the value of that money?
Now don't answer me like someone that has been brainwashed by the Gynocentric society we live in. It takes guts, determination, persistence, strategic thinking, and the right networks to make money. Which of these did she contribute in your life to bring you the money or the contract that you got later?

If she can evaluate and leave you because of your financial status then you should evaluate her on her qualities that can influence that financial status or even her own. Let me tell you a girl that is business-oriented will not leave you because you cannot provide for her needs, such girls understand potential and hustle. They understand patience.

DON'T MIND SIMP BOYS
Posters like Slap44 are so feminized that they want to further guilt trip you into feeling bad. They have bought into the narrative that girls need to be taken care of for the mere fact that they are females. That sleeping with the girl means that you should consequently be taken care of her financial needs. I don't know whether the guy even read the age of the girl and saw that she was just 20.

Your girl wants to hoe around and slap44 wants to have you believe that she is looking for marriage.


At 20 your girl is still approaching her peak period of attractiveness and she wants to milk it from as many girls as possible like her friend is advising her.

Is your girl an orphan? or is she from a poor home, does she not have parents who are taking care of her needs?
Will she say that you have not given her a dime in the 3 years of the relationship?

SIMPs want you to believe that because you have been having sex with her, you should be taking care of her financial needs.
Is she a prostitute?




No Nigerian babe currently wants marriage at 20. Except the guy is a billionaire like Ned Nwoko.

A girl should be in charge of her own Personal development. This is another thing you should look into with any future girls you want to be with. Be with a girl that takes responsibility for their own personal development and does not wait for the man to do it.



Look at the silly fantasy he is giving you. It is this silly fantasy that has turned many girls into baby mamas for men that will never be emotionally available to them, the way you would have been for that lady.

Look at the fantasy again, it doesn't say anything about the girl's own aspirations or dreams or efforts or goals. It simply sees her as an international housewife and that is the definition of success.

I don't know which "Contracts" are 50,000 naira in this country but it is clear that Slap44 and his cohorts have been influenced by the gynocentric society to believe that women should be taken care of for existing just as women and that their Sex organ should be paid for.

Young man, be happy. You are just starting life. In 5 years' time you will more successful and have the pick of all the 20-year-olds you want.
Or you will have found a girl that understands patience and loyalty.

Wow wow, this is just the reason I brought my predicament here, I'm gonna save this, read everyday till I heal, this is just it bro, the eye opener. , thank you so much, I need to concentrate now God bless you God bless you so much for this.

Zabiboy:
@ Adams011.

I'll leave u with this note...
Its from ESTHER VILAR ( she's a WOMAN) ...the author of "The Manipulated Man"

Make sure u read every single word

GL bro

Thanks a lot bro, appreciate your concern

Zabiboy:

Guy, you owe that wh0re nothing....
Yes....If the 5 foolish virgins in d bible could be punished severely for impatience, THEN WHO D FVCK IS SHE??
move on....enjoy urself....build your self worth more and more and leave her saying HAD I KNOW all her life

GL .....

Wow, please let's not tag her LovePeddler

Zabiboy:

Nice reply bro...
But next tym, be more firm....
Like: No we cant...i need space....alotta space..FULLSTOP
Btw that shuld b ur last reply to her...
GL

Lol, that was even hard to type

SLAP44:
And she tried her best to use her body and her privacy to comfort you for 3 solid years too.

You owe that girl really big.

Sure, I'm thinking of arranging some packages for her but my friends think it's not a good decision to still spend on her at the moment, I really love this babe, guy it's hard to move on without me spending for her now as my geniue babe.

SLAP44:
I wonder how he expected the girl to just endure and stay without any assurances of marriage or commitment. If he dumps her when he makes money then it's the girl that will lose everything.

The is girl gave him her youth, her body, her companionship and her trust all that 3 years, and he is not taking care of her as he ought to since go he said he didn't have the means.

Men should understand that women are not their doormats.

All three years I was an Undergraduate, she is too, I tried my best as an undergraduate to take care of her, I really tried my best with the little I got from my side hustle

iamadonis2:
I'm not here to debate whether you're lying or not. That's gist for another time. I only have an issue with the message of winning a contract at the eve of your breakup. Yeah?

You sent her screenshots. Has she come back to you? No, I presume. Bro, we are all guys and I pray we get to a point where we understand that women can lead their own successful lives without us.

Yes she did, she sent this just yesterday

iamadonis2:
Guy, you reason am Sharp! Wonder how society just moved to antagonize females. Girls de follow hammer.

Never wished her badluck, I wish she gets the best thing of life, she deserves even more

SLAP44:
What about these parts of your post, we're you lying to us about these?

I just explained why she left, I wasn't getting enough money, now pops won me a contract, you should understand better what contract means

SLAP44:
The same girl can walk out and meet the richest young boy in this country and get married to him and in two months will be pregnant, living in her husbands new house in New York and starting school in a university in the USA.

Meanwhile

The former boyfriend's broke azz might just be chasing the normal N50,000 contracts

Lol true, but wish you knew the figures attached to that contract, it's like a starting point according to my pops

SLAP44:
And you have found a more pretty girl to enjoy your new loot?

And in your mind now, she was the "winch" sent by your village people to tie your destiny all these years abi?

Very predictable.

Thanks, but I still really love her, I find it hard to move in even when I know at this moment I'm bucked up

iamadonis2:
There's something I've always wanted to point out in all these Nairaland sob stories. How is it that in all the stories, the guy only gets the so-called contract after the girl may have left?

This detail, maybe added to witch hunt the female folks, is quite unnecessary. Women can break you, yes; but even a lazy brother can.

Women can make you hammer, too. They can make you grow. And yes, more importantly, they can walk away and get their own "contract" without batting an eyelid at the one you just won.

It's not cooked up bro, my family's rich, but it's like a ritual with my folks you tend to get all necessary support after school, I'm a fresh graduate and preparing for my NYSC, my pop's got me that contract to start up and set things for myself as a man. The night she left was the night I wanted to tell her we won the job, she wasn't patient enough, I cried on the phone when I called to remind her to be patient enough for me. I snapped and showed her every details and the money attached

zionmde:

people are crazy oo

OP girls at a certain age behave that way. at 18-25 they think it's all about their beauty and d money and gifts guys can give to them. it's normal sha, and wen u find someone within dat age range who thinks differently, hold her tight

I'm 25 she's 20

Rhozabeth:
When a girl does not have a mind of her own, she will easily be influenced by others! If u don't stand for something, u fall for everything! Guy leave her and let her go but double ur Hussle, I tell u in no distant time she will see babes flock around u and then u will laugh last!

This got me

thesicilian:
Call me old fashioned, but at 25yrs of age you should be planning and investing for your future financially and professionally, not shouldering the responsibility of another family.

Thanks so much, I'd really wanna take to this, especially I should save a lot from my newly won contract for my future

SLAP44:
Then I think she has every reason to expect that you take care of her financial needs like her friends are being taken care of as you said. Every girl has an expiry period and their value depreciates with age, supposing you dump her after enjoying her body alone for many years and she ends up with nothing?

Marriage, she is not sure
Money, she didn't get
Personal development, zero

And when may just end up committing suicide.

Okay, I understand, but just when she left things started to change for me, I won a contract worth more than six figures but, I'm so sad she's not here to eat the fruits of her patience. I thought I shouldn't have included this before, but you just got me to pour the thing out.

SLAP44:
Hmmm

Have you been sleeping with this girl, like having intimacy with her over the years?

Yes we've been having sex.

Hello good people of Nairaland, I really need help from you guys, I've been in a 3years relationship I'm 25yrs and all of a sudden my hopes and dreams with this girl just got shattered. My girl got influenced by her new close friend, because that's juat what I suspect, her new friend is a type of girl that gets money from guys, men with money and cars, I don't know if she sleeps with them or not, when I noticed I advised my girl to please stay put of such a friend with just worldly benefits. The whole thing was like a shock to me when she came clean to tell me she's ending the relationship because I've not been getting enough money to take good care of her, this is the girl you can never think she'd come out boldly to say such thing, she told me if she doesn't show it before she's the type that loves money and loves her guy buying her gifts everytime, she told me I've not bn doing enough to make her stay, just of recent I had little issue with my brand and I've not been making enough money to feed and cater for my personal need not to talk of a girlfriend, this was a shocker to and really broke me, we endured a lot together even when some of my friends advised me to end the relationship with her because they started to suspect a foul play from her, this has really got me heartbroken and I'm afraid this should not lead me into depression, my friends have been there for me ever since, they call me everytime to make sure I get my mind off the memories with her. Now my question is why has some girls turned relationship into a poverty alleviation scheme?, Coz she told me if we don't end the relationship now she'd cheat on me, if she sees a guy she likes she'd definitely go for him and if I discover later on the relationship might end so badly.

Rest on�

Wow, see beauty with brain.kudos!

This one is loud o, I wish they could go after our corrupt politicians too like this.

Na dem

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