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Breaking up is the saddest ending of any relationship. No one wants it to happen and it can also leave you feeling confused and shocked. This is because we feel rejected. We feel betrayed. Self doubt along with every possible human emotion will come to the surface after a break up.

One of the worst parts about a break up is when the thought “Could I have prevented this break up?” creeps into your mind. If you've ever experienced a break up before you know you're going to go through the “I should have done this” and the “ I wish I wouldn't have done that” phase.

People who do break up, under certain circumstances, can get back together again. However, its best to try to prevent a break up from happening. If you think your relationship may be in peril, you need to act quickly.

Thus, it is essential for you to be aware on the warning signs of a breakup so that you can have enough time to prepare yourself. You can take steps to try to prevent anything you don't want to happen from occurring. If you recognize warning signs of a break up, you stand a better chance of being able to prevent the break up from happening.

Here are some of the most common warning signs of a breakup:


1. Avoidance – This is the most obvious sign of a possible breakup. Your partner tends to avoid you as well as your phone calls. In fact, if it seems that partner would rather spend time with other people than you, then your relationship could be in trouble. For example, if your partner spent ...Continue Reading @. http://cosbenet.com/3-bad-warning-signs-that-signifies-he-wants-to-breakup-with-you-beware

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True. But ''just a term''?

Evaberry:
it is not by force to define a relationship
.
your happiness is all that matter

relationship is really just a term

O.Y.O.

ediama:
And if tomorrow never comes?

true word

fridayabdullahi:
Guy notin like miss perfect!!! If u wan marry go marry joor!!!

It must be really tough. Do you think you are just a victim of bad luck and that’s the reason Ms. Perfect hasn’t appeared in your life yet? Or have you decided that maybe Ms. Perfect only exists on movie screens and not out here in the real world? BINGO! You’ve got it. She doesn’t exist anywhere except in your imagination and on movie screens.

The truth of the matter is that the reason Ms. Perfect hasn't appeared has nothing to do with your luck, good or bad, but everything to do with you and the fact that you are busy looking for a person that doesn't exist! You can't date with your eyes closed and some impossible dream in your head. You'll get so caught up in this whole exercise of dating that you forget to look for the qualities you seek! You haven't met the person of your dreams because you aren't looking for the things that will make them close enough to perfect for you.

You are so confident that every woman you have met could not give you what you wanted. But what was it that you wanted in the first place? Once you are sure of what you want, you will know exactly what to look for in your woman. What are the qualities that you feel are necessary in a person? What are the attributes you are willing to make a compromise on? Have you thought about ...Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/so-you-are-actually-waiting-to-meet-miss-perfect-before-you-get-married

Are you tired of your guy but don’t know how to move on without breaking his heart? This article is for you then. It will tell you how to break up with your boyfriend.

1. First of all, you should send your boyfriend signals ahead of time. Don’t just drop it on him all of a sudden. Ask him questions like “Are you sure you want to be together?” and “Do you find other girls attractive?” Let him know that there are other girls who would be happy to date him even if you are no longer available for him.

2. Point out when girls flirt with him. If you know someone who seems to have a crush on him, let him know. Tell him that he’s the kind of guy that any girl would be lucky to have as a boyfriend. Basically, start preparing him for the world after you.

3.The next step on how to break up with your boyfriend is to find a time and place to do it. There are places that are really bad. For instance, never break up when one of you is driving a car. That could be dangerous!
Also, don’t break up with him after some “dramatic event.” For instance, don’t give him ...Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/8-ways-to-breakup-with-your-boyfriend-without-breaking-his-heart-dont-say-i-told-you-so

No one likes to be rejected. This is especially true for women.. One form of rejection is being dumped like a bad habit by the person whom you really love or are in a relationship with. Being dumped is never fun. It can be the source of a great deal of pain, confusion, anger, and hurt.

There was a time when women were the ones who did the vast majority of dumping. However, this certainly isn't true anymore. Men, increasingly, are dumping women. As a woman, who has been dumped, it is possible that you may not fully understand the motives behind his actions. Men are not quite as complex as women, when it comes to these sorts of things. This article was written to help you find some of the answers to the question of “why men dump women?”

Below are the top three reasons why men dump women:

1. Lack of Communication

You will agree with me that communication is very important in every relationship. A lack of communication would definitely mean the end of a relationship. Hence, it is often cited as one of the top reasons why men break up with the woman they are with.

2. Women Becoming Demanding

Another reason why women are dumped by men is because as time goes by, they become more and more demanding. Although women try to keep their man by many ways possible, Women, Western women in particular, have a tendency to try to control ...Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/top-3-reasons-he-may-want-to-or-have-dumped-you

If you are asking, should you define the relationship?, the answer is probably yes. When two people start dating, they usually continue to date other people as well. It is only over time that they decide to be mutually exclusive. Sometimes this just happens. He may introduce you to his friends as his girlfriend or his partner. Other times it may take one partner to make the first move and ask for the relationship to be defined.

It is not an easy move to make as you risk rejection and nobody likes to be rejected. But the other side of the coin is that it just isn't possible to become serious about one another when you are still seeing other people on the side. You need to give your relationship a chance to deepen, develop and grow. It is only by concentrating on each other that you can decide over time whether you two do indeed have a long-term future together.

So when should you make this move? The answer depends on ...Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/should-we-just-remain-friends-or-go-to-the-next-level-when-is-the-right-time-to-define-our-relationship

lol!!! just some!

TonieLee:
Can't I hv all?

lol

Goodlyhrt:
Guys want love buh girls will turn it into a game of chess

Jealousy is a common emotion throughout the world. It is especially predominant in relationships. Nearly all people that are involved in a relationship will have some feelings of jealousy at some point in their relationship. This is a natural emotion for humans. It is a part of our nature.

As you know, jealousy can have many effects on a relationship. Some people have issues with extreme jealousy. This is a very unhealthy characteristic for a relationship. A person that is extremely jealous can harm or even destroy their relationship. People that have issues with jealousy are much more likely to be suspicious of their partner. There will be a major trust issue between the people that are involved in the relationship.

The person that has to deal with the jealous partner often gets fed up with dealing with the continuous outbursts, questioning, and lack of trust from their partner. This will lead to chaos and oftentimes the demise of the relationship.

As a rethink though, a small amount of jealousy can actually be healthy and can help a relationship. Knowing that your partner cares so deeply for you can help to strengthen a relationship. People know that they are desired and wanted.

They know that they do not have to worry about their partner not wanting them or that they are not adequate or meeting the needs of their partner. If you are in a relationship with someone that shows signs of jealousy now and then, chances are this is not a problem in your relationship. It often goes both ways. At some point in time, both partners will be ...Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/what-can-jealousy-in-relationships-do-to-your-relationship-kill-or-promote-it

lol !!! Did someone close to me just say ''her Big A.S.S.'' No nah!!!

dingbang:
Understanding

For most people, it’s important to have a really great relationship in their lives. This relationship needs to be solid as well as meaningful if it’s going to help you stay happy and successful. It’s this connection with that special someone who gives you comfort when you need it, intellectual and mental stimulation when you want it, and the return of the love that you offer. A good relationship lets you have your needs met and lets you meet the needs of your partner.

That’s why it’s so important that you have a nurturing relationship in your life. It goes a long way to keeping you psychologically well. The way you interact with your partner can affect the amount of stress and anger you carry around with you. It can also affect how happy you are. It’s been proven that when you have a great relationship, the less likely you’ll be to develop depression.

Everyone needs someone special in their lives. When you develop a quality relationship, you feel prosperous. The more you branch out to connect with someone in a meaningful way, the happier you’ll be. However, it must be the type of relationship that’s right for you. It’s important to know what you’re looking for in a relationship. Therefore, you need to check what you want from your relationship.
Ask yourself some questions like:


What are your relationship goals? [color=#000000]...Continue Reading @[/color] http://cosbenet.com/what-are-you-looking-for-in-a-relationship-love-sex-money-luxury-house-wife-or-partner/

For most people, it’s important to have a really great relationship in their lives. This relationship needs to be solid as well as meaningful if it’s going to help you stay happy and successful. It’s this connection with that special someone who gives you comfort when you need it, intellectual and mental stimulation when you want it, and the return of the love that you offer. A good relationship lets you have your needs met and lets you meet the needs of your partner.

That’s why it’s so important that you have a nurturing relationship in your life. It goes a long way to keeping you psychologically well. The way you interact with your partner can affect the amount of stress and anger you carry around with you. It can also affect how happy you are. It’s been proven that when you have a great relationship, the less likely you’ll be to develop depression.

Everyone needs someone special in their lives. When you develop a quality relationship, you feel prosperous. The more you branch out to connect with someone in a meaningful way, the happier you’ll be. However, it must be the type of relationship that’s right for you. It’s important to know what you’re looking for in a relationship. Therefore, you need to check what you want from your relationship.
Ask yourself some questions like:


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whogoesthere:
Something very similar happened to me too, I have learnt alot and I'm encouraged by several posts here

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For real man! Abstinence is key. Don't reap where you didn't sow.Don't be a long troth.

Bibors:
Those who enjoy emotional infidelity keep accusing those enjoying physical infidelity until they go physical themselves and when they do that, the physical once now go emotional and kata kata bursts.

Avoid both emotional and physical infidelity and don't accuse your partner or be hard on your partner if you are involved in any just because your partner is keeping a blind eye to your acts.

lol!!! I tell you.

Dasuks:
really do not stand anywhere, you shouldn't either. Just don't personally date married ppl. Man, you dont want a scorned lover on ur trails. Life is too sweet and hopefully long. So no yeye activity that could jeopardize it. That being said as a guy I wouldn't be sniffing around a married lady.

Where do you now stand? whose fault is it now? The married once or the singles that crave for them?

Dasuks:
That it isnt too shocking. There's that whole Psych thing about desiring something that's seemingly in-demand. The fact that the man is relevant and interested/involved with another woman makes him sorta a hot commodity. There's a power rush/satisfaction in conquering an entity that's supposed to be relevant in his own and someone else's world. Something along those lines. In fact some men go a long way to appear 'taken' so as to play on this particular impulse. Was the girl successful in her strategy ?

Infidelity is a leading cause of failed relationships in the world today. Infidelity can take many forms. Simply put, however, infidelity is the violation of a set of rules that have been agreed upon by both people in an intimate relationship. This means that there is a very significant betrayal of trust and loss of faith due to the actions of the offending partner in the relationship. In most circumstances, infidelity is an act of a partner being unfaithful to their wife, husband, or lover. It can be sexual or non-sexual in nature.

In a close, intimate relationship, there are normally two distinct areas where infidelity occurs. These are physical intimacy or emotional intimacy. Infidelity does not revolve solely around sexual relations outside of the relationship. There are also issues with loss of trust, lying, betrayal, and even disloyalty.

Sexual infidelity is the act of having sexual relations with someone other than ones partner that they are committed to. In a marriage, sexual infidelity is known as adultery, an affair, or philandery. In interpersonal relationships that do not involve marriage, acts of infidelity are known as cheating. If a man’s wife commits adultery, the man is then referred to as ...Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/how-do-you-view-infidelity-in-marriage

I once knew a lady who told me she prefers dating married men and she does that a lot by then. Don't really know of now though.I looked at her but speechless.

Dasuks:
The game is to sold not told. Don't date any married women or men.
A flock of pussy come a dime a dozen but u couldn't pay me to Bleep the flock - BD( WISE MAN). Don't let boyish fantasies play you.

lol!!! There's nothing to fix. They all do it intentionally. Willful sin. They should just intentionally desist from it. Simple.

MrBrownJay1:
dating a married woman is WRONG, just as a married woman cheating is... the only way to solve such issue is to look at the root of the problem, and sadly both the man who accept to fukc these married women AND these cheating women, need their head fixed.

Does your husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend spend way too much time on the computer? If they do and if you do not know what they are doing, you may be wondering if your partner is having an online relationship. Unfortunately, online relationships are often viewed differently, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t be considered cheating.

When it comes to relationships that develop online, there are typically two sides to the story. The first side is that of the cheater or the individual carrying on the affair. If you ever catch your partner having an online relationship, they may claim that it isn’t really cheating. This is because sometimes a physical meeting never takes place. So, essentially, your partner has never kissed or had physical sex with the person at the other end of the computer.

The second side of the story, where online relationships are concerned, is the side of the husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend who catches their partner acting inappropriately online. For starters, it is important to know that many individuals nowadays don’t just talk online. There are social networking websites, dating websites, and other similar websites that make it easier for internet users to ...Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/cheating-part-4-are-online-relationships-really-cheating

By some estimates, as many as 15% of married women will have an affair at some point during their marriage. That works out to approximately 4.5 million women in the United States alone. What this means is that there is a real possibility that you will have a chance of dating married women at one time or another. Here are some things to think about before you decide whether to do it.

One of things men seem to like about dating married women is the physical passion that is often present. Perhaps the woman isn't being satisfied, and has now turned to you to fulfill her needs. This may be great for a few nights of lustful passion, but there won't be any real emotional attachment. Some guys love the idea of all the romance without any of the feelings, but what they don't realize is that the physical is so much better when true feelings are being shared.

"We're getting a divorce." There happen to be a guy who has dated a married woman for more than ten years now, and she is still telling him that she and her husband are on the verge of getting a divorce. The papers have been filled, not filed, misplaced, refiled, almost finalized, retracted, but they are still ...Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/is-dating-a-married-woman-a-good-idea-be-warned

If you broke up with your boyfriend and you are now convinced that it was a mistake, you may be wondering just what to say to an ex boyfriend to make everything right again. It may not be easy, he will need time to get over his hurt and learn to trust you again, but it can be done.

The first thing you should do is trying to explain why you felt you had to break up with him. Hopefully you had a pretty good reason, such as the two of you were always fighting. A sincere apology over the pain you caused him is in order too. The last thing you want to do is sound desperate or confrontational. Keep calm and be respectful.

If the reason you broke up with him was because you were interested in someone else and that didn't work out, you will have your work cut out for you. Your ex won't want to be your ...Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/so-you-just-realized-your-breaking-up-with-him-was-a-mistake-hmm-lover-girl/

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Rorachy:
Sometimes you try to repair it instead of throwing it away unless you are left with no options.

Yes.That's the best. So if it's not working you try to repair it or just move on. No guilt of you trying to use anyone afterwards. you know it's not your fault. And lastly, they know you are serious from the onset and trying any shit will be to their detriment, either the guy or the girl. It goes both ways.

pressplay411:
I concur, it's difficult but some times necessary.
Do you then agree with then otion there should be no dating unless the relationship is intended to culminate in marriage?
Meaning you should be able to deal with the challenges you confront in the relationship without resorting to a break up?

Sorry man! Sometimes we are just ''caught between the devil and the deep blue sea.'' Not your fault though that you even went back. It shows you are a serious man for a serious relationship. Just move on bro.

akaahs:
Damn, opps just describe my last relationship as in, the tricks and behavioural changes in her are exactly but i was so dump to initiate the breakup until she did, the most st*p*t and funny of all i still go back to beg her several time but she didn't agree, i have to move on after coming to terms with reality that its over.

If you are thinking about moving on, break up is quite hard to do. Do you dread the conversation that you must have to tell your partner that the relationship is over? Or if it is your partner that is approaching you with the break up conversation you may try to distract him from the conversation to avoid it. But if a relationship is not working out anymore then there comes a time when you need to call it quit and move on.

This time is actually a good time to check your life and your relationship and see if there is anything that you can do to improve them. It is difficult to know how to handle a break up and sometimes it can be a clean breakup while other times it really isn't what you actually want. If you both sit down and talk about the relationship and what the problem is then perhaps you can work through the problems and save the relationship.

Break ups can actually be avoided if you can catch the problem in time. If you find out what it is in the relationship that is going wrong then you can nip the problem in the bud before it forces the relationship to end. You may even need to reach a point of ... Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/what-you-can-do-if-breaking-up-and-moving-on-is-very-hard-to-do

There is a sad reality that is happening to many people in our society today. We go on a date with someone. When we think that things are going great. We have had a wonderful time. After the date is over, we never hear from the other person again. We are left with a somewhat feelings of inadequacy, confusion, and frustration. We do not know why things did not work out or what the reasoning is, in turn this makes the situation even worse. We blame ourselves and wonder what we are doing wrong.

But one thing you should know is that you can find out on a first date how things are going and if there is a future for the relationship. There are kind of specific signs that you should watch out for. If you are able to spot these signs on a first date you will know what the future is going to bring.

You should pay attention to the body language of your date. See how they are reacting to you during conversations. This includes things such as eye contact. If a person is interested in you, they will look into your eyes while you are talking. Eyes are the key to a person’s soul. If you watch the eyes, you will soon find out what the person is thinking and how they are feeling about things.

1. IMITATING YOUR GESTURES

Mimicking or imitating your gestures is another part of body language that is very important. It will be done out of habit. It is not a conscious reaction, but occurs when you are doing something that your date finds attractive. The more your date is copying your actions and motions, the more interested they are in you. If a person is mimicking your actions or leaning towards you during a conversation, these are signs that the date is going well and is a success

2. HEAD NODDING

Head nodding or tilting while you are speaking are other signs to pay attention to. These signs mean that a person is interested in the conversation and what you are saying. If a person crosses their arms while you are talking, this is a negative sign and a warning flag. They are showing .... Continue Reading @ http://cosbenet.com/5-signs-that-can-tell-if-he-is-interested-in-you-for-a-relationship/

Nice comment man. The decision is entirely theirs. This is just a suggestion basically for unmarried persons, which may be, in most times, very difficult to carry out but sometimes the best thing to do.

pressplay411:
Some times one of the parties just can't seem to move on. Do you stay just to satisfy them or do you just leave them in the cold to dry?

Speaking in Tongues—Is It From God?

“I JUST don’t understand,” says Devon. “Each week at my church, many seem to get the holy spirit and miraculously speak in different languages. Some of them lead immoral lives. Meanwhile, I try to live in a morally upright way. Yet, as much as I pray for it, I never receive this gift of the spirit. How can that be?”

Gabriel likewise attends a church where people appear to receive holy spirit and speak in tongues. “What bothers me,” he explains, “is that during my prayers, others interrupt me with loud speech that neither I nor they understand. No one really benefits from this speech. Should not a gift of God’s spirit have some useful purpose?”

The experiences of Devon and Gabriel raise an intriguing question, Is speaking in tongues as done in some churches today really from God? To answer that question, it is helpful to examine the gift of miraculous speech among first-century Christians.

They “Started to Speak With Different Tongues”

In the Bible, we read of some men and women who were given power to speak languages that they had never learned. This first occurred on the day of Pentecost 33 C.E., a few weeks after the death of Jesus Christ. On that day in Jerusalem, some 120 disciples of Jesus “became filled with holy spirit and started to speak with different tongues.” Visitors from foreign lands “were bewildered, because each one heard them speaking in his own language.”—Acts 1:15; 2:1-6.

The Bible mentions other early followers of Jesus who had this remarkable ability. For example, empowered by holy spirit, the apostle Paul could miraculously speak in numerous tongues. (Acts 19:6; 1 Corinthians 12:10, 28; 14:18) But any such gift of God’s holy spirit should logically have a good purpose. So, what purpose did speaking in tongues serve in Bible times?

READ MORE @: https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2010735?q=speaking+in+different+tongue%3F&p=par#h=11

pressplay411:
This is part of the ambiguity of the bible that creates room for misinterpretation.
My deduction when bible said the apostles spoke in different tongues, it was referring to tongue meaning language. It clearly stated that foreigners were able to understand and identify the apostles who suddenly began to speak their ongue.
But trust 9ja, everything overdrive.