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1. Get involved – and get to know people: Making connections and building a campus support system is essential. And you need to be on campus to do this – so spend time at John Jay. The more time you spend getting to know the college, the more comfortable you will be here. Take advantage of unique programs and educational opportunities, get involved in clubs and organizations, attend campus events, and even invite a classmate to meet after class to study or to grab something to eat.
2. Go to class – and participate: Class attendance really does affect your grade. Don’t assume that if you read the chapter, you will be prepared for exams and assignments. Professors don’t always follow the book, and portions of the exam may be based more on their lectures and class discussion than on the readings. Professors also sometimes make important announcements during class, and some professors have even been known to give exam tips during class.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help – and don’t wait until it’s too late: Even if you’re not having difficulties in class, you should still make an appointment with one of the tutoring centers. The centers not only help you review class material, but they also offer workshops and opportunities to further develop the skills you already have. It is also important to communicate with your professor if you don’t fully understand something in class.
4. Go to see your professor – that’s why they have office hours: Your goal should be to attend the office hours of each of your professors during the first few weeks of the semester. Introducing yourself to your professor and attending office hours will let your professor know that you are serious about doing well in class.

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5. Make a good impression: Impressions can be everything, especially at the beginning of a new class and before your professor actually gets to know you. The best way to show your professor that you want to be a good student is to be engaged and involved in class. Even if you are feeling nervous, frustrated, or are just having an “off” day in class, choosing a seat in the front of the class, sitting upright, staying awake and attentive, raising your hand, and coming prepared with notes and readings will tell your professor that you want to be there.
6. Get a calendar or planner – and use it: Time management is critical, and you alone are responsible for knowing and meeting deadlines. Create a schedule that involves classes, study time, campus activities, and work obligations.
7. Think about your future – early and often: Your future includes shorter-term plans, like course registration and choosing a major, as well as longer-term plans, like graduate education or career possibilities.
8. Take great notes: Great students take great notes. Anything the professor writes on the board is important. Develop good study habits by reviewing your notes each night and highlighting any questions you have or anything you need clarified. You can talk to your professor about these questions when you attend office hours.
9. Take responsibility: Going to class, doing your assignments, asking questions when you don’t understand something – it’s all up to you. Take an active role in your own education and learn to be your own advocate. Find a study spot that works for you, be proactive about using the resources on campus, and be the person who’s not afraid to speak up.

10. Prepare to challenge yourself – and be challenged: Being in college is an exciting time, but it can also be a big adjustment and there are likely to be times when you are feeling overwhelmed. It’s okay if you don’t know everything. Be open to new experiences as well as change. Now is your time to think critically about your assumptions about the world and to consider other points of view.

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oluwalfa:
31 - stop writing nonsense like you sabi pass the person wey dey suffer, who feels it knows it, talk is cheap

#certified...... Lols? Just glance through your sig. Never trust a yoruba man. I don't really trust your statement.

BeeBeeOoh:
Hope them no mention Orijin??...na there my concern dey

Do you really know what origin means apart from the drink.

INTROVERT:
stop sinning especiacially premarital and extramarital intercourse

Sin is not what you do to yourself. I categorize Sin as something you are aware of as a bad thing to do and you keen doing the bad thing. It is an act of transgression of Gods will.

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
Here are some ideas to get you started.

1.) [www.adedokun.com]Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

2.) Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3.) Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

4.) Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

5.) Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6.) Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7.) Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.

Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8.) Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9.) Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10.) Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.

11.) Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

12.) Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

13.) Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14.) Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

15.) Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16.) Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

17.) Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18.) Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

19.) Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20.) Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21.) Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22.) Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

23.) Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.

24.) Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.

25.) Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

26.) Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

27.) Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.
28.) Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

29.) [www.adedokun.com]Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

30.) Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.


Read more: http://www.adedokun.com/2015/07/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/#ixzz3gyygr6uD

ELTON123:
wetin dis one de talk



Sorry I don't need ur tanks better go and give it to buharis cow

You missed it bro. But you got a inspiring signature. You rock #thumbsup

jomonic:
Thanks. Very inspiring for me too.

Thanks boss for droping the comment. To read more inspired articles,kindly visit my blog or follow me on twitter @adedokunbbaki

adamilen:
LIFE

dear readers, we have only one life to live? its is all our ideology that life is important of all. but we are considering variables that can affect ones life considering monetary terms. these variables are wealth, health ,time, personal satisfaction, common sence etc.

To any living soul,i believe the paramount entity in ones life is his/her health.

ELTON123:
no mind him



I blame that man that sold expired weed for him

you are sighted @elton but my dear brother, i am born before the moon landing. so, i dont take such.

anyways,thanks for droping your comments

DoroMega:
Your life nko, aint it valuable

Yes it is ? thats why i state that your health is the greatest of wealth. Here ''health'' and ''life'' are related because what health means in the sentence is related to a life. and also life is the main determinant whether you have the ''health or the ''wealth''




Do you know why success is so difficult for many people to obtain?


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xpac01:
Inspiring. Thanks

Do you know why success is so difficult for many people to obtain?

Read more: http://www.adedokun.com/#ixzz3gwrv02CD

Do you know why success is so difficult for many people to obtain?

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benedictnsi:
...... And buy hummer for our mama, travel to Panama, chat with Obama and gist about Osama even our Haters go beg us for banners omo Phyno and olamide d try ooo

you want to hammer right/i think thats quite a good answer since you already have a focus in Life. but my dear brother, what are the steps you have taken towards a successful and productive life. Do you know why success is so difficult for many people to obtain?

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You know recently when Ukraine was going through a civil conflict it was in the papers everyday. Countries were condemning Russia, sanctioning it, trying to support the country being ravaged, sending in aid money, food, etc.

But then I saw a piece in the paper where Ukrainians said, we don’t want aid. We don’t have much right now, and that’s alright. We will manage. Homes destroyed, livelihoods wiped out, but we will manage. What we want is peace. We cannot live without peace. That is all they asked of the international community.

All the money in the world cannot replace a feeling of peace. We all really just want a little a little piece of peace.
Peace of mind. We are willing to give away vast amounts of wealth for it. But often we lose it while chasing massive amounts of wealth. An odd situation.

This got me wondering what else I’m losing everyday that I will one day wish I could pay to get back.

Health, the greatest of wealths
Right now, as I sit here typing this out, I’m trying to ignore a mild throbbing in my upper back. You could pay me a million naira for this article or you could say I’ll take away that niggling pain from your back, and I would choose the latter.
Physical pain and discomfort can just ruin the joy of little things… every day things. I write for a living but sitting here at a computer writing everyday is slowly killing me.
This is something money can’t fix. I’d pay someone to fix it but they can’t.

Love, it’s quite the drug
Mark Zuckerberg invented Facebook, not just to get rich or famous or become an entrepreneur. He was in love with a girl and he wanted to get her attention.
Parents who work long hours and are unable to spend enough time with their children say, ‘They did it to give their children everything they would ever need or want in life. They did it for you.’
But what children, and spouses, and loved ones really need is more time together. Maybe sacrifice a little of that time and money, to give more space in your life to love. I promise it’ll be worth your while, it’s one thing worth more than money.

The unforgiving ticking of time
Time is unforgiving. Once past, it can never be brought back. And yet, we are often far more careless with our time than with our money. We think twice about spending money, analysing expenses with complex precision, make sure we get value for every rupee…
But we throw time around as though it is an unlimited resource. It is not.
Ask the parent who didn’t pay enough attention to his child, now a sullen teenager uninterested in being seen with his parents. Ask the athlete who feels the end of his career nearing, no longer young enough to be at the top of his game. Ask the woman who spent one too many years chasing career goals, and missed the deadline for bearing a child.
Time, once past, can never return. Give it due respect.

Experiences and the memories they birth
Do you remember the last time you caught up with your old college pals. What did you guys talk about? I’m guessing there was a series of anecdotes starting with the words, ‘Remember when… ‘
Remember when we snuck out of the hostel and jumped over the walls into the library at night and rearranged all the books? Or whatever youthful craziness you were up to those days…
You didn’t talk about how much you make or what you own. Yes, you carry around your sleek gadgets and perhaps show a thing or two off, maybe even throw in the brand of your new car into conversation.
But that’s not what really brings you to the pure hearty laughter that a ‘remember when…‘ story can bring. The memories of those ‘college days’ are irreplaceable. The memories from your honeymoon, the first time you child said mama, the first time you jumped into the deep blue ocean with an oxygen tank and discovered you could breathe under water… priceless.
And it’s not just me saying that. Psychological research suggests that when you spend money to buy things the happiness you derive from them is short-term. But when you spend on experiences, the memories that are created give you a lifetime of happiness.

Personal Satisfaction
‘A job well done is its own reward,the saying goes.
One of the greatest incentives that drives us is striving to be the best. Bonus and remuneration are nice incentives, the need for money keeps us going, motivates us to do a good job. But it doesn’t drive us to greatness. That is something that comes from within – the need to achieve mastery.
As Mahatma Gandhi said.
‘Infinite striving to be the best is man’s duty; it is its own reward.’

Personal satisfaction from doing the best job you can, from doing the right thing, and giving it your all, is worth more than money (even if money is always a nice added bonus).

Common Sense
Ok obviously, since what I do is peddle common sense I think it’s more important than money. But you have to admit, it has great value. It teaches you to deal with whatever situation life throws at you. But since I’m always writing to you about it I won’t go on and on here.

That’s my list of things that matter more than money. I’m not trying to under value money. It is crucial to provide the foundation of a good life. lack of money is a huge impediment. But money is, after all, really just the means to an end. That end is happiness. And this is a list of things that bring lasting happiness.


Read more: http://www.adedokun.com/2015/07/what-is-more-valuable-than-monetary-wealth/#ixzz3gwFTJl2L

Delphi:
Also, peace of mind!

thats it bro.i already stated it in the post

These are all great reasons for why you hustle but what specifically happened in your life that made you want to hustle? This is the event which transpired that made you question your current existence as to how you were living and operating.

I’ll give you an example of my own experience:

The saying is that death comes in 3’s but from my experience the realization of your truth is depicted from 3 reoccurring experiences. For 3 years straight, my year would always start off rocky, become great, slow down and then get really tight at the end of the year. It was a consistent transition of existence that always seemed to produce the same scenarios in the exact same order. Anxiety, Happiness, Worry and Despair. That is how my year would progress for 3 years straight. Finally, after the last cycle of these continuous scenarios, I was done experiencing this lack of financial control.
I would find ways to place the blame on others or certain circumstances for my continued “bad luck” but the truth was that I was to blame for my existing reality. I had to realize nothing occurs in life that you do not allow to initially come into your atmosphere and grow. I determined that in order for my life to become what I truly desired, I would have to hustle hard and work non-stop. I came to a point in my life where I was sick and tired of feeling like I lacked control. The problem was not that I lacked control but that I gave my control away by not being proactive rather than reactive.
When your mind becomes consumed by the hustle, you are always on the move to preserve and advance. You become more aware that your time is limited and are eager to maximize valuable opportunities that are presented to you. Once the passion of the hustle consumes you, it forces you to make shit happen and transition your life to another level. And this is why I hustle, because my past experiences in life made me realize that I wasn’t working hard or smart enough to truly live. I hustle to truly live life and experience what the world has to offer.

Again I ask, “Why do You Hustle?”


Read more: http://www.adedokun.com/2015/07/why-do-nigerian-hustle/#ixzz3gwSgZwrq

You know recently when Ukraine was going through a civil conflict it was in the papers everyday. Countries were condemning Russia, sanctioning it, trying to support the country being ravaged, sending in aid money, food, etc.

But then I saw a piece in the paper where Ukrainians said, we don’t want aid. We don’t have much right now, and that’s alright. We will manage. Homes destroyed, livelihoods wiped out, but we will manage. What we want is peace. We cannot live without peace. That is all they asked of the international community.

All the money in the world cannot replace a feeling of peace. We all really just want a little a little piece of peace.
Peace of mind. We are willing to give away vast amounts of wealth for it. But often we lose it while chasing massive amounts of wealth. An odd situation.

This got me wondering what else I’m losing everyday that I will one day wish I could pay to get back.

Health, the greatest of wealths
Right now, as I sit here typing this out, I’m trying to ignore a mild throbbing in my upper back. You could pay me a million naira for this article or you could say I’ll take away that niggling pain from your back, and I would choose the latter.
Physical pain and discomfort can just ruin the joy of little things… every day things. I write for a living but sitting here at a computer writing everyday is slowly killing me.
This is something money can’t fix. I’d pay someone to fix it but they can’t.

Love, it’s quite the drug
Mark Zuckerberg invented Facebook, not just to get rich or famous or become an entrepreneur. He was in love with a girl and he wanted to get her attention.
Parents who work long hours and are unable to spend enough time with their children say, ‘They did it to give their children everything they would ever need or want in life. They did it for you.’
But what children, and spouses, and loved ones really need is more time together. Maybe sacrifice a little of that time and money, to give more space in your life to love. I promise it’ll be worth your while, it’s one thing worth more than money.

The unforgiving ticking of time
Time is unforgiving. Once past, it can never be brought back. And yet, we are often far more careless with our time than with our money. We think twice about spending money, analysing expenses with complex precision, make sure we get value for every rupee…
But we throw time around as though it is an unlimited resource. It is not.
Ask the parent who didn’t pay enough attention to his child, now a sullen teenager uninterested in being seen with his parents. Ask the athlete who feels the end of his career nearing, no longer young enough to be at the top of his game. Ask the woman who spent one too many years chasing career goals, and missed the deadline for bearing a child.
Time, once past, can never return. Give it due respect.

Experiences and the memories they birth
Do you remember the last time you caught up with your old college pals. What did you guys talk about? I’m guessing there was a series of anecdotes starting with the words, ‘Remember when… ‘
Remember when we snuck out of the hostel and jumped over the walls into the library at night and rearranged all the books? Or whatever youthful craziness you were up to those days…
You didn’t talk about how much you make or what you own. Yes, you carry around your sleek gadgets and perhaps show a thing or two off, maybe even throw in the brand of your new car into conversation.
But that’s not what really brings you to the pure hearty laughter that a ‘remember when…‘ story can bring. The memories of those ‘college days’ are irreplaceable. The memories from your honeymoon, the first time you child said mama, the first time you jumped into the deep blue ocean with an oxygen tank and discovered you could breathe under water… priceless.
And it’s not just me saying that. Psychological research suggests that when you spend money to buy things the happiness you derive from them is short-term. But when you spend on experiences, the memories that are created give you a lifetime of happiness.

Personal Satisfaction
‘A job well done is its own reward,the saying goes.
One of the greatest incentives that drives us is striving to be the best. Bonus and remuneration are nice incentives, the need for money keeps us going, motivates us to do a good job. But it doesn’t drive us to greatness. That is something that comes from within – the need to achieve mastery.
As Mahatma Gandhi said.
‘Infinite striving to be the best is man’s duty; it is its own reward.’

Personal satisfaction from doing the best job you can, from doing the right thing, and giving it your all, is worth more than money (even if money is always a nice added bonus).

Common Sense
Ok obviously, since what I do is peddle common sense I think it’s more important than money. But you have to admit, it has great value. It teaches you to deal with whatever situation life throws at you. But since I’m always writing to you about it I won’t go on and on here.

That’s my list of things that matter more than money. I’m not trying to under value money. It is crucial to provide the foundation of a good life. lack of money is a huge impediment. But money is, after all, really just the means to an end. That end is happiness. And this is a list of things that bring lasting happiness.


Read more: http://www.adedokun.com/2015/07/what-is-more-valuable-than-monetary-wealth/#ixzz3gwFTJl2L

Being mentally strong at work is critical to your success. How you build that mental muscle though, is often something that people don’t think about a lot while at work. So I thought a post might help. which I think are the core aspect of being mentally strong.

Focus on basics first and only then details. A person was caught after many years of successful robberies and theft. When asked why was he so successful in committing these crimes, he replied, ‘I always go where the money is.’ Mentally tough people stay focused on developing the essential skills. Never drifting aloof or beating around the bush. But coming directly to the point. No point in learning about how many years ago did frogs arrive on earth, if you don’t know the definition of evolution. Got what I am saying?

Don’t control what you can’t. They never waste time, energy and resources in factors which are simply beyond their control or are extremely unpredictable.

Rejoicing success of others. Getting motivated from success of other people, without any resentment or hatred. They constantly learn from such events, in turn increasing their probability of being successful.
Embracing solitude. Enjoying one’s company. Never fearing being left alone by everyone else. Though they may be alone, they are never lonely.

Vicarious learning. Learning from mistakes of others, facing similar circumstances. You won’t live long enough to make all the mistakes by yourself nor can you afford to make the same mistakes again and again. So, learn from as many sources as possible and learn fast.


Always in controlwww.adedokun.com.Having all the power with themselves, without devolving it to anyone else. Means that being in charge all the time. And not being made vulnerable by others.

Delayed gratification: Doing the hard thing, without expecting immediate success. They are also faced by multiple alternatives, which give them instantaneous pleasure and a kick of hedonism. But they constantly fight against this urge to give in, and they keep pushing forward.

Maximum overlap between reality and perception of reality.Neither being pessimistic nor optimistic. Always being pragmatist and realist. It is very easy to be carried away by what ought to be than what is. Knowing what is real, how our world actually works and aligning your thought process with that, is a hallmark of being mentally strong.

“Celebrate what you’ve accomplished, but raise the bar a little higher each time you succeed.”– Mia Hamm

Keep your eyes on the big picture
What’s your big picture?
Is it building the playbook on how to grow a start up?
Is it leading and inspiring a team to be at their best?
Is it raising a great family and having great work life balance?
Whatever your big picture is, stay focused on it. Don’t get dragged down by the small stuff.
Keep raising the bar. It’s how you stay mentally strong.

Now go out there and make a dent in the universe!www.adedokun.com



Read more: http://www.adedokun.com/2015/07/9-key-traits-of-mentally-strong-people/#ixzz3gwB9RI2Q

There may be a thousand definitions of success, all true, but there are 50 qualities that every modern day entrepreneur is likely to possess. When you examine the list, you’re likely to find many qualities that you’re personally familiar with. If you can’t identify with all of them, don’t fret. With practice and a winning attitude, each quality on the list can be developed with time, commitment, and a winning attitude.


Here are the hallmarks of every successful entrepreneur.


[b]The vast majority of entrepreneurs enjoy what they do. It will always be true that a person gets out of their business what they put in. A lack of enthusiasm or commitment will easily reflect in your business’s success or failure. If you don’t find joy in what you’re doing, chances are you won’t be doing it long.

Successful entrepreneurs take what they do seriously. They believe in the products and services they sell. The number of people working successfully at home has grown by leaps and bounds.

They plan. No stone is left unturned. They know what they have to do and they find the discipline to get it done.

They know how to manage their time and money. To them, time and money are the same. Knowing how to manage both is a pathway to success.

They are afraid to ask for business. Advertising and marketing are worthless unless you ask for the sale.

They remember that it’s always about the customer. Products and services exist for only one thing—the customer. Everything is customer-focused.

They maintain a professional business image at all times. They know that a first impression is a lasting impression. They maintain the attitude that every time a customer receives service, it’s administered like it’s the first time.

They know their customers. This way, customer can receive personalized attention. Eighty percent of business is repeat business. Repeat business comes from knowing your customers.

Entrepreneurs aren’t afraid of new technology. They embrace and leverage it to their advantage. They build competent teams. It’s important to surround yourself with talent; the right kind of talent.

They’re considered to be experts by their peers and customers.

They can leverage marketing to create competitive advantages. Is better customer service a matter of pricing, offering discounts, or more flexible payment options?

They invest in themselves. They read business journals, books, magazines, and stay on top of their education.

They’re accessible. They know how to make it easy for their customers to do business with them? Too few people are willing to work hard and go out of their way for others. Be that person.

They build and polish their reputation. A good reputation has to be earned and nurtured. Whatever your offer, make good on it. Your customer’s trust is built upon this rock.

Educate your customers about the benefits of your product or service.

Get and stay involved with your customers.

Find ways to grab your customers’ attention. The more engaged they are, the more willing they are to share your story.

They know how to negotiate. Negotiation skills are highly important. Almost important as asking for the sale.

They design their environment for success. They know what type of surrounding it takes to keep them motivated and focused.

They know how to organize.

They take time off when needed.

They limit the number of hats because they take a hands-on approach.

Entrepreneurs are excellent at following up on things.

They can easily idealize things.

The ability to visualize is second nature.

Verbalization is a valued means of communicating.

They exude confidence.

They take responsibility and feel pride of ownership.

Entrepreneurs are passionate about learning new skills.

They feel that being dedicated is a virtue.

They show gratitude for their good fortune.

Successful entrepreneurs are optimistic by nature.

They lead by example.

They welcome risk and realize that it’s connected to success.

They possess a positive mental attitude.

Successful entrepreneurs are extremely self-confident.

They have a positive attitude toward failure.

Successful entrepreneurs possess the right mix of knowledge and skills.

Independence is their hallmark.

They are dependable. They do what they say.

They are resourceful. They’ll find a way to get it done.

They never feel constrained.

They’re ambitious. They know what they want to achieve and they go after it.

They’re healthy. It’s hard to focus if health is a concern.

They’re realistic. They dream big, but they know their limitations.

Entrepreneurs are problem solvers. If it weren’t so, they wouldn’t be entrepreneurs.

They’re okay with no pay. They may have to wait long periods before getting paid.

They don’t mind being original.

They’re comfortable with uncertainty.

They embrace humility.[/b]

There’s a strong likelihood that you’ll possess a majority of the above traits. In any event, you can bet that some of the most successful entrepreneurs may have mastered all fifty.


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Again I ask, “Why do You Hustle?”

Why do Nigerian Hustle?

These are all great reasons for why you hustle but what specifically happened in your life that made you want to hustle? This is the event which transpired that made you question your current existence as to how you were living and operating.

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You don’t have to waste your life doing just enough for things to be OK.
You don’t need to stay stuck at a job just because it pays your mortgage.
You don’t have to back down just because someone else thinks your ideas aren’t worth pursuing.
You don’t have to stay on the ground just because life pushed you down.
You don’t have to agree with the crowd so your life gets a little bit easier.
You don’t have to stop believing in your dreams just because you haven’t succeeded so far.
You don’t have to have a degree, certificate, or anyone else’s approval to go be awesome.
You don’t have to give up, slow down, or fold.
You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.


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We are all social people. We are just social in different ways. Don’t be ashamed of the way you interact with people. Learn from your strengths and develop them. Never give up on communicating with people as it is one of the greatest joys in life.
Being social and outgoing isn’t difficult. It’s actually quite liberating. Everyone else is saying you can’t do it, but I disagree: you can do it. And that’s the attitude you have to have, not just with this, but with everything in life.
A big part of this is working on your first impression. Make sure you are dressed and groomed well. Make sure your body language is on point – no slouching, make good eye contact, acknowledge people’s presence.

How do i become more Social

1. Make eye contact

Make direct eye contact with anyone. People on the metro. On the sidewalk. In the elevator. Just look in their eyes, try to figure out what they’re thinking about, how they feel. Only few people still do that nowadays, yet it’s creating a connection with the person you are looking at.
Afterwards..

2. Smile

Like it or not, people are attracted to happiness. And by attracted I don’t mean in a sexual or loving way – it’s just making the impression that you’re fun to be around. This works especially well with any female – some men will just think you’re weird. But don’t let that stop you – the overall results will blow your mind!

3. Make small talk

Ask people about their weekends, their pets, their apartments, their activities, what their plans for the week are, how they came to end up where they are, what they love about their jobs/environment/hobbies. Try and always ask questions that are implicating an open answer such as “Why did you choose to live in lag.?” or “How did you end up studying physics?”. This way, people will open up to you and in turn will be interested in you. Try to avoid questions to which the answer is a mere fact or a “yes/no” such as “Do you like it here?” or “Where do you live?”. These don’t lead anywhere.


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The Benefits of Marrying Young

When it comes to having a happy marriage, researchers have found that getting hitched between the ages of 22 and 25 seems to be the sweet spot. That’s just an average, of course, but the benefits outlined below mostly focus on “young” as being one’s early to mid-twenties.

You (and those you date) will be carrying less baggage.

I was recently talking to a single friend in his 30s who was bemoaning the dating scene for folks his age. He said, “When you look at it, if a person is reasonably normal, they’ve probably had about one semi-serious relationship each year, or every other year, since they’ve been teenagers. When you get to your thirties, you’re carrying more than a decade’s worth of break-ups, lingering feelings for past partners, trust issues, and disappointments with you. Everyone you date has got a bunch of baggage.”
When you marry young, you and your wife have less exes, old flames, comparisons, and retroactive jealousy of each other’s past relationships to deal with. You can start life together with more of the guileless freshness that lends itself to unabashed and lasting romance.

You’re more likely to marry someone with whom you’re highly compatible.

A lot of folks put off marriage so they can shop around longer, thinking that the more they look, the better chance they’ll have of finding someone who’s just the right match for them.
Yet research suggests you’re more likely to marry a true peer and someone whom you have lots in common with if you marry in your 20s as opposed to later. It makes sense. Couples who get married in their 20s often meet in college, a time in your life when you’re surrounded by tons of people who are of similar age and background and have similar interests. It’s easier to find someone who’s the yin to your yang in the classes, clubs, and extracurriculars you’re interested in, than it is to sort, or swipe, through a random assortment of women online.
So too, the longer you wait to get married, the more ideal potential partners get taken off the market. As Dr. Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade puts it, “Even though searching may help you find a better partner, the pool of available singles shallows over time, perhaps in more ways than one.”

You’ll have more sex (even years after you marry).

Staying single may seem like a good way to keep the sexual good times rolling. Yet surprisingly enough, research has actually shown that married men have more and better sex than their single peers. Why would this be? Getting a woman to come home with you, even if you’ve mastered PUA techniques, takes time and effort. Instead of having to troll nightclubs or lucking out that the girl on the internet you’re interested in will also swipe right, married guys got the Mrs. to go home to.
If you want to enjoy a robust married sex life even in your 30s and 40s, the research also suggests that couples who tied the knot in their mid-twenties have more sex than couples who got hitched later on. Why? Researchers aren’t sure. Maybe it’s because you have more energy for sex in your 20s, and what starts out hot and heavy, echoes on that way through the decades.


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The Benefits of Marrying Young

When it comes to having a happy marriage, researchers have found that getting hitched between the ages of 22 and 25 seems to be the sweet spot. That’s just an average, of course, but the benefits outlined below mostly focus on “young” as being one’s early to mid-twenties.

You (and those you date) will be carrying less baggage.

I was recently talking to a single friend in his 30s who was bemoaning the dating scene for folks his age. He said, “When you look at it, if a person is reasonably normal, they’ve probably had about one semi-serious relationship each year, or every other year, since they’ve been teenagers. When you get to your thirties, you’re carrying more than a decade’s worth of break-ups, lingering feelings for past partners, trust issues, and disappointments with you. Everyone you date has got a bunch of baggage.”
When you marry young, you and your wife have less exes, old flames, comparisons, and retroactive jealousy of each other’s past relationships to deal with. You can start life together with more of the guileless freshness that lends itself to unabashed and lasting romance.

You’re more likely to marry someone with whom you’re highly compatible.

A lot of folks put off marriage so they can shop around longer, thinking that the more they look, the better chance they’ll have of finding someone who’s just the right match for them.
Yet research suggests you’re more likely to marry a true peer and someone whom you have lots in common with if you marry in your 20s as opposed to later. It makes sense. Couples who get married in their 20s often meet in college, a time in your life when you’re surrounded by tons of people who are of similar age and background and have similar interests. It’s easier to find someone who’s the yin to your yang in the classes, clubs, and extracurriculars you’re interested in, than it is to sort, or swipe, through a random assortment of women online.
So too, the longer you wait to get married, the more ideal potential partners get taken off the market. As Dr. Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade puts it, “Even though searching may help you find a better partner, the pool of available singles shallows over time, perhaps in more ways than one.”

You’ll have more sex (even years after you marry).

Staying single may seem like a good way to keep the sexual good times rolling. Yet surprisingly enough, research has actually shown that married men have more and better sex than their single peers. Why would this be? Getting a woman to come home with you, even if you’ve mastered PUA techniques, takes time and effort. Instead of having to troll nightclubs or lucking out that the girl on the internet you’re interested in will also swipe right, married guys got the Mrs. to go home to.
If you want to enjoy a robust married sex life even in your 30s and 40s, the research also suggests that couples who tied the knot in their mid-twenties have more sex than couples who got hitched later on. Why? Researchers aren’t sure. Maybe it’s because you have more energy for sex in your 20s, and what starts out hot and heavy, echoes on that way through the decades.


Read more: http://www.adedokun.com/2015/07/benefits-of-marrying-young/#ixzz3gECPftXR

Attraction is a funny thing.
Many people believe physical appearance is the driving force behind attractiveness. If you hold that belief, you’d be wrong.
While physical appearance plays a role, your thoughts and how you carry yourself are the dominant power behind attractiveness. You don’t have to be dressed in the latest trends or wear the right label to be attractive. You also don’t have to lose the pounds to attain your ideal body weight. Or spend enough time at the gym to get the right definition.
With the right mindset you can unveil your natural beauty.
How?

Be Real

A lot of people hide their true self by putting on false personas. When you do this, not only do you obstruct your true self, you create false relationships.
There’s no reason to hide your faults or pretend they don’t exist. Embrace your true qualities; no one expects you to be perfect (except, perhaps you).
Those who are true to themselves are inherently more attractive. Never be embarrassed of falling short. Being real means accepting who you are and loving yourself as a result. Only when you love yourself can you genuinely begin to love others. And as your self respect increases, so does your attractiveness – self respect is the best aphrodisiac there is, period.
Talk With Purpose
There’s something attractive about those who have a purpose with their words. Don’t simple talk for the sake of filler. When you talk, speak with authority.
“Better to keep your mouth closed and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.”…

Listen

In an increasingly opinionated world, the skill of genuinely listening has become a lost art. When you talk, really talk – and when you listen, really listen. Suspend judgment and open your heart and mind to listen.
The person who really knows how to listen is magnetic.

Laugh

When you laugh, you radiate an inner beauty. While it’s certainly possible to over do it, laughing is virtually always looked at in a positive light. Plus, a sense of humor is alluring. No one likes to be around a grouch.


Read more: http://www.adedokun.com/2015/07/10-ways-to-be-more-attractive/#ixzz3gEA8504z

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