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Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

toyomars:
Still accepting CVs

Cheapgadget:
Prof. Oludare Ogunlana wrote:

Our boys whom we sent to the Universities to study are now living in hotels doing Yahoo, defrauding people.

They are not studying. They are sorting. Bribing lecturers for pass.

They only come into the campus with convoy once in a while to show off. Guess what?

Some lecturers are even worshipping them.

Our teenage sons are now driving Benz in the university. They are now the latest boys in campus.

The houses our sons are living in the university are now flats and duplexes as against the self-contained we used to know.

Well furnished and more beautiful compare to room of some state governors.

Our sons are all married in the university but single at home.

Girls crawl around them... living with them, cooking for them, doing all sort of things with them...

These girls are our daughters whom we sent to the university to study.

They are in every clubs and hotels....they are in every front cars, fastening seatbelt, snapping and moving their lips like DOGS.

My recent research in Nigerian universities opened my eyes to the recent ugly reality. I wept for the future.

These are teenagers, not even adults.
Guess what?

We still see them as children who know nothing.

I don't want to mention names of hotels in IBADAN, LAGOS, IJEBU ODE, ABEOKUTA, AKURE, EKITI STATE etc you will see your sons and daughters. They have been living there for months.

Nobody is going to school. Who school help? Don't you get it?

Those teenagers— boys and girls are abusing drugs. Not just igbo but cocaine and tramadols.

I have boarded a vehicle with a young girl in AGO IWOYE who had some crack (cocaine) in her purse.

Because she's too beautiful, police that stopped us to search didn't search her but searched us all.

On the way, she brought it out, gently fix some into her nose and threw the little remaining substance through the window.

I remained deaf and dumb until I got to my destination and paused, she paused; both of us paused.

Who will save this generation who painfully are our tomorrow.....

*AND WE SADLY KEEP QUITE!*

*EKUN OLA!*

Beremx:
Sign of dehydration. Please give him water to drink everyday. Avoid giving him strong antibiotics to avoid stories that touches the heart. I am talking from experience.

KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.

Vaughanlanrewaj:
I was patiently reading until my eyes strayed to the author and I realised it is 'audio' court report on this criminal case as usual. Innosson will be writing 'their own' interpretation of the issue, playing to the gallery and carefully avoiding the forgery case against their principal,Mr 'Innocent' caught in the web of alleged forgery and theft .

Simple question; if the original documents used to bring in the goods in the name of GTB till date is still with GTB, what documents did you use to clear the goods you took loan from GTB to buy?

Why should innosson accomplices in the shipping company alone be punished for theft and forgery?

I know GTB as usual will not respond citing respect for the judicial process.

The courts should settle this issue. It is taking way too long.

Ordinary Nigerians are daily being sent to jail for even lighter offences, how this one simple case of forgery is taking years to resolve still remains a mystery and sign of how inept and unfair our justice system is.A thief is a thief, whether big or small. This is completely condemnable abeg.

The courts have settled the issue. Let Gtbank pay the judgement debt. It's that simple.

Bakin3:
We construct Bio (Modern Sockaway)

The advantages of Bio Digester toilet are as follows:
No Dislodging of Human Waste
It's eco-friendly
No foul smell
Needs only a small space
Suitable for any soil condition
No contamination of groundwater etc

Newman20:
#Endchurch

#Endmentalslavery

Iogobenz:
At some point we realise life isn't all about pleasing women.

childofGod29:
If you believe and type Amen

childofGod29:
If you believe and type Amen

CDMHELPDESK007:
servantofGod22:
I will praise thee, O LORD, with my whole heart; I will shew forth all thy marvellous works. --
Psalms 9:1


Thank you Jesus, thank you Jesus.

At every one who have been part of this thread, your miracle will not pass you by in Jesus name.

Whatever that has not been working before, from tonight, they will begin to work in Jesus name.

I am praying for somebody reading this, that every evil dream from the pit of hell that the devil is using to cage your blessing you will not see them no more in Jesus name.

This year will be a year you will remember as a year God answered you, in Jesus name.

Your destiny helpers will have not choice but to help you in Jesus name

I pray that every promise and fail in your life will end this week in Jesus name.

I command the devil to let go of all your prosperity, breakthrough, children, husband, etc in Jesus name.

Any power that battled your parents and still want to battle with you will catch fire in Jesus name.

So shall it be, in Jesus name.

childofGod29:
If you believe and type Amen