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vedah:
Cc Afrosamurai.

If my husband is cheating and I'm not bothered at all, it definitely means I'm enjoying a better diick somewhere.

Oh really. How revealing...

TheSonOfMark:
Joe! Sure it works for you.

I'm disciplining myself to keep the vows (the emotional contract) when I get bounded legally with my future better half.

I just want my daughters to adore me as much as I'd love them when I have them 'cause they never seen me hurt their mum - my wife - emotionally (by cheating) or physically (by assaulting).

I want my daughters to actually believe men can stay faithful 'cause their father does same to their mum.

Easier said/opined than practised? Hell yeah! But one has to start practising somewhere, with someone.

Indeed, but practice doesn't always make perfect. Lol.

Timelezz:
When I found out I had few faults and sexual rascality was one of them, I resigned my striving to the fact that the body of a woman remains the greatest architectural wonders of creation.

And the soft curves and yansh of a woman convinced me more that there's indeed God more than any flamboyant pastor has ever done.

Aye my good man. Blessed be the hands that trained you, and be cursed be the lips that curse you.

Brother, it's no doubt I love women, and better still, I love to lose myself inside them so much I cherish it like the very air I breathe.

God indeed is great. He perfected and showed His greatness when he created the woman. Sometimes I even wonder the time it took him to design a woman's flower, her curves, ass and boobs.

Shortyy:
LMAO Hell No. Bye.

Oui. Come back... don't go...

TheSonOfMark:
There's no such thing as predestination. There's a reason why humans were given the power of choice.
Choices determine your fate. If predestination were real, the power of choice would have been taken.

It's your choice to cheat or not. You are a dog or he-goat rules purely by instincts; in this case, sexual impulses that must be satisfied at costs.

It's your choice to stick to the terms of the emotional contract with your woman. It's your choice to fight the alluring, tempting invitations by other women or give in to them.

Kay ma man. You know I always love to give in to them.

One shouldn't deny his loins the pleasure to be quenched by an alluring and enticing feeling as slippery as the passage way of a well rounded, curved and blessed lass.

It's always too nice to tell that lil man, "down boy" whenever he wants to show he has a mind of his own.

Let the fiery Phoenix be quenched and quelled by the river of eternal lust and love as embedded between the thighs of a beautiful lass.

LOL.

Shortyy:
LOL congrats then. I love money too.

Thanks. Now we know we have something in common. Let's seek common ground let's see how we can benefit each other, money wise, that is.

Shortyy:
Hold on, Are you a cheat? LMAO

I'm afraid I'm not. I'm a realist. I tell it as it is. I love women, I love to fuck_ better of it all, I LOVE MONEY.

Shortyy:
What question? There's no one in hell I'll condone cheating, no way. I'll be better off on my own, than staying with a STD, HIV infested human.

Not all cheating men are infected with STD's. Hope you know this...

Shortyy:
Oh really? wow wow wow. If you want to cheat, fine go and cheat, but once you're back from your cheating, it's over. You can go and stay with whoever you cheated me with. You both deserve each other.

LOL. Now this response of yours still doesn't answer my question.

Shortyy:
A caring and loving man. Is that so much?

It's vague. A cheating man can also be caring and loving.

vedah:
That makes me a good wife, giving him the respect in times of trouble. At least, I'm not using his present situation to ridicule him. I know its hard to take actions. If my husband cheats, depending on the circumstances, I may likely stick to the marriage.

You're wise.

Ishilove:


Although I think this kind of 'smear' tactic will only work in societies that are not influenced by 'stomach infrastructure'

You can say that again.

Shortyy:
Well if you cheat on me, I leave you. who you epp? Go on and have your fun with those girls that want something from you.

I see. So what do you want from a man? You've made it clear you don't need his cheddah and masculine presence.

vedah:
None. But I'll prefer 2.
I'm not an invalid, and if he's not ready to work, then there's a problem. What if he's jobless? I should prefer a cheating husband to a husband with a vision?
Pardon my euphemism, it was very necessary.

What about you working if he's jobless and you giving him the respect he deserve?

You should know who you prefer. I'm not the one to tell you. Like I said, it's easy to talk but very hard to take action. This I know.

VolTOxic:
There are two things you need to know.

Firstly, you need to know the lioness do the hunting.
She takes care of herself. The lion doesn't do shìt.

Secondly, you'll forever remain dumb and stupìd as long as you believe people shouldn't be bothered by cheating. This is a FACT.

Damn. I honestly pray this rambunctious, calamitous, infractionable spirit of stupidìty will vacate your life.

Oh shut it and stop spewing words bigger than your little brain, you shallow well of foolish thoughts

Yes, the lioness do the hunting, that's to tell you because she's self sufficient, because she can provide for herself, because she doesn't need the lion to survive, that's why she's not bothered by what he does... ya dig?

Now listen good you minuscule ignorant gnome. You're too weak to learn, too lazy to think, that's why you believe churning out words can score you points when Infact it makes you sound dumber than a roasted arachnid.

Ignorant mentally deficient sh1t like you should know and understand what it really means to be deep and have understanding.

You unedifying twerp.

Shortyy:
Lmao so he'll have to cheat to provide food? That's a lazy husband if you ask me. Don't be like them

Oh he's lazy now?! I see. Never forget that men who cheat can afford to do so because they can afford it and the girls who they cheat with want something from them.

vedah:
Of cause I'll be bothered about it. I can't believe we're arguing this. If I'm not bothered, then I'm definitely CHEATING.

unless, my husband is cool with that too.

So tell me, which would bother you more:

1. Your husband cheats.

2. Your husband can't feed you and the kids?

Shortyy:
They are both wrong. Nothing like two different things. Your wife will obviously confront you when she finds out you're cheating on her, and your kids will be there watching.
How the hell do you think they will feel?
Like oh wow, Dad is the man he's cheating on mum? please Don't tell me to calm down.

How will you feel if your husband doesn't cheat, yet he can't provide food on your table?

vedah:
We're getting there.

Even my Dad cheated on my mum and she stayed. I'll continue to respect her cos she did. And mind you, she did it for us. The kids.

What I'm saying is, its wrong, the society we live in is making it right. And sweety, two wrongs can't make a right. If my husband cheats, and sees nothing wrong with it, then there's a problem. He should know its wrong. I'm not saying we should leave the marriage because it may even be the woman's fault that the guy cheated in the first place.
But what is wrong is wrong.

I'm not saying it is right to cheat, don't get me wrong. What I'm saying is "why bother yourself about it".

royalmoron:
. Afrosamu rai is it possible for a man to transfer STD to his children through his wife?

It's possible he can transfer it, and it's also possible he can't.

In life, there's more than two side to every story/thing.

dollyjoy:
There is no woman who won't be bothered about her husband infidelity. Quite the argument already!!!

How do you know this? Are you professor X that you can read the minds of women?

Kindly share how you came about this finding of yours, I want to learn, Joy.

vedah:
I'll bother. I'm not a slave I'm his wife. Of cause I'll be bothered when my husband starts cheating on me. If I'm not, that makes me a bad wife that condones cheating.

Nope! It makes you a strong wife who endures. Strength, that is real strength is shown in perseverance.

If your husband cheats on you, will you bother to even ask him why he cheated in the place? Or just go into a rage and storm out of the house?

The OP used Joke Silver as a point of reference, she jumped to the conclusion that Olu Jacobs doesn't cheat. But hey, what if he cheated in the past? What if he cheated when social media isn't the 'in thing'? And Joke Silver, like the good wife, asked him why he did it, got her answer and kept it away from people? Now that perseverance.

Even everyone knows Tubaba cheats. Now why isn't Annie Idibia shouting and crying over it like a new born babe deprived of breast milk?

vedah:
Because the other thread favours men, that's why they're rejoicing shining their teeth.
My dear, I'm not going to marry a man with the mentality that, later in our marriage he'll get tired of me and cheat and I'll try beyond my powers to avoid that. I'll be his personal "olosho", I'll even invent my own bedmatics, treat you like a king. And while doing all these its cool to have a twisted mindset that, "its in his DNA to cheat"? if its in his DNA then he shouldn't get married and be committed to one woman. A lot happens when you make your vow, unless if those vows mean nothing to you. If your husband is cheating and you see it as the norm, tomorrow he'll resort to domestic violence. I hope that one too is normal because you'll lose your worth. If you know your husband is promiscuous in nature, then help him, make him a better person, pray for him. Don't just sit down like an invalid with a bull crap mentality that its normal because "he's just doing what all men do".

LADIES DONT SETTLE FOR LESS.

Stop thinking about sex in marriages, it narrows your line of thought.

A man who wants to cheat on you will cheat on you, be him a reverend father or a monk.

There's more to marriage beside cheating. If you truly know why you got married to that man in the first place, you will never bother your head if he cheat on you.

Mizk:
i used a lesser animal to show that we humans should be able to do more than that and lions aren't faithful to one partner, which is the point am trying to prove, that we should be able to stay faithful to one partner, using a lion contrast the message am trying to pass, you dweeb

Aren't there other animals you could have used?

Anyway, your message is narrow minded and a full time simpeton like you who still feed off stipend from her parents can an will never see the big picture.

When you start earning a living, you'll know there are better things in life and marriage than worrying over cheating.

You're dismissed, you foolish child.

VolTOxic:
It's either you are irrecoverably dull or...
You have a serious comprehension problem.

But nevertheless, I'll explain.

See, this thread is all about staying faithful.

She wants people to stay true to their partners just like Penguins because naturally they “penguins” stick to a single mate for life unlike some people or “Lions”.

And it's either you're inexplicably dumb, or you're irrefutable docile.

Never the less, lemme take out time to thrill you into the reservoir of deep reasoning.

Lions stick more together than Penguins, why, cos they know they stand strong together.

The lioness never bothers herself if the lion shag another lioness, cos she knows he (the lion) takes good care of her.

So, the joy of a marriage is based on understanding of the couple involve. It breeds happiness and joy. Things like cheating and what have you only bother petty minds, never a great mind.

If you read the news of the NURTW dude who impregnated another woman, and his wife accepted it, you'll understand why the lioness know a Lion will always be a lion and there's absolutely nothing she can do about it. So, why give yourself headache?

Shortyy:
My sister you get time o. I just read the bullshit that girl posted yesterday and SMH. It's obvious whoever wrote the nonsense has a very low self esteem. I'll never settle for less, My dear ladies don't ever settle for less. We all deserve the best. As long as you treat him right, if he doesn't reciprocate, Leave his ass.

Easier said than done.

vedah:
Its a beautiful counter thread

We can't embrace cheating. It is morally wrong.

No one is telling you to embrace it, just be truthful to yourself.

You know, it's very easy to talk and very hard to take action. Don't be surprised many of the girls who say they'll leave the relationship if their boyfriend or husband cheat are still very young. Probably in their teens or early twenties.

So, by the time they spend almost their entire life waiting for Mr-I-Don't-Cheat, they'll learn to look the other way.

Mizk:
its not for dull minds

Well, If this thread isn't for dull minds, I wonder why you used a 'lesser animal' like the Penguin to buttress your point?

It seem you forget that in this world today, lesser animals are normally trampled on, oppressed and enslaved.

Now I wonder why you didn't use the lion, that is the King of The Jungle as a lucid example. No offence, you just inexplicably adhered to the fact that you think small.

LMFAO!