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HELLO NAIRALANDER,
If you desire more wisdom in running your marriage or the foundational knowledged needed before signing the life contract watch the videos below as i find them quite helpful.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql8pehWBKms

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FbmofemhbSg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgXmIcqvI2g

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F-9FytIQNXc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QK8jKrt5xiQ

Enjoy

Hello Nairalanders,
My name is Adanma Onu,I am married with a 1 year and six months old baby girl,i have an issue going on in my life that has almost destroyed me.
Here is my Story, I am thirty-two years old,my husband is five years old older than me,we live in the Uk,I moved in to the UK six years ago as a student ,i met my husband in the UK too as we were both studying in the same school.i fell in love with him because he was a christian and i loved him dearly,fast warded we got married two years after we met.The quest for pregnancy began,i eventually got pregnant and had my baby January 2015.i started working after i graduated from school.my husband is working up till date and we both share the bill in the house,he pays the house bill,car-loan and i take care of my student loan,food,electricity,and council tax,he insisted we have a joint account which i oppose,i suggested that we can take a fixed amount of our monthly income and put it together towards our investment plans for the future.I discovered that he was not pleased with that idea and he says i am been secretive as am not open*Note that he knows what i earn in a month,He also made a rule that when i changed my car that i must buy the car in bought our name ,it was strange to me but i succumbed so as for peace to reign,When we have a fight and i talk he tags me as a Rude ,Non submissive woman,and i don't want his progress in life.

Fast warded he had an investment idea which require that we pump in some money,i had a saving of 500k and i gave him to support this cause,He doesn't appreciate what ever i do to make the home process go on smoothly,and whenever we have issues he would call his parents back in Abia and report to them this had open several times,Due to his way of stressing me i have had 3 miscarriages.3 weeks to the birth of my daughter he slapped and kicked me that i had to go into emergency labour before the excpected due date at the end of the whole process i had to go through cs section to save the life of the baby as i was in coma for hours after the delivery process.Now i have been thinking a lot as any little fight he involves his parents.Last month i was diagnosed with High Blood pressure which i never had before i married him,

I feel i am been used ,we have fought several times,My Brit neighbor called the police the last time we fought,when they came to our house we had to cover up as if everything was fine.he doesn't feel remorseful about the whole thing,My aunt in the Uk requested that i move in with her as she does not want to lose me that the trauma is too much for me to bear,He told me that if i misbehave again he would report me,My good nairalanders please what am i suppose to do in this scene,Genuine Advises are needed no insult please

Lastly is joint account a MUST in a marriage
How can a woman be more submissive in her marriage.

I am loosing it i don't want to Die because of Him.

Thank you all