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So he is ready to condemn every successful actor and actress just so he can sell his stupid movie. Talk about being an assho*le!

Boyooosa:
I wish u don't read this tonite so that u can wake up tomorrow in another regretful day. You keep reigning curses just because you are bittered with truths. Well, its ur problem, I can't help that. Regardless of effort put in avoiding a smello's outburst, it will still soil the whole environment when unleashed.Its ur upbringing, deal with it. Ako'gba!

Girlooode...... Good morning o! So you still came on this thread last night. I wonder when you slept. Shebi you no get work ni? I suspect you are a poor lazy jobless Nigerian youth .


Madam I dey go prepare for work o. Its not like you are even entertaining me again sef. At least if you want to be a nag, yarn sense ke... Which one is all this opata that you keep spewing?

Shebi this how you plan to live your miserable life?
Languishing in a cat fight with a woman for hours and being a burden to your poor parents. You and your pink chewing gum p.enis should go hustle Jor. Nkpi!

Modified: So I see you say your favorite food is indomie. Buhahahahaha! Shoot me already! I said it that my instincts don't lie. You are indeed a lonely nagging sheman with a tiny brocos. I was right.
YOU NO BE MAN AT ALL.
Your favorite food used to be rice but it is now indomie?! Then you bring it on nairaland?! Hahahhahaha! My ribs o!

Broyoosky, you are closet gay. Admit it. Ain't nothing wrong with that. This is 2018, babe! Look at bobrisky na, that lady is submitting his anus and making plenty cash. Be like bobrisky...

Boyooosa:
So you also stammer. Eh ya, try get a good fork, it also helps brain reset. Anyway, its fun seeing you struggling with ur pad to show me that u r as empty as drained cell. Stay awake, we are just approaching 10 here.

Aunty gwegwegwe, you are a disgrace to manhood. Cut that minuscule thing in between your legs and use as meat in a tiny meatpie. You are as man enough as a newborn baby girl's tiara. See as shame leave you come dey catch me.... Oloshi swegbe. So not getting a babe to straff is also one of your frustrations. What ever happened to your neighbor's dog?

Mindfulness:
It isn't true. Many children, no matter how much they love or miss their daddy, will always want mummy at the end of the day.

You are painting a totally different scenario. Gone are those days when fathers were mean and hard disciplinarians and so the kids will ALWAYS want mummy as compared to daddy. Especially in the Western world where this story happened.


If a child hardly sees a particular parent (and hasn't been brainwashed AGAINST that parent) the tendency is for that child to LONG for the missing parent.

If the parent who is present as much as scolds or in Africa setting flogs that child, the next thing you hear is "I want to go be with my mum or I want to go be with my dad".. That is the psychology of kids.


Usually the missing parent who comes around once in a while and shows love and hugs and gifts is actually more APPRECIATED by this LITTLE KIDS who miss this parent and wish they never leave when they visit.. It is until they are grown they see the REAL LARGER PICTURE

Boyooosa:
I know your type, the reason I sent in those words. Repair the bruises and move on, we learn every day. U keep confirming that u can never take an advantage of circumstance to live a decent life. U r so engrossed in ur shabby upbringing and u can't get anywhere except the gift of android that keeps coming in...

Aunty high blood pressure will kill you o! See how you are using power to type with all seriousness. You will soon drop dead. Dull nagging woman. Your fellow guys should be ashamed of you. See as you dey fall hand.

When you said you could take me on I thought you had wits but you are as dry in your comeback as an albino cockroach cum. Go sleep madam, I am gradually getting bored, trying to understand your imbe.cile language...

Boyooosa:
I know your type, the reason I sent in those words. Repair the bruises and move on, we learn every day. U keep confirming that u can never take an advantage of circumstance to live a decent life. U r so engrossed in ur shabby upbringing and u can't get anywhere except the gift of android that keeps coming in...

Aunty high blood pressure will kill you o! See how you are using power to type with all seriousness. You will soon drop dead. Dull nagging woman. Your fellow guys should be ashamed of you. See as you dey fall hand.

When you said you could take me on I thought you had wits but you are as dry in your comeback as an albino cockroach cum. Go sleep madam, I am getting bored, trying to understand your imbe.cile language...

Yawn.

Boyooosa:
Sorry I wunjor u there... I never mean to hurt u.
But u keep coming, till u pushed me to the wall.
Well, next time, behave like a good girl ehn... and you will see comment like 'yeah sure', 'you just mentioned my mind' etc. But if u remain adamant, u will still see more online ridicules from others, no real man takes bull.shit from retarded frustratee. Peace girl!

Aunty boyoyo, you say wetin? Aunty, in your delusional head, you think you "hurt"me? I swear, I nearly choked on my water.

This "Socio midia" sef. You inconsequential imp that has been throwing very dry stale babyish rants like "suitor, lonely....I sincerely can't remember the rest" thinks she is a keypad warrior that "hurts". Kikikikiki


Madam market-women-leader, you are too tiny for me. No game at all. You are extremely weak with your come backs , so I am just playing with you. No level!
From your comments, I imagine a smallish weak boy with really low self esteem.

You will be alright......or nah!

Ozuolododo!

Xbee007:
There, fix it.

Your head dey there.
Now it is fixed! The awwwing can now continue.

What is with all the awwing and wowing.

You mean you can't see the subtle racist subliminal message in that photo?

The black guy with the Photoshop charcoal hands is the one being lifted by the sex.y looking bigger Caucasian hand. Why use that kind of ugly black to photoshop his hand?

If I were to interpret this, it is an extra strong white man helping the inferior extra black man in almost all world achievements as it has been since time memorial.

I wouldn't give this picture accolades if I were a dude.

Just Imagine!!! Shebi when he kills this one now someone will come and tell me to type RIP. How can this ugly man be beating you everyday and you are still in that marriage?
This is the kind of ritualist pastor that counsels battered wives to stay and die. The type that chides a wife for "leaving to live". Smh!

Boyooosa:
I feel ur pain sis, nobody to chat wit, no online picking n buying, no Instagram account (who will even check), no tweeting mate, absolutely nothing. Not social one on one, no one to receive after a long day work, the one you can gesture welcome honey to or probably I missed u tru chat. This can really damage brain I feel u sis.

Haba! Is it that bad?! Lmao!

How do you come up with this things. How do you say all this with someone you have no idea about. Oh wait! Don't reply. This is YOU!

A REAL GEE who is out there HUSTLING can't be caught dead doing back and forth with a woman nagging non stop like a crayfish seller in Ekiadolor market.
I am imagining my Gees, my niccurs my correct huslers doing this and saying in my mind, tufiakwa! Kpanla boy like you. Poverty will kill you, aswear.

Your future unfortunate wife will suffer, walahai!

They say men who are nags usually have teeny wheeny #20 kpomo looking divks. Is it true.

Boyooosa:
There is nothing I can do to ur instability, its beyond me. I found out later and its never too late to send a farewell.

Oh, did I hit a nerve.
Nattering nitwit with spaghetti for brains... Dullard!

Its about time. Good riddance to bad rubbish!
In a sane clime, he would have resigned quietly.
But, this is Nigeria.

Boyooosa:
I know u r enjoying every bit of my companionship, no problem I give freely with good heart. But have it in mind that I can't do beyond this, most especially, going back to ur lonely cage is what I can't help...sorry.

I wont lie, I am bored sitting in this traffic and you are sort of a comic relief. the way you keep emphasizing on "lonely", why do I get the feeling that you are portraying that which is your life. Its pure psychology. I can tell from your writeup that on top your skoinskoin, you are really lonely broke and unhappy. My instincts don't lie. Am I right, though?

GoodFaith:
"TYPICAL EVIL NIGERIAN MEN! Apart from few most of you are demons."
do you have issue with your father
do you have brothers?

Oh, you opened my profile. Here I was going softly thinking I was chatting with someone that has small sense but I see you are a nonentity.

P.S. My father and brothers are awesome.

GoodFaith:
If the interest of the child is paramount
let the father be father
the past is the past

Of course, the past is past, so why is uncle writing all that bull crap on social media. Okay, the baby mama sees it, what next....

Boyooosa:
You are such a lousy and spoilt brat. I don't like it that u came from the part I came from, it's quite disheartening but who am I to challenge God's doing?
I thank God for you that u even have access to internet, how would you have coped with ur touchy and rattled brain? Instead of you to learn from other people's story, you are there hiding behind the keyboard to showcase how much lonely you are. Aunty, you can't see a good suitor if you continue this way (I tells you). Stop now! My kobo!
Females are kinda good gender to be with but ur specie is kind of a danger to a reasonable man, even the last one that came. Check ur self sis!

Hahahahahahahahaha! E pain am!
Uncle GO AND KILL YOURSELF.
Shebi I said you have skoinskoin. What business do I have with a low life scoundrel suffering from a degenerating mental problem like you that you would imagine we are from the same "part"?

All what you have been typing has been off point and senseless and I am here hoping I am not going back and forth with a yabaleft refugee.

"Challenge God, suitor, last one that came..." Like seriously?


Your craze tie wrapper!

GoodFaith:
They are not married
people that get married sometime running into this problem
90% of unplanned pregnancy have lot of issue
U need to seat back and look at the best interest of the daughter
They both now have their individual life

Huhn! You lost me here. Who said they were married. Who said this kind of issues don't come up. Who said I don't agree that the best interest of the child is paramount.

You should be telling that last point you made to the guy who brought his daughter's issue on social media just to score a cheap point which is even an insensible point.

She did well. A woman paying the rent from her savings is not a big deal, though. There is no where in the constitution where it is written that it is only the money of the husband that should be used for house rent... Just saying.

monex:
i did not say "was caring ..." i say that we cannot say for certain that he wasnt

what you did there is inductive not deductive.

yours had more weight than freshvine though. hers was more unlikely. I concede that

Oh well!

GoodFaith:
Because his parents didn't know doesn't mean he was not support his daughter
He must have had a good relationship with the Little girl for daughter wanting to be with him

Which daughter or child doesn't want to be with her dad whom she hardly sees. If the dad was the one she was with right from when she was born, and the mum only comes around once in a while like he said with biscuit and sweets, she will also innocently want her mum. I thought you ought to understand that kind of psychology without me spelling it out.

monex:
just so you know, both you and freshvine did the same thing: you both made assumptions on incomplete information using your inherent/residual bias.

This was the information: "As a broke college student I told her I’m not ready for anything extra now other than graduating and getting my life together. So it was tough"

you assumed he left her to suffer and go through pregnancy and childbirth alone
while freshvine assumed extra meant marriage

For someone who told us he "booked tickets" just so he can see her as if booking tickets is such an achievement in the child's life, he definitely would have added that he took care of the baby.
Same person whose own PARENTS had no idea they had a grand child for TWO WHOLE YEARS ASIDES THE NINE MONTHS PREGNANCY is the one you say was caring for mother and child? There is something called deductive intelligence. You can deduce intelligently from a part to form a whole.

Boyooosa:
Left to me, I can handle you... I can help you restore your factory setting and its been reflected tru the emboldened.
So you knew this when you mentioned that the guy abandoned her blah blah... I am educating you that such situation would have been followed by alot of things not revealed here.
Thank God you even ran quickly to the valid point raised by other reasonable peep that condemns the act of discussing such issue in a public dormaun which I also condemn. But critically, this story would have blessed a million guys this morning cos of the emotions that follow the story if digested positively:
1, it cautions not to go into casuals when u r not ready
2, it also encourages young men (baby daddies) to charge themselves into full responsibility of the lives they have created and probably establish another good home.
3, it can also guide other dudes in the same position now, on how to go about recovery or reconciliation in such situation.
4. Being a lovely father is the best thing that can ever happen to a man after being a good husband.
All these learnt in one uniquely summarised story is a blessing to those who read with broad mind and not the ones that read with mischievous and frudtrated hearts, always ready to pick offence and get frustrated in every piece done by happy children of God. He felt accomplished having hope of getting her jewel back, u dey there dey frustrate.
Here in my place, we don't kill joy! We even get creative when people celebrate!
And ur 'shading', everyone is not like u that fights herself after all efforts to fight everybody remain futile; the tone of that piece doesn't reflect shading or what did u call it, but pure sound of victory and hope.

What da flying fccuk!
Uncle, are you sure you are mentally okay?! :

I say they both made a mistake by having unprotected sex when they aren't ready to have kids and you go on to write all this plenty jargons.

Just go and take your meds or smoke your weed and sleep. Sincerely ( and this is not me entertaining myself on nairaland to while away time ) I from the bottom of my heart think you have skoinskoin!

Boyooosa:
I still insist that u can only be fixed when u start relating with people, either known or strangers, with dignified representation of yourself...this is highly poor.
I don't know if you had similar experience when you were still young or someone close to you did but wisdom should communicate to you (if u allow it anyway) that they both had secx DAT led to the pregnancy. As the boy was foolish to have engaged in such act, so was the Lady, so none should be treated like an hero/one in this situation and both should be due for whatever situation they faced as an outcome of their indulgence. Have that firstly, at the back of ur feeble mind.
Then, practically, the best thing for any reasonable man in his shoes was to firstly sort out what will cater for the family peradventure they form a union. Even if they didn't get over it, the only thing that can be reasonable for the man is for him to take care of the basics according to his capability and capacity.
Now, we can't say precisely may be the guy abandoned her because he did not mention that but the girl is not seen to claim that she never wanted an irresponsible (then) 'boy' to father her child.
A lot of things that are not yet revealed here have happened BTW them and during that trying period, so you can't use you miniature mind to judge the guy forgetting the fact they can still come together as couple. After all, they are not as stranded as you are .

The issue with you is that you are quite unintelligent. You are so biased and unreasonable that you are cooking up ludicrous stories to add to what was presented.


You lack basic emotional intelligence that you can't tell that this is not about heroism or no heroism.

Read this slowly.... Everyone knows they both made a mistake. Everyone knows they could have supported EACH OTHER and gone through the storm together. Everyone knows he was having none if it and hid it from his family for two years. Everyone knows he is now ready to be a good dad. Asides you that is daft, every other person agrees to all the above.

The bone of contention however is that the immature guy has BROUGHT IT TO SOCIAL MEDIA and made it seem as though he is the hero. Hence the backlash. He even used the baby in all of this.

You are too d.umb to understand the larger picture.

What do you even mean by stranded? Are you well at all.

Boyooosa:
Being single @29 is not a total lost hope my dear...
The guy summarised the story and detail might put light in the whole situation which we are not ready to even dig out for now until 'the other part' of the story comes up.
MW, remarking by his text, they both made the mistake of early pregnancy. So they ought to bear the brunt together. He did not mention that he abandoned her at any point in time but needed to fix the basic part of his life so as to be responsible for both the mother and the kid, even himself. No evidence that he left her to suffer but in your own African assumption and personal judgmental opinion.
According to the available information here, I think it was too early for a young mother to move on within two years of birthing, more so, the guy has not denied her nor the child. I think she just took advantage of the broke status of the guy to shift the responsible to another person she felt might be able to help financially.
She might still need to review that decision if she finds out that that guy has a good heart, well, I hope it will not be too late.

So much stupidity in a single post. Firstly, stupidity made you reason that 29 there means age and even if it did that this is 2018 and marriage is no longer used to shame people. Stupidity made you reason I was single or married. Stupidity made you not infer logically that he didn't want ANYTHING to do with the child whom he inferred was a distraction to him until he was done with school forgetting that his girlfriend was also in school.
Stupidity is saying a woman shouldn't have a relationship two years after having a child. Stupidity is saying she "took advantage of a broke guy" as it relates to to the story. Stupidity is you not realising that now they have settled the issue, he didn't need to start shading the woman on social media and painting himself the angel. Stupidity is you not realising that he shouldn't have said the 4 year child chose him knowing fully well that even if by a LONG STRETCH they go to court and the case is not thrown out, the child will be seen as too young to make that decision for the court.
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After all said and done, you are just a stupendous imp.

freshvine:
i aint a feminist. i am too rational to engage in gender war and maturity makes me understand that i am equal to men. fighting men expose our weakness and inequality.

i am a mother to a men and married to a man. symbiotic relationship.

Who says you are. I ain't either so where is that coming from. You have been quoting me upandan for saying it as it is because you insist the lady is the monster even when the truth is hitting you in the face. Women like you always want to be all cheerie and popsicles just to pander to the opposite sex. I fear your kind.

freshvine:
read paragraph 5 of op.
custody battle started 3 weeks after kid was born and lasted for 4 years. that's mean he man up but baby mama wanted something more but he chosed his daughter and career above her desire.

Huhn?! Madam, where did you read that?
She had the baby THREE WEEKS TO GRADUATION. That is the ONLY time three weeks was mentioned. Biko, are you reading yours upside down?
Who fights for custody to a three weeks old baby that is still breastfeeding when it is not a peculiar circumstance? THINK.

adorable29:
Naaaa. They disappoint every damn time. They seem scared of the large percentage of guys on this platform or don't want their "market and DM value" to reduce so they hide and kiss the ass.sses of nairaland guys and never defend their gender. Instead they even join to condemn based on wife material bullcrap.
I see through them.

Look at this one below who quoted me

freshvine:
the "extra" means he wasn't ready for marriage but wanted to be in his child life. the baby mama moved on quickly and started frustrating him from what he had dream of doing.

Ugosample:
I was expecting this

Nairaland females never disappoint

Naaaa. They disappoint every damn time. They seem scared of the large percentage of guys on this platform or don't want their "market and DM value" to reduce so they hide and kiss the ass.sses of nairaland guys and never defend their gender. Instead they even join to condemn based on wife material bullcrap.
I see through them.

freshvine:
the "extra" means he wasn't ready for marriage but wanted to be in his child life. the baby mama moved on quickly and started frustrating him from what he had dream of doing.

It is too early for me to be faced with his kind of IQ.
Madam, where did "extra" and marriage come in contact in this story. You think this is Africa Magic where impregnating a girl automatically means marrying her.

motherfucker:
let me educate u.


First, admit you are ignorant like many Nigerians.

Secondly, the marijuana plant is called miracle plant for a reason. You know why? It can cure a lot of illness...

From cancer to epilepsy and many more.

Do your research and that is why it is hard for the smokers to fall sick.

What makes people high when they smoke it is THC content in it, which can be removed.

The west know what they are doing and I am in support of it.

Abegi let me hear word!

Yen yen yen yen bullllls.hiiiit!!!!


How many of you weed smokers smoke it BECAUSE you don't want to have cancer and to cure epilepsy. Miracle plant kee you there. What happened to our local bitter leaf, moringa leaf, aloe vera and the many many many too numerous to mention miracle plants we have in our home land if INDEED it is for health purposes.

You, the Canadian kids and 99% of those who take it do so TO GET HIGHHHH so spare me that bull.crap of health blablabla.


Their is also cry for cocaine legalisation in America because it is not regulated and controlled yet so many people in the US get access to it in secret making the US loose billions in dollars and the kids hiding and having overdose which is killing them in large numbers. That is why even though it is a killer, it will make a tiny bit of minuscule sense to bring it to the open by legalizing it like Canada has done with Igbo weed.

Same argument is being made about induced abortion. The act is BAD but legalizing it will mean our young girls will stop dying in large numbers from complications caused by quackery as they do it hush hush in illegal places.

The thinking behind Canada legalizing it is not your warped health logic, you hear.


Talking about ignorance, you are the ignorant one, niccur.

"As a broke college student I told her I’m not ready for anything extra now other than graduating and getting my life together. So it was tough"

You left her to suffer and go through it alone because YOU wanted to get your life together. Your own family not even having any idea for two years goes to show where you placed the baby in your "untogether" life. Typical and selfish. Shebi her own life wasn't worth "getting together" especially as she was the one going to go through the major pains of pregnancy and childbirth. No wonder she treated you that way.

Now you are ready to be in your child's life, it is a good thing and just enjoy the baby you initially abandoned but quit making it seem as though you were the angel and your ex the devil. There are two sides to a story.