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Neverwill:
I met a man here on nairaland that nearly or should I say took advantage of me and made me nearly commit an abomination which I nearly did. I wanted to keep this to my self till he sent me a message this last night again

I would keep this brief and I hope I find closure with this as I have been so sad since Wednesday and I couldn't sleep

I had to create a New moniker to post this because this is shameful

I'm 29 and a very handsome man. I have a young family with a beautiful wife that I don't even think I deserve because she is an Angel and I have 2 beautiful girls that means everything to me.

I lost my Job during the pandemic last year and it has been hard getting another Job and it's even harder watching my kids starve and my beautiful wife cry at night

I know my responsibility as a man and top most is me providing for my girl's and their Mom.

My wife have been shouldering the feeding responsibility at home since March because after i paid my girls school fee in February my account became empty

Even though my wife does everything she has never been rude to me or shown me the normal "Nigerian" women attitude

She has never denied me sex or spoke to me rudely since August of last year. She meets men, richer men that wants a relationship with her but this lovely woman tells me all, she even gives me her phone to chat with them

In all of this I kept on looking for a job because I feel like I'm failing my girls

On Monday I was in a thread here on nairaland and I made a post that I needed a job so badly and I got an email from here and I replied the email and I and the person started talking and he invited me to his office in the island

I was excited, baby was excited and the girl's were excited as well and I got to his office the next day which was on Tuesday and I submitted my CV to him and he went through it and was impressed and we spoke even more and he said something to me 'what can you do to get this job' and I said anything because I need to start providing for my wife and the girl's as I was feeling the pressure from home and he said something again. 'You are very handsome and I would want us to be closer and if you agree to this you would get even more than a job

Then he told me his office would get back to me and he gave me #15k as transportation and while I was heading home he texted me and said if I'm free tomorrow he would like to see me

My mind told me something was off , I knew but I just couldn't imagine or believe something of that nature could happen to me, I replied his text and told him I would be free and he told me he would get back to me and Wednesday morning he sent me a text that we should meet in one of the biggest hotels in lekki

I asked him why an hotel and he said he has an appointment with a client and he would want me to see the client with him so he accesses my ability In convincing a client to partner with us

Then I got to the hotel by 10am and I called him I was there and he invited me to his room and when I got in it seemed odd

There were 2 glass and a bottle of wine and we started talking and we spoke a lot while we drank and I actually felt comfortable around him and we started talking family and he told me his wife and kids are in America

Then when it got to my turn I told him about Nike and my girls and I got very emotional and started shedding some tears because I'm failing my family even tho it's not my fault, even though I look for job everywhere and every day both on jobberman and LinkedIn and Twitter and Facebook

Then he told me how much I want the job and I said so badly and he said what can I do to get the job I said anything and he said what can I do to get a job of #150k per month gosh that broke me and I said anything at all and right there he called his personal assistant to draft an employment letter in my name and add a salary of #150k

We continued talking and he told me how much I had left in my account I told him just 3k because I gave wifey the rest of the money he gave to me to prepare something for the kids

Some few minutes later he brought out a bundle of cash and told me it's mine and the employment letter in his email which he showed me if only he has sex with me

Hmmmm

I was stunned and astonished and didn't no what to do

I needed a job so badly, my kids needed the money so badly, Nikky has carried the family enough and I needed to do something and there was an opportunity

If it was you what would you do?

I have never thought I would be in such a situation in all my life but I asked him if it would be painful and he Said no

I'm so sorry for even considering it

Then he showed me a video of how easy it would be

Hmmmm

May God forgive me

I agreed guys

I agreed I'm so sorry babe

I agreed because I have been so broken and empty emotionally and mentally

He told me to pull of my dress and I did and he did as well and I don't know what he rubbed in my ass , maybe a cream he said for easy penetration

Then he kissed me and I kissed him back and in all of this I was just mute, confused, not knowing what to do

I knew I hated what I was doing but I needed a job for my girl's and wifey

Then he told me to give him a Mouth Gig and immediately I held his penis in my hands I remembered how Nike would always say no to other men And the Love we shared and I came back to my senses

And I respectfully told him I can't and he was angry and DISAPPOINTED as I could tell from his look but he told me to leave and I asked him about the job and he told me he would get back to me

I left and immediately went to the church to pray and when I got home babe asked me about it and I said I didn't get the job and at night she wanted us to make Love but I felt too dirty to do that

yesterday morning she wanted to kiss me I felt too dirty to do that also

My kids noticed I was different and asked what's wrong and I told them daddy was sick

I'm confused, I don't know if I should tell her and I don't know how she would feel or if she would even forgive me

My kid's are on midterm and I should take them out today but no money, I can't remember when last we had a family time together in an eatry

I feel so sad right now

I feel so broken right now

God forgive me

Please let's not take advantage of people in their down moment. I nearly fell for this and would have regretted it forever

God help me

Good morning

Bro, please don't feel bad. thank God you didn't do it, you are a great guy!
I would personally advise you tell your wife what happened. i know you will, because from your write up you so much love that woman.

don't feel so down bro. in few days time u will be fine, and believe me when i tell you a better job is under way

BTW, i enjoyed your write up. great writing skills

Christie171:
Do you yourself his follower have one real account of your own?

YES! I trade myself but still under his mentorship

BadRadio:
90% Forex brokers do not trade but they want you to.

Forex will not make you rich.


No matter how u master the art of Fx trading, you must blow up your account at least once.


The best forex teachers are not the best forex traders. Dont be surprised that those who tutor you on Fx trade do not have any Fx trading account in their name.


There is always a bigger margin for losses than gain in Fx.

Forex brokers earn when u loose or gain while trading...

Forex brokers volunteers to teach you how to trade for free without a fee, but their reward is having you sign up with them and invest, every time you take a trade position they take a percentage of it through spreads.

Those who makes average success trading forex is less than 30% and these set of people are the ones who makes Fx their main source of income and not a side hustle.

You really sound very funny or will i call you amateur

My Mentor earns $250,000 - $400,000 on his trading accounts monthly. am talking about his real trading accounts. he has upto 4 trading accounts with each account funding on $100,000 deposit. he doubles his account every month. sometimes, when the market is bad for the month he takes home upto $250,000 that particular month.

Please don't say what you have no clue about. make your research very well. Forex can make you really good income and make you very RICH.

missyadorable:
Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

How would you say no man beep only one woman? I have done it, and i believe many men out there will do the same

stop confusing the young girl please

JPnir:
that's not a problem pm.me send me s mail

I have sent you PM. Thank You Bro.

moneybag100:
Have you re apply?

House am having some serious financial mess! My Dad don't have enough cash at the moment. am looking for where to take a fast loan

Anyone in the house to help me?

Vicjustice:
The money received from (Nigerian style) property ownage and rentage can not satisfy the required standard of acceptable method of earning for the simple reason that such earnings are mainly undocumented and do not comply with taxation: and therefore, they lack credibility.

Then kindly advice me on what to do? Because am so confuse of what to do

what do i do bro. ?

Vicjustice:
The evidence of the source of origin of the fund is what is they like to see; in plain word, they want to see the thing that generated the money, not just the availability of the money.

My Dad has buildings, his a landlord! do i have to take his house Certificate of occupancy in one of his buildings and go @ embassy, just in any case they ask me where he generated the funds from?

and what if they don't ask? and also the mode of how the money was lodged, is it going to affect me? Because i want to put all the money at once in my personal account today

Please advice me! thanks for your assistance

nikdam:
@adeh2009
The balance was 3m +,
No I wasn't asked who deposited the money ( mind u no lodgement of money o) and the account was/ was very active.
Only presented a month statement of account, made a lot of transactions within that one month that was y I presented just one month.

@demaejy,
Going to pecs
Dhl collected 5 860 naira

@moneybag100,
3 m.

I plan to ask my DAD to deposit 2 million in my personal account today then with a written statment that he provided this money for my studies

what do u guys think?

Vicjustice:
Hearing anything about your uncle will put you in position of disqualification.
An uncle is not an immediate family member, meaning, an extended relative is not eligible to come into it at all:
The sponsor has to be your PARENTS, your BROTHERS, your SISTERS or your SPOUSE: the involvement of any other person will automatically disqualify you.
f you state that the money was provided by your uncle, that will automatically disqualify you, and if you state that your parents provided the money or that you are providing it, then you would need to present valid evidence.

Thank you Vicjustice! Valid evidence in the sense that if they see the depositors name same with my surname they wont believe its my father?

what other way should i have to provide evidence. and also if my use the name of my father to deposit it one time example 2 million Naira, will this disqualify me?

Thanks for your help so far!

Vicjustice:
An uncle is not an immediate family member, meaning, an extended relative is not eligible to come into it at all:
The sponsor has to be your PARENTS, your BROTHERS, your SISTERS or your SPOUSE: the involvement of any other person will automatically disqualify you.

And also take note, Am right now sponsoring myself. so i should just say in a written letter that my father gave me the money for my studies abroad is this wise enough? so if i take money from my uncle, i will still get disqualify?

If he gives me money on his own freewill to put on my personal account for the purpose of my studies, i will still get disqualify?

Am sponsoring myself this time!

I will wait for your reply sir!

Vicjustice:
An uncle is not an immediate family member, meaning, an extended relative is not eligible to come into it at all:
The sponsor has to be your PARENTS, your BROTHERS, your SISTERS or your SPOUSE: the involvement of any other person will automatically disqualify you.

And what if they ask me why didn't my father gave me money before, what will i tell them? and again is it necessary that they will ask me what my father did to provide the money with documentation?

Thank You, i will wait for your reply

nikdam:
I did not insult the guy or anything o.
I actually presented my account statement for self sponsorship.

How much did you have available in balance? and also were u asked who made the deposits and also did they checked your old months transaction

Thank You!

nikdam:
took 3weeks

Hi,

You got sponsored by your parents?

Vicjustice:
If you state that the money was provided by your uncle, that will automatically disqualify you, and if you state that your immediate family member did, then you would need to provide valid evidence.

Hi Vicjustice,

Please let me know why you say this? why would they disqualify me? because i got money from my uncle about 2 Million Naira why my DAD gave me N500,000 for the purpose of my study. i will wait for your reply

Thank You!

Demaejy:
@ Vicjustice , Justwise , worry357

Please I need your view on this.

I applied for a student visa in which I used my Uncle as my sponsor. Some days later, see below the message I received from the embassy.


"". Dear Sir,

The Hungarian Immigration Office ask for
additional documents. I attached the letter.

I am calling your attention, that you have to submit the following additional documents in order to support your application.

Please attach your personal fresh bank statement
from the last 6 month, according to the Hungarian laws, the uncle is not a family member.

Please scan and send the document by email to
the Embassy.

Thank you. """

........................................... ............................... .. ..

Note that, I am a student going for Bachelor program and I don't work yet, so i don't have money in my personal account. What can I do in this situation? Since their laws don't regard an Uncle as a family member, is it advisable to use my parent account? Though the parent account is not as strong as my Uncle's account and that's why I didn't use my parent account before.


Thanks , I will appreciate your replies.

I guess you re lucky that they even sent you an email like this. they didnt send me any email like this, and i was denied due to this fact.

but was given right to appeal. what if i deposit the money in my personal account, money which is from my Uncle's company account which i had used to apply earlier

And put in a written statement that where as my uncle cant sponsor me with the money on his account, that he has sent me the money to my personal account for my studies Abroad along side with my father

Does this sound any better & encouraging? what do you Guys think?

Jeffrey09:
@adeh2009 you may be asked why you did not use your parent the first time and what do they do to be able to finance that sum for you.

It's worth trying, just prepare a convincing answer to every question possible and supporting documents. And I'm more into @moneybag100 proposal as to keep your or your parent's account running with a lot of money for a few months and then go for February intake.

All in all it's your decision, do what's best for you and i wish you the best of luck bro

And what if i deposit the money in my personal account, money which is from my Uncle's company account which i had used to apply earlier

And put in a written statement that where as my uncle cant sponsor me with the money on his account, that he has sent me the money to my personal account for my studies Abroad

Does this sound any better & encouraging?

moneybag100:
Still the same as money laundering because they will think they only did it for visa purpose and they could get the money back from you after they issued you visa.
They only thing you can do it to start running your account against february intake..u still have like 5 months.

Brother i have to give it a trail. one of my friends did it and was issued visa. He sponsored himself! his mum, dad and brothers deposited about 3 million to his personal account

Secondly i have many other transactions which i have done with my account in the past

I will give it a trial!

Jeffrey09:
@adeh2009 very sorry to hear your experiencem tho you should look for other options if you can make right that sponsorship issue and apply maybe in Poland or Romania, or some other country. I have a friend who was denied for poland last year for the same reason(uncle sponsor) but got hungary visa a few months later using her parents as sponsors. Good luck anyway

I plan to use my self as sponsor, get funds from my uncle and my other family members and deposit it to my personal account upto 4 million Naira. then with a statement that the funds was given to me by my father, mother for my education Abroad

What do you Guys think?

N:B my parents has very low inflow of transactions in there statements so i cant risk to use it, i know i will be refused by it

Demaejy:
But can't he reapply by using his Parent?

Hahahaha thanks to you guys!

My School insists i must get the VISA, they went and confirm my visa denial at the immigration office in their city and they told them i cant still re-apply. My program co-ordinator is pressuring me to re-apply with my parents account that just 1.5 million in balance will do. that am his best excellent student, and wishes to meet with me in person

But am thinking now to go for Sweden as i was also offered admission there

Am just a bit confuse what to do at the moment!

What do you think Guys?

Amefreeka:
I used my uncle as my sponsor too. Though am an orphan and my uncle has been my guardian for years. Not only so, I attached his and my bank statement which I have close to 7m. There's inflow and outflow of cash on my statement (not that the money was deposited once). The 2 companies he deal with as their distributor wrote letter and address it to the embassy stating that he is my guardian and am responsible for managing his business. I attached my ID card of customer representative with the companies. Having the same surname and address also help. I also attached sponsorship letter and the company letter used before for my previous visa application.

I said it on this thread that I submitted more documents than what the embassy required and someone bash me. If you have any documents that will support your visa application irrespective of what the embassy required, attach it and submit it to them.

The same thing when I said the interview was somehow rigourous for me, someone said "na simple questions na". Yes, the questions are simple but I took my time to convince the VO. He even call the Nigerian woman to come and listen to me. Even though the visa decision comes from Budapest, mine is to convince the VO on each documents submitted.

Glory be to God. I'm traveling to Bristaslavia in Slovakia with my Ghanaian - Austrian female friend to visit her uncle. We will be heading to Vienna, Austria on Sunday to visit her Dad. We are feeling each other in our heart.

How did i bashed you bro? what nonsense are you talking about? don't think that you know too much!!!

The only mistake i made was that i used a different surname. i will be updating this thread very shortly....

Amefreeka:
It was the same mail every applicants received from the embassy. You either get your passport with the visa stamped or with visa denial letter stating the reason why your visa application was denied.

I have differ my admission till next session. I will be coming back to Lagos next week.

I see Bro. how re u doing? its been such a long time

Sorry Guys for missing out a long time

I have been very busy with other things

Actually i was denied because they said i cant use my uncle as sponsor, its either my mum, dad or myself!

I felt so bad! life must surely move on...

Gifs:
@Amefreeka and Adeh2009
There is a question in the application form- " Are you covered with full Health insurance for the period of your stay in Hungary "....... Please, I'm planning on 3months Health insurance, what will be answer for this question? YES or NO

Please, its urgent. Thank you.

it should be YES

Amefreeka:
I got a mail from Hungarian Embassy that my visa is ready. I have replied them that I won't be able to make it on the pick up date and time. That I will be glad if the embassy can mail my passport and documents through courier service. Patiently waiting for their reply cos I replied them late.

Wow! congrats to you dear

Jeffrey09:
@Adeh2009 Please how did you confirm your appointment date? Via email? Did they send you a reply?

Yes u will confirm it via email

they dont need to send u a reply, as soon as the date and time reaches go to the embassy u will see your name with the security officials there

Amefreeka:
@Adeh2009 and others.
What pissed me off about Nairaland is how people use to counter each other. Using words like there's nothing like this and that but that doesn't mean such doesn't exist because you didn't do it.
We might follow through the same entrance and our direction might be so different.
All embassies will state their required documents and other supporting documents. You attached documents that will support your visa application and someone will say there's nothing like that. I think individuals should address themselves base on what they submit.
Moreover, we have different status and going on different programme.
Did you know why I submitted my birth certificate? You don't know. I'm a Nigerian born in another country. I hold Nigerian passport with another place (out of Nigeria) as place of birth. What did you want me to convince the VO with that I was born there? I also authenticate and verify my results in order to avoid issue of forging or fabrication of result. I met a guy at the embassy that even attached Police Report but I never counter the guy because he felt it will support his visa application after the listed required docs. I did give him thumb up because it was stated in the visa application form if you ever commit crime, so the police report cover for his answer. If you now any documents aside from those required that will support your visa application, then submit it. I have current UK and Turkey Visa, I submitted documents that support my visa application when I applied aside from those required and I got it. The world is a stage, let everyone rock is dream.

Thanks Amefreeka! you really nailed it
Also i want to say a very big thank you for pushing this thread up so far and you have been a great help to everyone of us

Thank you so much and may God bless you!

moneybag100:
Thats very smart of you....
You ssce must be certificate or it can be statement of result and you have to legelize your o"level at moe?

All they need is your Original Wassec Certificate thats all

No need to legalize anything

Gifs:
Nawah o, someone that got her visa last year gave me d attachment sent directly from the embassy which stated all required docs. In fact , very straight forward, not as complicated as the link the embassy Is giving us now. No Flight reservation and Birth certificate on that list. But you must verify and legalise your SSCE at MOE &MOA.

All the same, its pretty okay if you have power to provide every documents, both mentioned by the embassy and the school.

@Adeh2009, please what kind of questions were you asked?

I personally asked the embassy officials do i need to legalize my Wassec they said no need, i also asked them in email too

I don't know where u guys gets your infomation from

I wont call that an interview,..it was just simple questions

About why u choose to study in Hungary thats all i was asked

Amefreeka:
Yes, it is a must to forward your documents to their email before your interview date. Note, make sure you've package your documents before forwarding it to their email cos changing any documents for another after forwarding it to them mean "konakona". I forwarded mine 3 days to the interview.

List of Docs
International passport (must to be more than 3 months)
Admission Letter
School fees payment confirmation letter from the school
Accommodation reservation confirmation letter
SSCE result (to be verify and authenticate by MOE and MOF)
Travel health insurance
Birth certificate
Bank statement
Letter of sponsorship/Sponsor affidavit
Flight reservation

In another news, I just got a juicy offer with a multinational company and I will be traveling to one of the schengen country for training. Studying in Hungary is now my second option . Make I kukuma wait for the visa outcome, if they issue me visa, I will defer the session and if they deny me, all na the same but am optimistic I will get the visa except if God say NO.

Bro. where do u get all this info?

There is no need to verify and authenticate by MOE and MOF and also birth certificate is not required including flight reservation too
Even letter of sponsorship

These are the list of the requirements needed: http://www.bmbah.hu/jomla/index.php?option=com_k2&view=item&layout=item&id=70&Itemid=824&lang=en

Just make sure all the documents you provide to them are very authentic. I did mine yesterday
all questions they asked were so easy and simple, i cant even call that an interview

just know that the visa is decided by the country immigration and not at that embassy, then only arrange visa in Abuja and its mainly decided in Hungary

Amefreeka:
Bros, be first class version of yourself, don't be second class version of someone else. I think I make sense.

Thank you so much Amefreeka! you re really doing a great work

Please i need to know something before your interview date where you sent any formal invitation via your email? or you just went on your own

please i need to know this, very important

Adeh2009:
So you mean to say the one written on the acceptance letter is not acceptable?

No no no i mean to say the one written on the acceptance letter is not acceptable by the embassy?